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Im sorry, this is not baby related. But I dont know where else to go.<br><br>
My husband and I had been fighting, but this past week was great, or so I thought. We went out to dinner the night before last, sans kiddos. We really needed a few hours to ourselves, it was nice.<br><br>
Fast forward less than 24 hours later (last night) and he comes home from work and tells me we need to talk. (okay I said) I thought it was going to be about money, it usually IS when he starts talking like that.<br><br>
So, I sat down at the table, and he tells me he's leaving tonight, not coming back, that he wants a divorce.<br><br>
I thought I was dreaming, honestly. Seriously less than 24 hours prior to that we were fine! Talking about where we wanted to go this weekend for the holiday!<br><br>
I am so numb. I truly can't believe this is happening to me, to my children. I don't think I've stopped crying since about 6 oclock last night. I caqnt believe I can see to type right now.<br><br>
I'm asking for prayers guys. I dont know what to do. I have no money, no way of contacting him.<br><br>
I am a SAHM, have been since February since I was put on bedrest with number 2. I can't go back to work, because anywhere I could work (If I could find anything, I am in the worst state for unemployment in the nation) would be minimum wage and I wouldn't be able to afford daycare for two babies.<br><br>
Most of all, how do I get over this? I really truly LOVE this man, we've spent the better of 5 years together, we were best friends since kindergarten. Please help me and tell me what to do, because I don't know anymore.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Im so sorry mama, couldnt read and not post, i know youll be ok somehow, do you have family near you?, my family has been a godsend after my divorce heck Im still living at my parents house and dont plan to move any time soon, even tho I got the apartment we lived in with everything in it in the divorce, I love that my children have other adults in their life, did he say why he wants to leave any chance you can do a trial separation?, anyways Im sure what a lot of people say at this time it wont seem true, but really in the long run it will be OK even if it isnt.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry, I couldn't read with posting either. I'll be praying for you and your family. Would your husband be open to talking to a councellor or anything to try and work things out? I am sorry that you have to go through this, do you have any other family that you could stay with for a while? I'll be thinking about you.
 

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I don't have any advice for you, only <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
What a terrible time you are going through, I'm so sorry.
 

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Contact Legal Aide immediately so that someone can go to court and make an emergency order for spousal support and childcare and caretaking for you while on bedrest. He may want to leave, but he has obligations that must be met immediately. He can be found through his job, so they will be able to serve him if you know when/where he works. I am sorry this is happening. I hate men who just leave when the going gets tough. Cowardly ba*****. You may not think so now, but one day you might find you are better off anyhow. I think contacting all of his family and telling him he has left you while in a medical crisis and someone needs to step up to help would be a good idea. If his family has any decency they will either help or guilt him back to provide what you need until you can safely give birth. Hugs to you and prayers sent your way.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry this is happening. I'm going to move this into parents as partners, but I'll leave a redirect here so people will see it.
 

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Wow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
You have no way of contacting him? He doesn't have a cell phone? What about his parents?<br><br>
I don't understand why he would just snap like that for no reason. I'm sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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ITA w/ previous advice. Legal Aid, your family, his family, call in ALL favors from EVERYONE, and in a lot of places if you dial 211 they can connect you with people who can help.
 

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I am beyond sorry that he dropped such an awful bomb on you. You have my prayers. Take this one moment at a time and try not to project too much into the future until you are sure of what exactly is going on with him.<br><br>
He should have a cell phone shouldn't he? Like the PP said what about his parents. They should know what is going on. He has two young children to provide for as well-he can't just leave you high & dry.<br><br>
Many, many loving hugs to you mama.
 

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Beth, I am so sorry you are going through this now, on top of everything you and your children have been through. I can't believe your husband would just disappear like that, except I have heard it before so I know it can happen. I wish I had any advice, but all I can offer is support. One way or another you will put your life back together, with or without him. I will be thinking of you. Please keep us posted and feel free to vent here any way you need to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Beth, how are you doing today?
 

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are you a reader? when my ex dropped the news on me as well (which also included an affair) i went out and found a great book called Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends. the ending of a relationship is a grieving process and the book guides you through all the steps and stages and gives practical ideas for coping.<br><br>
it is a very painful process, especially when you had no idea it was coming and you are left to pick up the pieces. it really is true, that time will heal - if you allow yourself to feel what you feel and work through your feelings, healing will bring you to a place of peace where you can move on with your life. yes, you love him now, but i can assure you that the day will come when you let that go as well. my counsellor kept telling me - there is light at the end of the tunnel, and truly, there is.<br><br>
on a practical level, find yourself a lawyer, they will help you find him and get the ball rolling for financial support and custody arrangements. ask your friends and family to help you and support you emotionally as much as possible.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> i'm sorry you have to go through this.
 

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Just wanted to send tons of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> and back up what other PP's said. Call his family and let them know what a UAV he is being. Call your family and let them know what a UAV he's being. Call all your friends and let them know what a UAV he is being. I know it sounds spiteful, but all is fair in love and war. You need help right now, lots of it. Cash in any and all favors that are owed right now. See if anyone can help you pay a retainer on a lawyer and if needed, a private investigator to find out where he is hiding himself at, and as soon as you have a location file an emergency order for CS and spousal support. He doesn't have to stayed married to you, but he does have to help support you and the kids. I hope that you have some people who support you who can help you through this. You might want to check out the single mamas board too, they have been very helpful and supportive of me when my relationship with my DS2's dad ended. It's a good place of support.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just wanted to send tons of <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> and back up what other PP's said. Call his family and let them know what a UAV he is being. Call your family and let them know what a UAV he's being. Call all your friends and let them know what a UAV he is being. I know it sounds spiteful, but all is fair in love and war. You need help right now, lots of it. Cash in any and all favors that are owed right now. See if anyone can help you pay a retainer on a lawyer and if needed, a private investigator to find out where he is hiding himself at, and as soon as you have a location file an emergency order for CS and spousal support. He doesn't have to stayed married to you, but he does have to help support you and the kids. I hope that you have some people who support you who can help you through this. You might want to check out the single mamas board too, they have been very helpful and supportive of me when my relationship with my DS2's dad ended. It's a good place of support.</div>
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ITA with wytchywoman and all the other pps. I know you won't be able to call legal aide or any other organization until Tuesday, but in the meantime I hope you contact your family and his. Take care of yourself too, your kids need you!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 
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