Please help me...baby wakes up as soon as I lay her down

I'm not completely sure I understand your post, but I think you're saying that she sleeps great at night, but wakes up from her nap as soon as you lay her down? Have you tried laying down and nursing her to sleep and then sneaking away once she's asleep? That way, you wouldn't actually be laying her down. (My DD at 13 months still can't be put down; she has to nurse lying down so that I can leave w/o her noticing.)

I know it doesn't seem like it, but this will pass. My DD would not nap by herself until she was maybe 9 months old. Every day for months, I tried to nurse her to sleep in the rocking chair and then lay her down to sleep, but she always woke up right away. I was frustrated and resentful, and I thought I would never be happy until she started napping. However, what finally made it better was to stop fighting her and let her nap in my arms. We have a big cushy armchair, and I would have the TV remote, my laptop on a table next to me, and sometimes a book. She would nurse to sleep on the Boppy and then sleep there, mostly nursing in her sleep, while I watched TV and surfed the internet. It actually became my down-time.

Oh, and there is nothing wrong w/ handing off a baby to Daddy when he gets home. They need some time together, and you need some time to unwind. And once your baby gets a little older, it will probably be a lot easier to sneak off once she has nursed to sleep, and you and your DH will have some alone time again.

I guess I am a little confused by your message also. Are you cosleeping at night? Where does dd sleep for naps? She wakes up when put down but you said she sleeps well. When does she sleep well?

I can tell you that my son was the same way. In the beginning he was sleeping in a bassinet right by my bed but would wake up as soon as his head hit the sheets. Just to get some sleep I would either sleep with him in a recliner in the LR or in bed, but was nervous b/c he was so little. As time went on, I would go to bed with him at night and nurse him to sleep and then I would just stay there. He woke every 1-2 hours for a few months to nurse and then it went to every 20 minutes - all night long. I read NCSS and other books to try to help him sleep longer between feedings. We tried the Pantely pull off, alternate ways to comfort, nighttime routine etc. It was a long road and I am not sure what the magic trick was, but he is a dream compared to this now. I nurse him to sleep while sitting on the couch. When he's out, I pick him up and put him in our bed and he stays asleep. He wakes for one feeding at 2 am or so. I nurse him in bed, and slide him back into his spot next to me when he's done and he goes back to sleep.

If you are interested I can tell you some of the specific things that we tried to get him to this point. However, I think a lot of what helped is that he has matured/grown, whatever you want to say. So, hang in there. I know it seems like it will never end, but I assure you it will. Take one day at a time, tell yourself "this too shall pass" and get help/sleep any way you can. It won't be this way forever. Good luck.