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Hubby has told me that he doesn’t want KC playing in the grass yet. She is just over six months and it’s spring here in France. He says at this time of year there are bugs in the grass. (Correct me if I’m wrong – aren’t there ALWAYS bugs in the grass? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">) Anyway I was weeding a flower bed the other day with her on my lap. That night I had a bit of itchiness on one elbow. The next day she had a couple red bumps just below her belly button. (in fact I thought at first her diaper was chafing her) He said they are bug bites and that’s why she shouldn’t play in the grass yet.<br><br>
I think he’s being over protective. He thinks he’s being rational and reasonable. What do you think?<br><br>
BTW she has yet to be directly IN the grass. She has sat on my lap while I weeded and she has played on a towel spread out in the yard.<br><br>
-luv
 

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I allow DS to play in the grass. The only time I won't allow it is if the grass has been treated with a fertilizer or pesticide. Otherwise it's fine in my opinion. There will always be bugs, just keep an eye on her. I think your husband's being a little overprotective...his heart is in the right place but I just don't see what's so wrong with playing in the grass.
 

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I think it is ok. What kind of bugs do you have? In some places around here (FL) we have fire ants and I won't let either DS in the grass then because they can be deadly if they swarm a little one. But if there aren't fire ants I let them play away. DS2 LOVES the grass. I sit next to him to watch for bugs and to make sure he doesn't eat any grass. But kids can get bug bites inside the house too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">::
 

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I can't wait until DS is big enough to sit and play in the grass! (It's still buried under snow...) I agree with the PPs. There will always be bugs, and as long as she isn't eating them, she'll be okay.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Yes, that is being overprotective...maybe if you put the babe on a blanket he'd calm down a bit?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
i've always brought a large beach towel outside for us to sit/roll/play on. once dd was old enough to crawl off, i let her. in my opinion, the more she's exposed to (be it germs, bugs or experiences), the better.
 

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[QUOTE there will always be bugs, and as long as she isn't eating them, she'll be okay.[/QUOTE]<br><br>
Lol, oh come on, bugs are good protein! My daughter has played outside since she was little, i don't remember at what age, yes, she got bug bites, and yes, she ate dirt and whatever else there was to eat. But I feel that it is good for them, asthma and allergies are at record highs because kids are growing up in a sterile environment, they need to be out in the dirt!
 

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agreeing with everyone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> My babies love the grass!
 

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Glad to hear i'm not the crazy one here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> No fireants here. She has been on a towl, blanket or my lap when she's been outside with me. I like the idea of "when she crawls off I'm not going to try to keep her on it" He is SO protective of her. I think it's kinda cute sometimes. Other times it's just annoying.<br><br>
She comes to French class with us. I try to bring something to entertain her on the floor. Today it was one of those "touch" books, you know the kind with different textures.<br><br>
Half way though the class he said "would you turn the page for her?"<br><br>
I said "huh?"<br><br>
he said "she's going to eat the fur!" (she had managed to pull a few strands of the 'fur' out of the big bad wolf's ears.<br><br>
I said.. "So she'll poop em out.<br><br>
He looked at me like I was the most horrid mother in tthe world !<br><br>
(NOTE I know he thinks Im a good mom. I think he's a wonderful Dad. Sometimes he just picks funny things to worry about!.)
 

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oohh! i'm soo jealous. we have three feet of snow left to melt and probably another two months of this miserable cold weather. bleck.<br><br>
anyhoo, i'd go ahead and let the little one play in the grass. aren't there always going to be bugs? what does your dh think is an appropriate age to play outside?
 

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Yeah, play in the grass. I can't wait! I would be careful about what she eats, but I'd be more concerned with her eating plants or mushrooms that she shouldn't than bugs biting her. There are bugs in the house too. We get to share this beautiful world with all manner of creatures...no big deal!
 

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LOL, I'm trying to not be jealous over the whole Paris/France/Springtime thing....<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
But seriously. Sitting in the grass is a good thing. It's wildly stimulating for a baby. And as long as you are present to keep baby's oral exploration to a minimum, an shoo away the odd bug, there's nothing to say your baby is too young!!<br><br>
It's cute that he's overprotective, though.
 

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Put that babe in the grass! My fussy DD#1 when she was that age and we put her in the grass was soooo funny. I loved watching her. If she was wearing shorts and the grass tickled her legs, she would lift them up and try to sit with only her bottom on the ground. So her legs were lifted up and sticking out. Hilarious! I think it's great for them.
 

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Your DH would have been horrified to have been my dad as I loved the bugs and had a tendancy to enjoy dining on spiders. DaddyLonglegs were my particular favorites to eat. I do not remember this at all as I grew out of it, but my dad used to find it funny and had to keep telling me to let the spiders go.
 

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I would think it would normally be okay. The only issues I would be concerned with are the pesticides, as a pp mentioned, or possible allergies. I had thought it was adorable to have my dd in the grass as she reacted to it in the funniest ways - then we found out she was highly allergic (and still is). However, I also think that sometimes it is better to follow my dh desires for a short time - he usually changes his mind at some point (or I occasionally find out he was right... lol.)
 

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I'm not worried about chemicals in our lawn. We've lived here two years and never done more than water, mow and reseed areas the dogs have torn up.<br><br>
The weather right now is 'in transition'. In other words we have three days of whipping wind, five min of hail and then two glorious days of sunshine before it starts all over again!<br><br>
Next time we get some sun she’ll be out in the yard with me again. I’ll leave her on a blanket for now. When she starts crawling though (she’s working SO hard on it!) I am not going to try to keep her on the blanket.<br><br>
I try to respect his wishes as a parent as he does mine but this one we’ll have to compromise a bit more on my side than his.<br><br>
-luv
 
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