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Dh and I are continuing to disagree on what "media" is okay for our dc to be exposed to. (Nutshell!)

History.....dh is the Creative Services Director for a quickly growing Ad Firm. IOW....advertising and art are his career and passion.

He thinks I am waaay to strict about not letting them see any commercials. He sometimes watches sports and they have the most offensive commercials. Usually beer commercials with perfect looking,barely dressed skinny young women. I have demanded that he change the channel back and forth to avoid all commercials. Then, there is just the image of a world that we don't live in. Commercials advertising perfectly new, clean homes where people that are perfect looking ,dressed in trendy,brand new clothes are portrayed. Because we HS, the dc are only allowed a little tv on the weekends, and during their week off. They will watch good shows, but then comes the ads pushing fastfood. Dh says the more I make a big deal of it the more they will be curious, and start asking for stuff.

OUr latest disagreement came last night when he started looking at one of his Art Design MAgs that he gets from the UK. The front of the cover was artistic sure, but it was also pornographic!! The cover would not be allowed in a grocery store! It makes Cosmo look tame!

Can anyone help me with articles, websites,etc that I can have him do a "fast" read to let him know I am not alone in my thinking, and I have the knowledge of how damaging images can be to young girls(and boys!). We are both under a lot of stress right now, and I don't want to push him over,just provide well-researched info.

TIA!!!!!!

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A link to some links-> http://www.kinderstart.com/childdeve...atvissues.html

I know you didn't ask for opinions or advice.
I would say that because your children's exposure is pretty limited anyway it probably would be best to not make too big a deal... better yet, discuss with your children the advertisements they do see. Since your dh works in advertising he should be able to speak to the ways advertisers are trying to manipulate or persaude people. Having that awareness and knowledge might be more valuable than trying to completely shield your children from media.
About the mag- maybe he could just not leave it laying around for the kids to look at if it is pornographic.

Good luck with your dh.
 

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Thanks Kim-

I actually couldn't access any of those sites.
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Dh and I do both agree that violence isn't good. They have never watched any violence whatsoever-except if Scooby Doo counts.
We watched the Power Puff Girls with dd and it was dh who said it was too violent with no natural consequences to the actions.

It's really just the endless images of outer beauty,perfectness,absolute cleanness, everything new. And of course the endless junk food that is being pushed on the kids.

As far as asking dh not to leave the art mags laying around, he just doesn't get it. He sees it as art. Period. He doesn't get it that it is just one more image of outer beauty and showing LOTS of skin,that I feel isn't good for dd-or ds. Yesterday, dd was still asleep, and ds was off in the playroom playing,so I thought I could get a quick peek of Regis(very rare for me) and sure enough, ds walks into the room, and the first thing he says to me, is how pretty the girl was(Kelly) and what a pretty dress she was wearing!!! He is 3!!!!!
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I could be overreacting......

Anyone else????

TIA.

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I know the OP was asking for quick reads, but I just finished "Consuming Kids" by Susan Linn and,while it makes me livid, it also helps me feel even better about minimising my kids' exposure to advertising -- no matter what the media. It clearly make the point that there's a big difference between marketing to adults and marketing to children, and that children's marketing is neither limited to children's shows nor commercials for children's products; the idea is to get the brand across as early as possible to make a lifelong consumer. However, as you can imagine, it does not portray those in the business of marketing to kids in a favorable light; I don't know how sensitive your DH may be to this given his job. I've already taken it back to the library, but some of the references in the book might provide you with some shorter articles that would be useful.

IIRC, another good book on the subject is "Can't Buy My Love" by Jean Kilbourne. I read this a few years back and may be confusing this with another title.
 

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Sorry the links didn't work for you.
Try this one- http://www.childrennow.org/media/med...nfall1997.html
I don't think it is bad for children to think someone is pretty. Kelly is attractive. So is Ellen. In different ways, most people have something attractive. I guess to counteract that Barbie perfection stereotype I would really start pointing out the positive qualities of different people (physical and non-physical).
There is a book called CHILDREN: Questions Help Challenge False Images

By Judith Myers-Walls.

Here is another link to try- http://www.medialit.org/search.php?t...eyword_search=

I don't know what the magazines look like. Are there people pictured in sexual positions or acts? Or is it just nudity? Nudity doesn't bother me so much. I think you'll just have to come to some kind of agreement if it is that important to you.
 

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THanks!!

I will try the sites again!

I am going to see if our library has those books,or I can order them ILL.

The mag shows an absolutely gorgeous young woman dressed only in silk-like panties and very high-heels. She has a snake wrapped around her to cover her breasts. Her legs are spread to the point(think gymnast stretch) that you can see the outline of her vulva, and it is a very seductive(albeit attractive and artsy) pose.

I am sick today, but will try to do some of this research!

THanks!!!!!!


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One cool thing is that as an ad exec, your dh actually understands how advertising works. So you and he could work out a sort of family seminar for your children to read ads skeptically. If he thinks that your ds is too young to understand how to read an ad, then he is definitely too young to see them, kwim?
 

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I would also consider going to some of the Eating Disorder websites, like www.sfwed.org . They have a ton of essays on the media and the proliferation of EDs. I myself have suffered from anorexia and bulemia since I was really young (8). If nothing else, it will definately shock him to read some of the stuff.
 
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