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DD turned 18 months last week, and it's like somebody flipped a switch. Her intensity level has gone up several notches, and I just don't know how to cope. I think the tantrums mostly stem from the fact that she's really not talking much yet, and she's frustrated. This morning, for example, she had a banging-on-the-table and screaming tantrum because I offered her cantalopue instead of the banana she apparently wanted. Then she had a lying down and kicking tantrum because she wanted to put her left shoe on her right foot, and it wouldn't fit. (It actually took me until awhile after the tantrum was over even to figure out what the problem was.) Then she had a third tantrum because she "told" the cat to get off her blanket, and he didn't "listen". And all this was before 9 am.<br><br>
I'm just not used to this level of emotional intensity. She was a very laid-back baby, and it's like I hardly recognize her anymore. She's never been very cuddly, and holding her when she's upset only makes her more upset, but I can't bring myself to take the mainstream advice and just step over her and ignore her. Once I figure out what it is that she's upset about and take care of it for her, she's usually so tired out and worked up that she doesn't really even want whatever it was she was tantruming about anymore.<br><br>
I don't know. I just need some advice with how to cope until she can make herself understood a little better.
 

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Been there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
This article helped me a lot when we entered the tantrum stage:<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/discipline/tantrums.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/articles/gr.../tantrums.html</a><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
We have also instituted a "calm-down corner"--others call this "time in"--with great success.
 

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Dd had a tantrum phase that lasted about a month - having tantrums over impossible things- then suddenly stopped. I've seen Rescue Remedy recommended for tantrums but didn't try it ourselves because the tantrums had gone away. The only thing I could do at the time was sit there with her and let her cry until she was ready to move on. If the intensity got too much, I would give her a warm bath to calm her down. Hope this phase passes soon for you as well.
 

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I get a kick out of the tantrums, to be honest. Dh tried get a pic of him the other day when he was doing a full flail on the floor for no apparent reason. He isn't talking at this point either, but I think it's interesting how they go through stages of independance and learning to deal with emotions, etc. Good luck!
 

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I just want to say you aren't alone! My dd is 16 months and I can tell she is getting very frustrated by not being able to talk. She was always the quiet little one before (in her gymbo class and playgroup) but this week she decided she could just scream to do what she wanted in class and is doing it all the time now. If I give her a cracker and when she wants another one she screams. I try signing with her and she knows a few but won't use them. I hate to see her grow up fast but I hope this stage passes quickly!
 
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