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Please help-2 yr old out of control

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My 2 yr old ds is out of control and I don't know what to do. Right this minute he is in his room screaming bloody murder like someone is killing him. The reason? I gave him a bath. I can't do anything with him. When I change his diaper (forget potty training), he kicks, screams, bites, scratches, hits and I literally have to sit over him to change him. I've started putting him to bed wearing the clothes he will wear the next day because dressing him is unbearable. He throws things, screams when he has to do anything at all. He has always been a 'high maintenance' child, but lately he has been so out of control I don't know what to do. We cannot go anywhere--he lays on the ground and kicks, screams and I have had to literally drag him out of places. I have 2 older children and one 7 mth old dd. I know the younger one my be making him jealous, but this really bad stage started a couple months ago when baby needed less of my attention. I just don't know what to do--I feel like I am going to lose my mind. Have honestly thought about seeing a doctor for tranquilizers because I'm a nervous wreck-tho won't because I'm still nursing dd. Seems like it is also ballooning from me to the rest of the family. I just don't know what to do.
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Wow, sounds like you have your hands full with him! Esp. since you have to also attend to your other children!

With my dd, who acts the same way sometimes, I try:

-- a hug, sometimes that's all it takes
-- giving her words for her feelings and being sympathetic
-- giving her choices, even it's choosing between two identical diapers
-- asking if she wants to do it herself or if she wants me to "help" her. She will usually do it herself. Like does she want to hold my hand in the parking lot or does she want me to carry her?
-- telling her it's my turn to brush her teeth and when I'm done then it will be her turn to brush

Sometimes I just, after all else fails, do it. Things like changing a diaper, brushing teeth, sitting in a carseat, holding my hand in the parking lot, etc. are not optional. I try to get her to cooperate but sometimes it gets down to just doing it.

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Have you read the book IS This Your Child? It deals with food allergies. Sounds like maybe that could be part of the problem?? I hope things get better for you.
I know what you are going thourgh my daughter
is hard to take anywhere when ever we go to the store and get ready to leave she starts Kicking and screaming and make everyone look I just start crying because I have a 4 moth old and I just lost his twin brother and when everyone looks at how she acts i get so upset with her any suggestion for me

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Mother of Cheyanne
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another book suggestion- The Out of Sync Child.
Much of what you described sounds sensory related (which can also be linked to diet)
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