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He's actually nearly 5. But he's SO full of himself. he doesn't say it much to me, but to other people. OF course other adults think it's cute that he'll carry on about how strong he is, or how smart he is, etc etc. He often gets quite carried away with himself and starts telling tall tales. Like at the thrift store he lifted a bowling ball, so he starting bragging to people that he was so strong he could lift a bowling ball. Then by about a week he was telling people he could lift 867 bowling balls! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
It seems annoying when he starts bragging to other children. Like he's trying to impress them?<br><br>
Yesterday, I was trying to be a good neighbor. We are rural, so only have 1 neighbor and they are retired. their grandkids were visiting, and it's a newly built home, so not terribly child-friendly yet. Anyhow, we walked over to see if they'd like to come over and play in our yard (this was a 3yoG, 5yoG and 8yoB) The 8yo was an absolute brat and said he didn't even want to play with DS no matter where they played! ugh. So we came back home and DS was feeling a bit rejected (who wouldn't?). The neighbor kids wandered over after a few minutes. The 8yo was followed and mimicked by his 5yo sister. He walked around our yard surveying everything as if to approve or judge it. DS was obviously feeling defensive! So when the 8yo started bragging to DS, ("I can skip monkey bars, can you?") DS started making up things to impress the kid ("I can skip 3 monkey bars", "I can ride my bike up a tree"). Then the 8yo would say, "DO it! Show me right now!" I just wanted to tell both of them to SHUT UP! But I held my tongue hoping they would resolve it. They went into the house and the 8yo told DS he didn't like any of his toys and wouldn't play with him. After about 10-15 min. of this boy not playing and just being mean, he walked home (no goodbye or anything). Left DS crying and saying he never wanted to see them again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
This was terribly upsetting for me. We are used to hanging out with older kids, but they are all homeschooled. So his public-schooled kids exposure has been slim. Was my DS at fault for this? Will he grow out of this stupid fibbing stuff? Is it normal for an 8yo boy to try and NOT make friends with new people?<br>
I know, two problems at once, but I just don't know what to think now! Any words of wisdom?
 

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My dd sounds a little like your son, not so much tall tales, but more "my name is (princess of the day)". For her, kids either walk away like she is crazy, say they don't want to play, or get all into it and start a make-believe world. If the kids get too arumentative I will intervene. Sounds like the older child was just rude and not a good playmate match to begin with.
 
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