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dd is 20 months old, and we made a big move almost a month ago. she seems to be adjusting to our new lifestyle (we were totally urban, and now, we're in a smaller city, not so urban lifestyle). she had some sleep issues and was very very attached for a couple of weeks. those have evened out, replaced by extreme...tantrums. they include everything from whining to crying to throwing herself on the floor to throwing things and hitting dh and i in anger to throwing herself into walls or hitting her head off of things. i'm very concerned. she's always been an independent little girl, with very clear preferences to what she wants, but talking through things with her and nursing to help her calm down always worked, and there were rarely tantrums. now it is EVERY time she can't have something. or at other odd times. the other day she was eating lunch and she signed "all finished", so i started to clean her up and took the tray off of her chair. she was fine, and then all of a sudden she slammed her head into the chair and ran into a door, and then threw herself on the floor and screamed. i have no idea. she seems really impulsive all of a sudden. she was always an observer and very even tempered until a few weeks ago...what happened??!!??! i'm having a hard time taking her out, because she may blow up.<br><br>
is such a sudden change normal for a toddler? are there things that can cause this? is it a stage? i'm not sure how to help her, i can't handle the physical violence, and i'm concerned that there is a bigger issue here. i don't even know where she's picking these violent behaviors up. they're certainly not happening at our house, and she's never away from us. help!
 

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It is par for the course. Moves are so difficult for little ones. Try to embrace the move by introducing her to some things or places unique to the area. Also try reworking her sleep pattern. Lay down with her of you can as just snuggle. There are many great books on moving as well. Good Luck. It will get better.
 

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So totally normal! My dd and I moved to a new state in May, then moved to a different place (the first one wasn't right for a single mama and young kid) the beginning of this month, and DD is definately showing some signs of all that. She gets really freaky when I put things away ("pack? move?"), but she does seem to be finally adjusting. It's really scary for them, they don't understand what happened, and it just takes some time. Hugs!
 

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This is normal. And will pass...Soon? I wish I could say yes, but we haven't moved, and I am seeing this with my 21 mo old dd...it is the beginning of the Terrible Two's! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br>
I am sure some of it is move related, but part of it is just the age, I'm afraid.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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thanks for the reassuance. i figured it was normal......but.......it is different when it is your child acting like a banche.<br><br>
i also found 4 partially emerged 2 year old molars in her mouth today. duh.
 

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OK, molars will do it too!! So often my parenting, despite my best efforts, seems to be hindsight like that too!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
ETA: I love your blog, mama! My little one is Ella Bunny! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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