I just don't know how to handle my toddler (ds, 23 months). He is completely and utterly out of control. And I feel exactly the same way (out of control). I think my husband also feels at a loss. Ds is incredibly "spirited" and incredibly smart and I don't know what I've done wrong but I can't deal with him at all anymore. it's like he is on hyperdrive at all times. OK, examples: he runs away from me constantly and especially if there is a busy road around. He laughs when I tell him how scary that is for me. If I yell at him (yes, lately I have been really yelling at him) he just laughs and does it more. I can't take him anywhere. At the park, he pushes any child that gets near him. He takes any toys away from any child he sees. He throws things at me. He says "don;t throw at mommy", and then laughs and throws whatever he is holding at me. He especially hits and throws stuff at me when me husband is home. HE waits for DH to look at him and then he runs over and hits me. Of course DH freaks out. Often then DS will run to his room and sit on his bed like he is taking a time out. He won't take a nap for me. He won't go to bed for me. He just laughs and bounces on the bed and refuses to lay down. We can do this for three hours and then he will succumb to exhaustion and sleep. He goes to sleep in 20 minutes for my husband, I can't even give him a bath. He splashes water at me and laughs hysterically. I say, "remember, I don't want to get wet right now", or "why don't you splash the wall", or just plain "cut it out", and the response is always the same. He just does it more and as much as fast as he can, laughing and laughing and laughing. I could go on and on. He is like a tornado. I am 8 months pregnant and I just find myself reduced to tears over him constantly. No matter where we go or what we do, he is always the loudest, fastest, most "poorly behaved" child. I am so tired of having my parenting being in the spotlight all the time. And did I mention the endless temper tantrums??? Constant, over everything. What do I do? I can't even believe I am going to have a new baby in 7 weeks, and am going to be dealing with ds and a newborn and no sleep. I can't do it. I just feel horrible. I have become a terrible mother. I yell at him at least daily and I feel horrible about that. So horrible. I'm just at my wits end. I feel like such a failure.