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I will try to keep this short and just give a jist of the situation...I am trying to help my mom find something for my 16 y/o brother.<br><br>
He just turned 16 in March...he has been kicked out of school for truancy-he should have been a sophomore, but because he never went he has about 2 credits. My mom is a single parent and we live 400 miles away so I am not able to help <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">...she works two jobs to get by and provide for herself and both of my younger brothers.<br>
She would leave work every day and drive him to school-it was walking distance away, but this way she could see that he actaully went....unfortuantely he would walk in the front, and walk out the back 20 minutes later.<br>
He was caught on school grounds smoking numerous times and received tickets...he was busted for possesion, got more tickets and court dates.<br>
My mom took him to court, they assigned him a community service of sorts...he never went, the court never followed up or informed my mom until 2 months later.<br><br>
He began taking off all the time from home...as soon as my mom left for work he would leave....he'd stroll in the door at 11pm or later, drunk or stoned.<br>
When my mom confronts him he becomes hostile, throws things, breaks things, screams, cries, etc.<br>
He has broken up the inside of her car, her house....once he disappeared for 2 1/2 days and she had no idea where he was. She follows the procedures, always calls the cops, reports the situation, but nothing ever comes it.<br><br>
This past week my mom went to her hiding place in her room where she tucks away a little cash each week, and discovered that it was all gone. He had taken every dime she had. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
We checked into some programs around the state that we thought could help, but the social worker said he has to be appointed there by the state and they don't usually do that. She was told to take him to court to be sentenced to detention (which is like jail), they set up the dates, and when they got there, his dad lied and said he was doing better, and he got out of that too. Other than that, he plays no part in my brother's life and refuses to lift a finger to help my mom out with him.<br><br>
Also, in february, for two months, my husband and I took him in here for a while, thinking maybe a change of scenery and getting him away from those "friends" would help...while he was here he stole from us, lied, snuck out when we were sleeping and repeatedly snuck on dh's pc and looked up porn sites.<br>
After 2 months we couldn't do it anymore, dh said no more.<br><br>
At this point my mom is really suffering...she cannot sleep, eat-she is stick thin, her hair is falling out like crazy from stress.<br><br>
We cannot find a program or place to send him that doesn't cost a small fortune, the state doesn't do a thing...<br><br>
I thought it was worth a try to see if ANYONE had ANY advice, thoughts or places to mention?<br>
I have been searching for days online and continue to hit dead ends.<br><br>
Any advice or help is appreciated. Thanks so much. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Addiction is such a horrible, destructive thing. It's particularly hard on teens--they don't have a fully-formed sense of identity, and the drug addiction can feel like a part of who they are. I wish I had great advice for you. I found this link to some <a href="http://www.soberrecovery.com/links/troubledteenwildernesscamps.html" target="_blank">wilderness camps for troubled teens</a>. I think treatment programs have a better chance of being effective if they can help the person find a purpose.
 
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