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I'm not sure if I should be posting this here - as I didn't end up with the UC we'd planned on, but since it was the initial intention: here it is...<br><br>
stats:<br><br>
EDD 4/25/2007<br>
Born 5/4/2007<br>
8 pounds 2 ounces<br>
19 3/4 inches<br>
boy!<br><br>
Birth Story:<br><br>
On Thursday evening 5/3, I was 10 days past my EDD, but in bed knowing that labor was close. The night before I’d had a round of contractions that ended with my feeling something slip beneath the upper pubic bone. At my appointment with the midwife that day – she confirmed that the head had engaged…I went through a mental checklist a couple of times..everything is wonderful with my dh, my boys are home and safe. I felt a few contractions and then a release as something warm trickled down my leg. I said “Hmm..something just happened, I better go check that out.” I was thrilled on the toilet as I was obviously losing amniotic fluid. I was a little concerned when I looked in the toilet though – it was yellow and cloudy. I talked to DH about it, but we decided if it was meconium, it was minor. I would lie down and make sure the baby was moving around and we could call to consult the midwife if needed ( I had planned prenatal care with a homebirth midwife) I knew she wouldn’t transfer for pale yellow and cloudy though – so I was somewhat at ease. It was about 9:50p – so dh and I went to lay down and wait for labor to start…but it wasn’t long. I started contracting and losing a lot of fluid, so I went to the bathroom furthest from our bedroom so dh could get some sleep. I had a few contractions on the toilet and they were strong and I was getting really excited. But when I got up, the water in the toilet was brown. It looked like I had gone, but I knew I hadn’t. I quickly flushed and sat down again and let the contractions bring more amniotic fluid out. It was again brown and I called DH. There weren’t any large chunks floating, it was all a fine sediment – like it had happened a while ago and had been processed a bit….. Because the midwife and I had talked about this possibility being 10 days post date – and I knew that deep suctioning made little difference and there were no large chunks, and I could feel the babe moving after each contraction, we decided to continue on our own. I didn’t take this lightly at all – it was tough. I just really tried to tune in to the baby and I felt he was okay, and that an eventual transfer to the hospital would just be a lot of unnecessary panic. However, it would have been nice not to have had this aspect present. All the fluid after this episode was clear though – so that helped put me at ease too.<br><br>
DH and I again went back to bed and I lay on my side dealing with contractions. I was not having back labor as with my last two labors, but they were intense. I was using my version of hypnobabies..instead of getting up and trying to get ‘things moving’ in this early labor – I remained as still as possible and concentrated on relaxing my total body – so the uterus would have all the resources it needed to begin dilation. And with my history of long labors (50+ and 19), I did not want to tire myself out unnecessarily. This method felt good and right to me, and I did feel progress was being made…<br><br>
At about 1:47a, things were really picking up and I decided to go back and labor for a bit in the bathroom. I stayed on the toilet and DH came in for a while. I felt extremely nauseous, and dry heaved into the bathtub during a few contractions, but never actually threw up. I wanted to believe I was nearing transition – but my previous labors kept me pretty stoic about my progress. I was having difficulty handling the pain now and started to get very vocal and a bit thrashy. It was close to 3am when I felt my body getting pushy…but I was not getting a clear push signal from my body. I felt the cervix was not dilated – and after my experience with my second labor (I had a cervical lip that would not let go for many hours and when the midwife tried to hold it out of the way – it swelled and we had to wait even longer..) I didn’t dare try to push against it. I was feeling discouraged and decided I did not want this turning into a drama queen episode (as I am prone to!) and told DH we should go back to bed for a while so I could try to relax through this – that my cervix wasn’t ready yet. We went back to bed and my mantra during this time was, “The uterus and cervix will have to do it..” This worked for maybe about 40 minutes though the pain was getting completely unbearable. I started groaning again through contractions and then told DH I wanted to call and have the midwife come over. I could tell my cervix wasn’t completely open – but I don’t know how to check dilation. I needed to know whether I was at 4 or 7 or 9….if I was still at 4 – I wanted to go to the hospital. I knew I couldn’t do 7 more hours in this kind of pain. The midwife listened over the phone for a while and said she was coming over. I told her I’d been at this level of pain for several hours and just couldn’t tell what was going on and that I was getting panicky. She told me to get in the tub in the meanwhile.<br><br>
My DH ran the tub and I was SOO upset that it did not help at ALL. I started kicking at the drain – say ‘drain it, just drain it – its not working’. I was not dealing with the pain well at all at this point and my DH – just rose to the occasion. He talked to me through every contraction – told me how amazing I was….I didn’t respond much I know, but just having the thread of his voice to hold onto was amazing.<br><br>
I had this plan in my head: if the midwife checked me and I was still 4-6, I was going to drink half the bottle of Scotch we had in the cabinet (or have someone knock me over the head with it), so they could throw me in a cab and get me to an epidural..seriously – this was my plan and I would have done it…BUT – as the water drained out of the tub (it was about 4:40 at this point), something inside my told me I was past the point of no return. My body was actively trying to push at the top of every contraction now – but everytime it did, it was like an electric shock (I knew the cervix still was present) and the feeling was despairing…I just didn’t know what to do for it!<br><br>
I got back up onto the toilet and the midwife arrived. It was about 5:10 now. She came in the bathroom and she was so beautiful and focused and on me…it was comforting. The first thing she did was put the Doppler on my abdomen. I immediately heard the little chug chug of the baby’s heart – and I was SO relieved and just felt a rush of gratitude that he was doing okay through all of this, especially after the meconium scare.<br>
I told her my body wanted to push, but I could still feel the cervix. She asked if I wanted her to check me…I said, “Yes, please..” (This was the only time anyone’s hands were inside me during the entire pregnancy – sigh…) She said, “You’re completely dilated…no, there’s a little lip. Its not much. I can hold it out of the way while you push.” Flash back to last labor….and I almost argued and reminded her of what happened with my last birth (different midwife)..but I didn’t. I trusted her. I knew if she felt I needed to wait, she would tell me I had to wait. So next contraction, she held the cervix as I pushed and then she said. “The cervix is out of the way now. There is no cervix. You can push.” I yelled, “I can push!!” she said yes…I was happy….my pushing stage is always so short – I knew the baby was almost here. I pushed with the next contraction and ……pooped. The midwife said, “Now you are pooping, next is the baby.” I said nothing, but somewhere in my mind it registered that I was pooping, that I could smell it and I was NOT happy about it. A minor fleeting thought – but it was there.<br>
Next contraction I felt the baby’s head in the vagina and two more pushes his head was out. I barely registered the word ‘cord’ and figured it must have been around his neck (it was, but she easily pulled it over his head)…then I felt the torso in the birth canal – I could ‘see’ both little shoulders pinned down…and with the next push he slid out and was suddenly in my arms.<br><br>
So euphoric – something about his little face was so unexpected and so beautiful…I just said over and over again, “He’s so cute, he’s so beautiful.” Euphoria and gratitude – so happy he was finally here and safe. We cut the cord when it stopped pulsating and the placenta followed shortly. There was almost no blood with the placenta – it just felt like a pure and perfect separation. Again, new for me, as my last birth the midwife cut the cord before he was out because it was tangled tightly around a nuchal hand. I had a ton of bleeding with that birth, and months of postpartum bleeding, including a visit to the ER.<br><br>
So, as much as I dearly, dearly wanted my husband and I to birth this baby unassisted, I can’t deny that past labor trauma followed me into this birth experience, even though I tried my best to work through it beforehand. But I have no regrets…my DH and I made all the decisions together and got through the tough laboring alone. And I’m happy I had back up with someone I had a relationship with and felt comfortable with. And - she cleaned up and fed my two older children when they awoke about 6:30 to come and greet their new brother so my DH and I could cuddle in bed and gaze at our boy!<br><br><br>
Here is a pic a few hours after birth:<br><a href="http://s129.photobucket.com/albums/p209/13Sandals/?action=view&current=bellyshots009.jpg" target="_blank">http://s129.photobucket.com/albums/p...lyshots009.jpg</a><br><br>
Then here one after he’s all juiced up in week two!<br><a href="http://s129.photobucket.com/albums/p209/13Sandals/?action=view&current=bellyshots015.jpg" target="_blank">http://s129.photobucket.com/albums/p...lyshots015.jpg</a>
 

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No sweat, it happens to the best of us! (At least I hope I'm counted as the best of us!!) You did great! Sounds like a lovely birth!
 

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Thank you so much for sharing!
 

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Thank you so much for sharing- that baby is precious! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Thanks so much! I'm going to move on over to Birth Stories so we can all share in the new baby love <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Congratulations!<br><br>
Though your birth wasn't as you planned, it was very healing for you and that in and of itself, is so important. I am thrilled your mw worked so well with you and helped in that healing process instead of causing more trauma. Excellent!<br><br>
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Congratulations on your little boy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Thank you for sharing your story. It's encouraging to read about women listening to themselves, making their own decisions, and growing in confidence. Congratulations once again.<br><br>
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All that matters mama is that you did what you needed to do and you had a happy birth. What an amazing experience to carry forward in your life!<br><br>
CONGRATS!!!!!
 

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Congratulations on the healing birth.<br><br>
What a beautiful babe too! He has really gotten big and round quickly<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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Beautiful story and a gorgeous babe! Thank you for sharing!
 

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Congrats! I'm so glad you got your home birth and didn't transfer to a hospital! I'm not brave enough for a home birth (neither is hubby) and I admire you for being able to do it!!
 

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You did a wonderful job, mama! A beautiful birth! Congrats on your new babe!!
 

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Thank you for sharing, and congratulations! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> Judging by your story, you did great! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> And how nice that your midwife was so calm and comforting to you.
 

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Welcome Baby!<br><br>
Congratulations Mama, You did great!<br><br>
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What a precious baby, congratulations! Thanks for sharing mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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How sweet and amazing<br><br>
He is a cutie!
 
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