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Oh thank heavens for this thread.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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<span>It went unbelievably well, it did. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">: The kids love him, and he loves them. Bean couldn't get enough of him-- he kept telling me it was his turn to play with HRH. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> He's absolutely enamored. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I couldn't have asked for much more... except for HRH to stay. I miss him terribly when he's not here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</span>
 

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gotta get rid of this
 

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great news eilonwy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
letabug, i have no idea about us military stuff, so no help sorry.<br><br>
i haven't been on this tribe much lately, mostly due to restricted internet time and more study time... anyway, my "ex" DW came up to visit us this month - I say "ex" because though we haven't really been together for 8 years, we never actually broke up, and we still have feelings for each other. I just moved to another country and geography came between us. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br>
so, meanwhile, i met dp, got pg and married him, she met jesus and became a christian, and now has a serious bf, with plans to marry (tho no official engagement yet, and they're <i>waiting</i> till they get married).<br><br>
anyway, DW came up for a visit, ostensibly to have some time away from the city and with intentions of remaining "just friends".<br>
of course, once together, all the old love feelings came up again, and we ended up back together. well at least in bed. (no complaints here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">)<br>
so it's led to an interesting dynamic. DP and DW ended up connecting as well (they met when dw and i got married 8 years ago), and dw and dd like each other as well.<br>
now she's considering coming to live with us permanently, and we're planning all going camping at a rainbow gathering next month...<br>
should be interesting <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hi! I'm sorry I haven't read this whole thread (its really long) but I just wanted to pop in. My dh and I are theoretically poly.<br><br>
I am so happy I found this place, it felt so weird to be on the mainstream pregnancy boards. Anyway, not much of substance, just introducing myself and saying hi!
 

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welcome remijo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome"><br>
sounds like you've found the right place <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<span>My redhead lives in Philly; I can't see him more often than once a week but we email one another constantly. I'd luuuuuurve to have him for longer.<br><br>
I'm waiting for his train now, actually. We're going to have a nice, quiet weekend because we've been insanely busy the past couple and we both need the break. I'm stoked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> For some reason, he always seems farthest away on Fridays when he's going to be here later. Well, it seemed strange to me but it made sense to *him*, so I suppose that's all good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
He's wonderful. I'm gonna keep him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:</span>
 

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Sounds like things are going well for most everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It's good to hear.<br><br>
*glances back through the posts* I never posted here about Mom's blow up the week or two before Mother's Day. Let's just say she had lots of nasty feelings to vent about my loved ones. It left me devastated, and I'm still hurting a month later.<br><br>
So she called up yesterday and asks, "What do you hear from [the couple]? You haven't talked about them much lately." "I didn't know how much you wanted to hear about them," was my reply. What I was thinking was, "Gee, Mom. I don't suppose it would have anything to do with my being completely intimidated by you after all you said?"<br><br>
I'm not even comfortable talking to Dad about them, anymore. He just shook his head at her outburst, and doesn't understand the point of starting WWIII over the situation. I know he's just as angry, unhappy, and hateful of them as she is -- he just has enough sense not to come out and say anything.<br><br>
So they don't know that boyfriend's workplace held a surprise baby shower last week (they were extremely generous!). Or that his parents have offered to let me move in. There really isn't a point in factoring my family into that decision -- conflict is inevitable. The only thing I can do is try to steel myself for the next fall out.<br><br>
I've already expressed to Mom and Dad that I don't feel like their families care about my pregnancy. I never hear from anybody. Just, "Oh, [family member] was asking how you were doing the other day." I don't even know who to send birth announcements to. I feel like the rainbow sheep, seeing as being anything but hetero-normative in my family is equivalent to being the black sheep.<br><br>
Blah. Anyway. Enough ranting and venting from me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<span>My mom thinks I'm strange too, but that's really nothing new. The most recent question she's asked about tHRH? "So when are you going to marry him?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> She'll probably groan at me if I get pregnant before we're ready... but that's very unlikely to happen, so <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> on her. (Besides; I still have four kids in carseats. It's not like I could fit another into the minivan!)<br><br>
Serenekitten, I think you're probably right to exclude your parents from your decision-making these days. You're a grownup, and you can show them that you are actually capable of making reasonable decisions for yourself even if they're not the ones that your parents would have made... right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"></span>
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> SK<br>
I'd agree with eilonwy on this. but I know how hard it can be.<br>
anyway, moving in with his parents sounds like a great move <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oof. After extensive negotiation I'm sort of officially rejoining this group because my husband isn't ok with the celibacy our monogamy has become. I don't really blame him. It's feeling really hard and scary though. I am absolutely freaking out about him having a date on Friday. I feel so intimidated and insecure. I trust him and I trust the girl he is going out with but it's...hard. I don't know.<br><br><br>
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH STUPID FEELINGS!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I'm sorry you're freaking out. a bit of freaking out sounds pretty normal, BUT, i believe polyamoury can really only work if everyone involved is comfortable with it. your feelings aren't stupid and imo best to talk about all this with your dh.
 

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We've talked and talked and talked and talked. Most of the time I'm ok with the idea. Then I start feeling insecure and neurotic. Then I freak out. I kind of wish I were a more confident person so that this didn't feel like such a statement of my inadequacy.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> since you know that it's not a statement of your inadequacy, then focus on your self esteem. check your sig line again; i couldn't give any advice better than that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> you aren't inadequate; you are you, and perfect as you are. your partner knows that and loves you for it.
 

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I haven't been following this thread so much, so I'm not sure of the situation. I have a couple of times in poly situations asked DH to help me set up something fun for myself when he's going out on a date. Not like a regular thing, but literally 3-4 times in our poly lives. For various reasons, those particular dates he was going on felt threatening to me, and I needed a distraction at the time. He's always been game for that, and I've always made it clear that I don't expect it to become a whiney nor regular situation. I went to a Harry Potter movie with some friends, had a friend over and ordered in pizza and chatted, that kind of thing.<br><br>
It helped in all those situations that the friends helping out were poly or poly-knowledgable, so I could say "Soooo... what do you think they're doing NOW?" and get a helpful response like "Eviesmom, you know asking that isn't going to make you more comfortable, right? Let's go watch our girlie-drama-movie, shall we?" instead of helping me spin those anxiety wheels or questioning poly when I'm feeling most vulnerable.
 

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Thank you ladies so much. I will be going out with a friend even before the date starts. It's slightly annoying that I can't be out/distracted through the whole date because it is going really late and I have to go home so the baby can go to bed.<br><br>
I'm feeling much better today after making him talk to me for like four hours last night. God I'm glad I married a talker. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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Hello! So I'm kind of new to poly (though I've lurked here for a couple years on and off... lol) and I finally found a girlfriend who is into it as well! We're mostly into each other right now (yay NRE!! it's only a few months old... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) so neither of us are doing much other dating right now, but we'd like to possibly eventually form a triad in the future; probably another womyn since (bio)men don't really float my boat. She has an out of town bf, but I've only gone on a couple casual coffee dates with others. We really enjoy gushing to each other about our crushes though... heehee... We'll see what the future holds! I'm so excited!
 

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yay erthe mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> sounds great!
 

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hi there. just found the poly parenting thread! yay! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
i am a queer poly mama-to-be who is due in january 2010. my primary partner is a man and he is the father of this child. i also have relationships with a couple others (male and female), nothing serious yet, as this year we are taking it slow (probably wise).<br><br>
excited to be here!
 
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