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....Apparently I am a freaking HUGE cow that looks as though I might pop any day now. Seriously, nearly every time that I see MIL she comments on the size of my belly. Like 6 weeks ago she asked if my due date was wrong cause I was "looking pretty big". "Wow, look at that Cora." (Cora is the baby's name), while starring, wide-eyed at my belly. On Sunday she looks at me and asks how I am measuring. I have measured exactly on track all along! I am still fitting in my size extra small maternity jeans for goodness sakes! Why the heck does everyone feel the need to comment on size when we're pregnant!?!?<br>
Tonight I saw our real estate agent and she said: You're due any day now, right?<br>
Me: noooo<br>
Agent:Two weeks or so?<br>
Me: July<br><br>
I really don't feel like I am that big! I am not a teeny tiny pregnant lady but, hey, the kid has to go somewhere! Vent over. Sigh. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br><br>
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Sorry they can't seem to get off the size/weight issue. It seems to me that a lot of people just completely forget (or have never seen) a full-term woman. I've been getting the comments, too, but they don't bother me since they're put nicely and in no way negative.<br><br>
AFM, I could just rant on and on about my DP, but I'm too tired to do so. I didn't finally fall asleep until sometime past 4 am. I got up at 7:20 am. We'll see how much grief he gives me for wanting for sleep today so maybe I'll be back later.
 

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I don't see anyone (a different kind of rant) so I never hear the size comments. I did get it from my mum at my shower 3wks ago but I kinda chalked that up to the fact that I was wearing overalls that just accentuated my belly.<br><br>
My rant is about not being able to get comfortable AT ALL. I lay in bed on my left side and baby spends 20 minutes getting comfy by kicking and poking and moving around. Then just as she gets settled, I either have to pee or my left hip starts going numb and I have to move/roll over and then the whole baby-settling starts over. Once I finally get into a good position and my bladder isn't feeling ready to pop, the restless leg thing starts! ARGH!!!
 

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My MIL is doing the exact same thing, Oh I'm soo big, I know I gave her a due date after the orginal date, well I think I have gave 3, anyways on mothers day she was again telling me how big I was, I looked her in the eyes and said you know thats so strange you say that because i am measureing small. She shut up right then and there I wonder what she will say next tiem I see her.. So take heart its not just your MIL with being so big<br><br><br>
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I'm getting the same thing when I go out. I walk in to a store or the library and multiple employees eye my belly, glance at each other and one comes over to "help" me in any way possible. It is happening just about where ever I go<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> They gently inquire when I am due and are shocked that I still have 2+ months to go. Ask me if I'm sure it's <span style="text-decoration:underline;">JUST</span> one, and if my dates are right...Strangers, who are scared spit-less I might accidentaly have a baby in their store!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I get the "you're due anytime right?" comments too. Just laugh and say something about their inexperience with pregnancy!<br><br>
My beef is with my own body. My sacroiliac joints are just taking turns hurting like hell when I walk. It feels like I'm broken and kills to put weight on that leg or bend over. BUMMER. My husband has a really hurt knee that he's having to ice and elevate all the time, so I'm not getting any massages out of him right now. Baby had flipped to the other side (usually he's on the left) in the night and yesterday when I woke up everything was out of wack. Now he's flipped back and it feels more "normal" inside though my pelvis is still hurting. And let me tell you it's rather difficult to have 4 kids and a preschool and not bend over. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
And I really want a particular middle name for our boy that my husband isn't crazy about. Why can't he just be agreeable????!!!! Just a "yes, dear" would work great!
 

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I have the opposite problem. No one seems to realize that I am pregnant. I am having some hip and pelvic discomfort so I waddle around like half the time and people say things like, "are you okay, you are walking funny". Then I say, "well, I'm pregnant, so...." and then they give the shocked, "oh, really? you don't look pregnant!" I think I look pregnant of course, but apparently everyone else just thinks I just have a really fat stomach <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> I don't know what else to do to make it more clear. I waddle around and wear maternity clothes, yet it's not obvious to anyone. This happened with Ds too, I am overweight and I carry really tucked in, so I guess it is hard to tell. And then I get a lot of comments of, "oh, that is great that you aren't showing yet!" Which is so confusing to me. Why is that "great"? Are pregnant women so disgusting to look at that you would rather I not look pregnant when I am? Or do you actually think not showing that much yet = not feeling any symptoms of pregnancy. Hello, the baby is still just as big and weighs the same amount as every other 7 month pregnant woman's fetus does! I feel far worse this pregnancy than I did with Ds and am having a lot of discomfort in the pelvic area because baby dropped right down into it this time. I didn't feel this way with Ds until the last week, and I still have 3 months to go!
 

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Ok, yes, I moan and groan when I pull myself up from the couch. Please stop laughing at me, DP. It's very hard to get up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">
 

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Oooo - I can rant and vent for hours these days - I'm so moody I want to crawl in bed with some books and knitting and hermit myself away for the next 8 weeks! Last time I was huge and got those "wow, you look like you're ready to POP!" comments which made me want to kill someone. This time not so much, but I'm so uncomfortable and I'm tired of being asked "what" I'm having (um...a baby...) and when.<br><br>
Dp has been stressed out (finances...) lately and not very supportive to say the least. I ask her to carry the laundry downstairs (and then tell her I'll follow her and actually DO the laundry...) and she says "I'll get it later" and two days later is whining about not having any clean clothes. Really? I'm trying to be understanding - I know we are both stressed out - but I just want some help!<br><br>
Sorry - that's it for now - I know we are all feeling stressed and tired right now, so I should leave room for everyone else's rants!!!
 

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Yeah, my father in law said to me: "So can I call you fat yet?" I simply replied: "Uhm, no. That would not be appreciated. AND extremely rude of you to say."<br><br>
I walked away as we were all leaving the restaurant anyways. I think my sil, his daughter, had a quick word with him. But seriously, what is wrong with people turning into...what's the word...douchebags maybe, around pregnant people.<br><br>
My last pregnancy, my own mother said to me: "oh, it's so squishy. It's so soft. I expected it would be hard." She was talking about my belly. I had let her put her hand on my belly to feel the baby kick. I told her she was rude, and that she could forget about feeling the baby moving. Geez.<br><br>
Now, I've made an agreement with my dp. If, no make that when...when someone calls me fat, he must say something if he wants me to be nice. Especially to his father. If DP doesn't say something, I will tell fil he's a jerk. Because he is. No fail, his family keep referring to me as fat. WTF!!!!!!!!!! I'm not fat, I am pregnant. What's their excuse?!!<br><br>
Grrr!!!<br><br>
Well that feels better!!<br><br>
I think I will go update my fb status now. "I am not fat. I am pregnant. What is your excuse?"
 

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Thank you for sharing your vents! Misery really does love company! I have been feeling so grumpy and it's nice to know I am not the only one dealing with weird people that have no filter!
 

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At the hospital this morning for an U/S 2 separate non-hospital employees as ked in very concerned tones, can I help you? Obviously thinking I was there to go into labor. I guess I look term. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> This thread is totally cheering me up!<br><br>
So many of my colleagues have started with the whole "you have HOW many weeks left?!!! haven't you been pregnant forEVER?" comments. I'm like, "How do you think *I* feel? You all didn't even know i was pregnant for the 8 long weeks i suffered through all-day-sickness! But thanks for the unhelpful comment!"<br><br>
The other day a bookseller on the sidewalk asked me "you going to make it home?" as in, are you in labor NOW?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
And yes, YES to the issues with massive moodyness and irritability and hip pain and back pain. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> A new pain or complaint every day, it feels like! And it takes some serious grunts and moans to lever myself off a couch or to turn over in bed. I am very fortunate that DH has been accommodating in that respect.<br><br>
LO seems to be stuck with it's back to my right, and its head is JAMMED into my right hip, causing me all kinds of discomfort. Flip over, LO!<br><br>
Thanks for the ranting session ladies!
 

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I am seriously jealous of the OP and her extra-small mat. pants. And they call you fat???? OMG, they would think I am a beached whale. Being pg with twins, I have been looking like I am ready to pop any time for about a month and being questioned about it. Tiresome. I am starting to get the "oh here comes a freak show" expressions. I think in about a month I probably AM going to be hermit. I can't imagine how massive my stomach is going to be. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I am a part of the insomnia club, too. Sometimes it's a matter of getting comfortable. But last night my digestive system was in total chaos. I ate something that didn't agree. I think I got about 3 hrs of sleep and have been pretty useless all day. DH came home at lunch time and had to comment on the condition of the house. Pigsty was the word I think he used.<br>
Then he has the gall to tell me that he went and bought a puppy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> Yes, it would be nice to have a dog. But the timing is so bad. He works so much and I have NO time or energy for a puppy right now. The thought of twins coming (and my mounting inability to move and decreasing energy) is pretty much maxing me out. Never mind that he made such a big decision with no input from me whatsoever. Right now I am pissed at him beyond describing.<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am seriously jealous of the OP and her extra-small mat. pants. And they call you fat???? OMG, they would think I am a beached whale. Being pg with twins, I have been looking like I am ready to pop any time for about a month and being questioned about it. Tiresome. I am starting to get the "oh here comes a freak show" expressions. I think in about a month I probably AM going to be hermit. I can't imagine how massive my stomach is going to be. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I am a part of the insomnia club, too. Sometimes it's a matter of getting comfortable. But last night my digestive system was in total chaos. I ate something that didn't agree. I think I got about 3 hrs of sleep and have been pretty useless all day. DH came home at lunch time and had to comment on the condition of the house. Pigsty was the word I think he used.<br>
Then he has the gall to tell me that he went and bought a puppy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> Yes, it would be nice to have a dog. But the timing is so bad. He works so much and I have NO time or energy for a puppy right now. The thought of twins coming (and my mounting inability to move and decreasing energy) is pretty much maxing me out. Never mind that he made such a big decision with no input from me whatsoever. Right now I am pissed at him beyond describing.<br>
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A Puppy?! Is he insane?!!! I would completely loose it and dissolve into a pool of my own tears if I was told there was a puppy coming. And I am not having twins!! Hugs mama! I hope puppy is darn cute!
 

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I try to brush off the comments but people are persistent! Most people swear I'm having twins or triplets because of my size and they are saying all my Dr's and ultrasounds must be wrong... even my patients.. yeah ok... too bad I'm measuring on target. I can only imagine what they will say in 8-10 weeks! I think it has to do with me being ALL belly so I look out of place haha...
 

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My DP would be sleeping on the lawn if he went out and bought a puppy without asking me. He knows how I feel about dogs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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Ahhh I feel better just THINKING about unloading here (thank you!)...<br>
I am swollen all over. My ankles and hands are the worst. I can barely make a fist in the mornings my hands are so swollen and every knuckle aches. My arm goes numb for no apparent reason, particularly when I'm sleeping. I have a pinched nerve somewhere that makes the outside of my thumb numb while also burning, except for the occasions where it shoots the most horrific, blinding pain down my leg for several seconds at a time (thank goodness that only happens occasionally). My pelvis is so sore it hurts to even lift a leg sometimes and has now taken to cracking if I squeeze my thighs together. I have a bacterial vaginal infection. I'm tired all the time. I have polyhydramnios (too much amniotic fluid) so I feel like I'm going to burst. It feels like my little guy is sloshing around in my belly every time I walk. I am constantly grunting and groaning every time I try to reposition myself or get up from a sitting or laying position, which I'm sure has to be annoying my poor husband to tears. I feel like a big wuss. Oh, and I go through a crying jag every other day or so. Do you know how many women have told me being pregnant was the most wonderful experiences of their lives and they just loooved it? Why did no one tell me about all this other stuff? *sigh* Thinking about being able to hold my son and see his sweet, little face one day soon makes it all bearable, but boy, it sure feels good to vent!
 

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I am glad that I am not the only one that is freaked out about the idea of a dog right now. I don't hate dogs (more of a cat person really) but the timing is horrid. And yes, I do think he is insane!<br><br>
JenDiggity, if you see this, the swelling in your hands can cause numbness and even carpal tunnel syndrome. Paradoxally (sp?), drinking MORE water (a gallon a day is good) will actually help with the swelling. Adequate protein intake as well. I think 120 grams is the rec.<br><br>
I love having babies, giving birth is too awesome. Cuddling and nursing are the best! Pg I could do without. LOL Too bad you can't get the former without the latter.
 

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This is the best therapy EVER!!!! Keep it coming! I could seriously do this every day for the next eight weeks! (I won't though - I promise...)<br><br>
A puppy???!!! My dp is not an animal fan, but if she were, and she did that, I would lose it completely!!!<br><br>
If I didn't have absolutely so much to do (b-day parties, t-ball, meetings, work, running the basket raffle at my son's school...) I would ALMOST welcome bed-rest. But then I would be annoyed at losing the time at work, because we can't do without the money, and frustrated because the house would probably be falling down around me. Maybe just a weekend of bed-rest...<br><br>
Thanks for the evening rant!! I hope you are all feeling better soon - and let's all try to start feeling proud to be nurturing a new life (really - that is amazing!) and try to not give any credence to what stupid comments stupid people have to say!
 
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