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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>TwinsTwicePlusTwo</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/13708133"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Sorry so long on answering this--not much activity on the thread and I lost track of it. No, I'm not legally married to both. I used to be legally married to Dallas, but am in the process of dissolving the legal aspects of that marriage as a political protest against Oklahoma's marriage laws. A group of us are all dissolving our marriages. We'll remarry when Oklahoma grants the right of marriage to all consenting adults (meaning the day after never <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">). Legal marriage for all or legal marriage for none.</div>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">eilonwy, it sounds like things are going really well for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I don't have much advice about introducing your kids to a new partner since mine have been raised poly. I did tell them when I resumed my relationship with my best friend, but they didn't have much of a reaction. DD1 "didn't want to hear about my sex life" and DD2 hoped that it would mean she got to go to BF's apartment and watch cable TV more often. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> My youngest still don't comprehend monogamy.</td>
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<span>This is the first time I've wanted to introduce the kids to someone with whom I'm having a relationship. It hasn't come up before, because in my opinion they're too young to know about my sex life... but this relationship goes far beyond sex. When you're talking about changing living arrangements then yeah, it's time to meet the kids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"></span><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I wish I knew for sure whether I'm pregnant by one of my husbands or by my BF, though. They're all white and of Irish descent, so I guess I'll be doing a DNA test after the baby is born.<br><br>
BTW, I had my US today. I'm having one healthy boy, EDD 9/29. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
How am I supposed to fill out the birth paperwork not knowing who the father is, though? *sigh*</td>
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<span>Women do it all the time, actually. Assuming that you know who the father/s of your older children are, though, it might be easier for you to tell than you think. Kids bear a striking resemblance to their fathers even on ultrasound in a lot of cases. I'd sit down with the three of them and discuss the matter-- what do they want to do, how will the child be raised, etc. It might be easiest just to put your [currently legal] husband's name on the birth certificate; Women do that when it's not 100%, too, and it's rarely called into question.</span>