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Friend: How long are you planning on breastfeeding?<br><br>
Me: Oh, I don't know, until DD is ready to wean.<br><br>
Friend: Wide eyed and shocked voice...really!?<br><br>
Me: Well, yeah. I mean, I'm sure when she really starts eating solids she'll probably decrease her nursing sessions, but I'm hoping she'll be at least 2 1/2 before she decides she's done. And hopefully then she'll still want nighttime nursies.<br><br>
Friend: Well, you KNOW you can't nurse while you're pregnant.<br><br>
Me: Really? I was planning to, and hopefully tandem nurse when DC2 is born.<br><br>
Friend: Breastfeeding while pregnant causes miscarriages. I had a friend who was 8 months pregnant and she nursed her other child and went into early labor. Her baby was born dead.<br><br>
Me: Shocked...utter disbelief<br><br>
So, mamas...do I have anything to be worried about? We haven't TTC DC2 yet, but I'm a little worried. Not that I believe everything everyone says, but I've NEVER heard of this before. Any thoughts??
 

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I hope not, because I'm nursing my 2.5 y/o and pregnant! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I have to say, tho', nursing while pregnant has not been my fave thing and I am actively trying to wean by 3/when the babe will arrive. I'm not afraid of miscarriage since I'm not high-risk, just uncomfortable!<br><br>
I've known a couple of moms IRL who nursed/tandem nursed through pregnancy and none of them had any problems other than occasional discomfort. A great book for info is <span style="text-decoration:underline;">Adventures in Tandem Nursing</span> and of course there's Kellymom.org<br><br>
I *think* the issue is b/f can cause contractions because it releases the hormone oxytocin, but so does orgasm, and plenty of pregnant mamas don't give those up either! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I nursed DS through my pregnancy with DD with no problems. Even though I did have preterm labor during my first pregnancy, I had no problems during my 2nd pregnancy and DD was a nice, chubby 10 lbs.<br><br>
I'm currently tandem nursing my 3 year old DS and 16 month old DD through my 3rd pregnancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i nursed dd all the way thru my pregnancy with ds. nothing happened.
 

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Me too! I nursed dd#1 all through my pregnancy with no problems. I will agree that it wasn't the most comfortable thing because my nips were definitely in pain from pregnancy and it hurt to nurse, but we pulled through. My milk supply dropped way down as was expected, but I had a determined nursling who kept on going. Now we still tandem nurse almost a year later. My Mom looked at me horrified when I told her we were bf'ing while pg. From what I have read it is perfectly fine unless you are high risk or perhaps have a risk of going into preterm labor. I have also read that it may not be wise if you are pg with twins. Most of the hype is all myth and the stigma surrounding bf'ing in this country, at least with mainstream. Luck to you!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Don't listen to that! I am pregnant & nursing DD...it's fine.
 

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I nursed my DS all through the pregnancy for DD. Every second or third or fourth child in my immediate family was carried to term while thier older sibling (or in one case sibling<b>s</b>" nursed! We are a tribe of tandem and triandem nursers!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Friend: Breastfeeding while pregnant causes miscarriages. I had a friend who was 8 months pregnant and she nursed her other child and went into early labor. Her baby was born dead.</div>
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That is awful for that mama, but I am sure it was not at all related to breastfeeding! Even if in the VERY UNLIKELY event that bf caused these contractions, then the baby would have been born premature. A stillborn baby is a completely different situation than preterm contractions and I sure hope the womans Dr did a thorough investigation as to what the cause was and did not blame bf! BF causing a baby to be stillborn is unheard of.<br><br>
Here is some info for you to read and ease your mind:<br><a href="http://kellymom.com/bf/tandem/index.html" target="_blank">http://kellymom.com/bf/tandem/index.html</a>
 

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Well, you can tell her that I nursed my daughter (a LOT) through my pregnancy and my son was born (at home) two days late and perfectly healthy. Imagine that.<br><br>
Anyway, I *did* choose to have my progesterone tested when I found out I was pregnant to make sure that I wouldn't miscarry. I was worried because my period had been very flukey following low progesterone symptoms. Because it was low, I used progesterone supplements for the first trimester. It is true that breastfeeding can make it more difficult to concieve and if you do more difficult to keep the baby, but once the placenta forms (around 10 weeks ish?) you're good to go unless you're high risk from something else. Breastfeeding can mess with your progesterone levels. It's not a problem for a lot of people, though. My daughter was only 9 months old and nursing *a lot* when I got pregnant, and I just didn't want to chance it, you know?<br><br>
That said... tandem nursing has been one of the most difficult things I've done in my life. I don't think I'd choose to do it again unless my children are very close in age. Nursing through my pregnancy was fine but it was HORRIBLE for the first two or so months after my son was born. I know some people have lovely tandem nursing relationships, but from what I understand my experience has not been so unusual.
 

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I am so sorry for her friend <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Specially because she probably now blames herself for maybe having caused her baby's death - when it can't be true!<br><br>
I breastfed through pregnancy in the past. Never a problem.<br>
I have many friends who did/do it too
 

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I've breastfed through two pregnancy's and I have three healthy children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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There's no evidence at all supporting this. I was worried about this as well, since I had 2 m/c's, but I now know it's a myth. I am 9 weeks pregnant and nursing my 2 and a half y.o. toddler <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. Women around the world nurse while pregnant and beyond. A book to get is "Adventures in Tandem Nursing", the author reviews a lot of the research and it really helped me separate truth from fiction. I feel so sorry for that poor woman whose baby was stillborn <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. It's just awful if her doctor blamed her by suggesting this happened because of nursing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. How tragic to lose a child, how terrible to be made to feel guilty over this.<br><br>
ETA: It is true that at first it's uncomfortable. My nipples *really* hurt, but it got better after the first month.<br><br>
GL!<br><br>
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I talked to my m/w about this, and she said that while nursing does stimulate oxytocin, that's only for the first few weeks. So when I started a new job 20+ weeks pregnant, she said not to pump because the different stimulation from the pump could cause new oxytocin production, but if I'd been pumping all along it wouldn't have been a problem. The fact is, by that time my milk production had decreased so far there wasn't much point in pumping anyway. Rare is the mother who will <i>start</i> nursing late enough in the pregnancy that oxytocin production would cause early labor!<br><br>
Oh, and for the record, I never really found nursing while pregnant to be uncomfortable. Well, there was the week when DS was trying all sorts of new things to stimulate milk production (at least, I think that was what was going on -- he was only 7 months old), like popping off and yanking my breast down as far as it could go, nursing upside down (I'd be lying in bed, and he'd gradually work his way so that his body was flung over my face and his head hanging down over my chest with his latch intact), etc. -- that sort of abuse did leave me aching a couple of times -- but it wasn't the pregnancy hormones!
 

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For a start, a 36 week baby is HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY unlikely to die because of prematurity, and to be stillborn because of prematurity, at that gestation is even more unlikely.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So, mamas...do I have anything to be worried about? We haven't TTC DC2 yet, but I'm a little worried. Not that I believe everything everyone says, but I've NEVER heard of this before. Any thoughts??</div>
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It <i>was</i> true for me, BUT - they were early losses (1st T), AND we have an anecdotal family history of BFing correllating with early MC going back 100 years. It's also rare, and probably related to vitamin/mineral deficiency, metabolic disorders, other reproductive issues, etc. I did a poll in pregnancy and birth loss about this very thing, and the results/comments, so far, indicate that.<br><br>
If there is no family history of it, I would not worry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">its a myth, unless you are a high risk pregnancy, you have nothing to worry about.</div>
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