[Raene]

Our 5 y.o. is extra-challenging lately with lots of talking back, whining, etc. DH thinks I don't do anything to change the behavior, but I'm always worried I'll do the wrong thing.

We have and have read Between Parent and Child and How To Talk So Kids Will Listen. I would love more books that are anti-spanking, anti-time-out, and more along the lines of fitting the "punishment" with whatever the child has done wrong, instead of something irrelevant. Hope that makes sense.

Thanks!

 

[foreverinbluejeans]

Just having the books doesn't do any good, you got to put it to practice

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[Lindsay1234]

My dd1 (7) did all that when she was 4 and 5. I tried to read books but Its so hard to implement everything they say (especially getting dh on the same page too).
My strategy, no talking to me in a whiny voice, I wont answer. I say "Try again in a non-whiny voice"
As for the talking back, same thing. I told her (immediately when she talked back) "You are not to talk to me or anyone that way, its rude and will only get you in trouble. Do it again, no tv for 2 days." (or whatever) and follow through. Also, get DH on board!!! If he hears you say something to her he can say (gently) "Your mothers right, that is talking back and its not allowed" (or something along those lines.

I found that if Im really precise with my dd, she gets it fast!!
Good luck!!!

 

[babsbob]

Watch Mary Poppins

I use her "gentle but firm" tone while saying "please talk to me a calm voice" or "we don't talk like that to people. Please go calm down and come back when you can talk to me calmly." or whatever. You can't go wrong if you are calmly requesting he treat you respectfully.