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I generally don't like cats.<br><br>
I've had three total. I've been cat free (and loving it!) for more than a year.<br><br>
I have two german shepherds and three homeschooled kids (including a 12mo baby.) My girls have 3 rats that I care for about half the time. My husband works crazy hours, the baby is an insomniac daredevil (climbing on chairs! at 12mos!) my house is always a wreck, and I'm terrible at saying no. Sure! I love your kid! I'll watch her while the babysitter is on vacation! Lead the Cloverbuds? No problem! I love the things I do, I just sign up for too many of them & wind up feeling overextended.<br><br>
So there's this cat at my mom's house. Someone dumped him (she lives in the country.) She has too many cats & she's not keeping him. He's a 4-5mos old, and he has attitude to spare. He's friendly, but not obnoxious. He oozes personality. I adore him.<br><br>
My aunt recently had a litter of kittens at her house. They were beautiful and healthy 8week olds. She offered us one. It was so easy to say no! I'm not a sucker for cute or fluffy or anything like that. With me, it's all about the personal connection. This guy grabbed me.<br><br>
My husband is a good man. He humors me. He really doesn't want a cat, but if I bring one home, it will be ok. When I called him at work and asked him to bring home a case of paper towels b/c I volunteered to foster two rottweiler puppies for a few weeks, he just laughed.<br><br>
I am afraid that the additional responsibility is just too much. How on earth will I keep my girls from letting the cat out? The back door is opened 50 times a day! How will I keep the cat safe from the maniacal baby? I am all ready doing some major juggling to keep my poor, patient dogs out of baby's grasp. I really do not have the time or inclination to keep up with a litter box. I totally don't have time to keep up with grooming another beast (he has a crazy fluffy coat.)<br><br>
But I like him. A lot. I was just thinking of how nice it would be if I were sitting here typing with him on my lap. Not <i>a</i> cat--<i>this</i> cat.<br><br>
Help me be strong! It makes no sense to bring any cat into our home--not even this one.<br><br>
I should just find him a home instead--right??
 

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I don't know, I'm all about the connection too and it would be pretty hard for me to say no in your shoes.<br><br>
That said, I have a maniacal baby too! He was climbing chairs and making up his own gymnastic moves at 12 months, and now at 19 months he climbs the bookshelf like a ladder and moves chairs around to climb on other things or access things that I don't want him to get. Babyproofing against him is insane <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Now he knows how to take the plug blocker things out of the plugs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
He went into my bedroom one day about a month ago, I finished up what I was doing before following him. After all, it was about a two minute thing, and the bedroom is completely babyproof. When I went in there, the dog was closely supervising the baby- who was <i>sitting on top of the dresser</i> happily reading my 10 year old son's history text. He had moved a chair that was in the bedroom and climbed right up.<br><br>
I use him as an excuse to myself for lots of things- not getting a kitten among them. I don't have any clue how I'd keep him away from a litterbox.
 

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OMG. Thank you for understanding about the maniacal baby!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
He currently has a black eye (well, it's green now,) a skinned nose, and vertical bruise/lump on his forehead. Three separate incidents. I know about babyproofing--my house is as baby proofed as it gets!! I've had three kids of my own, I care for my niece and nephew all the time, and I'm a retired daycare provider! I have never encountered a baby like this!! He went straight from crawling to running. He has no fear, zero sense of self preservation, and he's unbelievably fast and capable. I keep him in the ergo as much as I can, but he wants to GO!<br><br>
I know one day soon I'm going to find him on a dresser. Or the refrigerator.<br><br>
On the one hand, it would be really nice to not have to worry about a cat. On the other, it would be awesome to pour out my troubles to an understanding cat....
 

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Sorry, can't do it. It sounds like you and the cat have a connection. And, I may be wrong here, but it sounds like you want us to tell you that it's OK to take the cat. So take it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yeah, mine has a giant bruise and two smaller bruises on his forehead, three separate incidents the other day. He's my fifth and I never felt like any of the older ones had a death wish <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Oh, I can't talk you out of it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
When I was looking for my bluegirl, Heaven (see siggy) the breeder started telling me about her brother (who wasn't available at that time). But, she shared stories about him and what he was like...and I felt completely pulled to that cat. And, I would ask about him sometimes!<br><br>
After Heaven came to live with us (and she is WONDERFUL and was great with our family) the breeder offered me her brother. I lept at the 'Chance' (which is his name).<br><br>
If there ever wasn't a cat in my life that was more bonded to me. He's always on my lap. He crawls up my chest and nuzzles my neck. He greets me every morning, comes to sleep next to my pillow at night. Talks to me, and is such a cuddler.<br><br>
What can I say other than this funny, quirky and playful cat is probably one of the GREATEST stress releases in my life! Everybody loves him, but they can all tell that he and I have that special bond. That kind of relationship doesn't come around often (having had multiple experiences exhibiting, handling and even some breeding in cats this is only the second cat I've bonded with like that in nearly two decades).<br><br>
So, if you get a "chance" (pun intended) I'd take it. And, I have a houseful of kids, one on the way and a whole lot of stuff going on. I'm really glad that I have this special guy in my life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
Your older two DDs are old enough, they can be taught about closing the door I would think.<br><br>
Sorry I've likely been no help. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 
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