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DH's sister is a suck up b*#@%. I don't like to be around her because she's always making judgmental comments. I apologize that this will get long but there's NO other way here. DH is sick of hearing me complain.<br><br>
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Last year my dearest friend was working and the Sexy store she works in was held up. My friend was tied up gagged and almost abducted. She's smart so she was able to avoid the worst parts of this tragedy. When I said something about C's ordeal my SIL asked where she worked. I told her and SIL's respose was "oh, then she asked for it since she works THERE". Mind you "there" is ONLY three blocks from SIL's precious stuck up village home.<br><br>
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SIL forced her youngest DD into getting an American girl doll because her older sister's had them. She didn't want the dumb thing and she still doesn't play with it at ALL. It's still in the box.<br><br>
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Same child that didn't want the doll has been sucking her middle two fingers since she was about 12 mos old. She's turning 8 and still does this. It was decided between SIL and her Dh that they cancel the child's birthday party with our family until she can "stop sucking her fingers".<br><br>
Who the HELL does this to a child? Taking her family out of her birthday because of something that THEY caused? SIL admits that they took her DD's bottle too early. Who gives a crap if E sucks her fingers when she's tired. She doesn't do it in school. It's because "if she goes to an overnighter with friends she might get made fun of". OKAY so can you tell this keeping up appearances sharade makes me angry.<br><br>
She's so stinking stuck up. I can't stand how she is. UGH!!!!<br><br>
Would it be wrong of me to try to do something for E behind SIL's back? I think it's cruel.
 

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Do you mean celebrate her birthday?<br>
I think you could take her out for a day, make it more of the time together rather than a present. Maybe don`t tell SIL it is a birthday thing...<br>
sounds like you parent differently..
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It must be hard to watch somebody treat their kids like that. I'm upset just reading what you wrote. I'd def take her out. I wouldn't say that it was anything about her birthday, just special auntie time.
 

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Yeah, I want to say that it's because my DD misses her (because that's NOT a lie). I want to take them to a movie and get them something special like matching shirts and hair pretties. My DD really looks up to E.
 

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First of all, I can see why you are upset and glad you could vent here. Dealing with inlaws can be a pain in the ash. I actually like my sister in law, but even we tend to butt heads over family time and parenting philosophies from time to time.<br><br>
Having said that, I never agree with undermining another parent's authority (assuming no major abuse of course). Just because you disagree with their parenting choices doesn't mean that you have a right to go behind their back. Given the fact that you don't like her parenting abilities, I'm sure you wouldn't like it if she decided to usurp your authority with getting all buddy buddy with your kids when they are being punished.
 
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