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How involved do you get in your children's play? My boys are 6 and 3. Sometimes they're happy to play independently, sometimes with each other, but very often they are asking Mommy, "Will you play with me?" Many times this is when I'm in the middle of something - like getting supper ready, or doing dishes, cleaning, etc. I spend LOTS of time with them, but often it's doing grown-up stuff like shopping or errands, or we're out at the library, park, etc. I love to read to them at home, build with Lego, do crafts or experiments, or just chat with them, but their kind of "play" is so NOT my thing! They're just such "BOYS!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I try my best when I can join in, but I often cut it short out of lack of interest (especially stuff like battles and superheroes, etc), too much on my mind or other distractions. Advice or words of wisdom welcome.
 

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Oh gosh, not very much at all. I own Playful Parenting and reading it makes me feel guilty, lol. I do spend time with them one-on-one every so often to work on a project of their choice and we have special reading time and snuggles at bedtime. I used to feel much more guilty about it than I do now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I have boy/girl twins who CONSTANTLY ask me to play with them throughout the day, too, so I really feel where you're at. My son, especially want me to play superhereos A LOT. Today I had to be Poison Ivy and tie him up (he was Batman), and during other parts of the day I was Commissioner Gordon and Alfred. And then there is the play with my daughter of doctor, store keeper, and other things in her pretend world.<br><br>
I would say I try to give them several hours of that type of play, although if you'd ask them, that's not nearly enough time. We also do tons of stuff like you too - parks, library, hours of reading, museums, other projects, and so on.<br><br>
When they ask to play, I try to say yes, but I let them know I have other work to get done, too. I'll put on the timer for a half hour and then say I need to work after that. They are ok with this most of the time. And I invite them to help me with my work, too. Also, I try to do work and stuff for me during the times they are playing with each other or independently. It does feel like the only time I can do things for myself are really late at night, or if I can occassionally get grandma to watch them for a few hours. I tell myself that they are really small now and it won't be like this forever, but it can be very exhausting a lot of the time, as I'm sure you know!
 
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