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My 3 1/2 year old ds pees in the potty every time, but he thinks he's supposed to poop in his underwear, then go put it in the potty! I've explained it to him, I've caught him a couple of times when I knew he was going and put him on the toilet. I even went out and bought him a little potty that he could sit on and dump it inthe toilet by himself, but he just doesn't seem to care! I caught him one time standing right next to the toilet going!! I don't know what to do. I don't know if he still wants to be a baby, if he needs some more attention, or what? Anybody got any suggestions? I even told him we'd buy Rescue Hero underwear when he started pooping in the toilet. Nothing! When I ask him why, he'll say, "I needed to poop in the toilet." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> We've discussed big boys and babies and all that. It's really very frustrating! Anyway, thanks for any ideas you can give me.
 

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I bet that would be frustrating, knowing he "knows" he's pooping. I think you're on the right track with explaining to him each time. When dd does an "undesireable" thing (of any sort) I usually say, "Next time let's "x."" "Next time you can go poop in the potty!" "Next time keep the bowl on the table." etc. Has he watched you poop? Dd is very interested when we poop and usually checks out the result in the toilet bowl and I tell her what I'm doing. TMI, I know, LOL! She usually runs away saying, "Mommy EWWWWW!!"
 

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Oh My HECK!!!!!(that's what we say in Utah!!!) My son was also a Feb. 2000 baby AND he refuses<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> !!! to poop in the potty or toliet too!!! I'm sooooo glad I'm not alone in the poopoo battles! My darling sweet baby doesnt put his poop in the toliet to flush. Oh NO, he just poops in his big boy sponge bob underwear and continues playing!!! So after a few hours the house starts to reek and I ask him, "Riley, are you poopy?" and he says No or the other day he said, "Nope, some kid came and pooped in my pants when I wasnt looking and then he ran off!"He said it so cute(he has a squeeky cute voice) that I just hugged him! His poops are usually soft and runny so it is the JOY of my day to PEEL crappy<br>
underwear down his legs...smearing the whole way down <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br>
So....as long as he's poopoo trained by the time he gets married, I'll be happy! Good Luck
 

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Try taking away the undies and stay at home for a few days so that he is forced to either go on the toilet or on the floor. If he goes on the floor teach him how to wrap tp around the poop and carry it to the toilet. That's what we did for my dd. It finally clicked for her last week.<br><br>
The other alternative is to give him a diaper when it's time for him to poop and just let it go for now.<br><br>
Good luck!<br><br>
Darshani
 

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I agree with Darshani, take away the underwear. If your child poops on the floor, there will be a definite result and consequence. Have the child help you clean up. Otherwise, the kid will realize, uh oh, I have nothing on, I have to go in the toilet!<br>
Good luck.<br>
Meg<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hippie.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hippie">
 

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I don't know--the time I caught him standing next to the toilet pooping, he was naked. Plus, up till now, he would just take his underwear off and use his hands to put it the toilet, so I don't know if picking it up off the floor would matter to him either. But I told him to quit doing that cause I wouldn't realize that's what had happened because he would get dressed again, and he wasn't washing his hands! YUCK!!
 

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My dd would also poop in her underwear or on the floor for a full month after being completely pee-trained. I knew another mom whose three-year-old did this. I think it happens a lot and one day they just poop in the potty. I remmeber wishing that day would come sooner when I was cleaning poop out of underwear...
 

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We have been going through this too, but today, out of the blue Echo went to the Potty and pulled down her panties and pooped ALL BY HERSELF! Then she came out and said "mommy, I made poops" so I could come see. We made a big deal of flushing, did a happy dance, made a picture for daddy about it for when he comes home and called grandma to tell her. She was so proud and said she wants to do it that way frm now on. We'll see <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: but this is major progress. She's been peeing in the potty reliably for over a week. Yesterday she asked for a diaper instead of big girl panties, but still used the potty, and today she wanted panties again and made poops<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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By some fluke, my ds trained himself early and never looked back. Until school started for me this year and our schedule was different. Same drill, pee in the potty, poop in the underwear. After the thrid time we told him that he needed to decide if he was wearing a diaper or underwear. If he choose diaper he needed to know he'd have to lay down like a baby to be changed, and if he choose underwear, he'd have to put all his pee and poop in the potty. We made it clear that the choice was his and that it didn't matter to us what he chose (as far as he knew<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> ). He choose undies and the issue was resolved.<br>
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I also have done the go naked from the waist down strategy and my ds just poops on the floor and his poop has always been puddingish so its an ordeal to clean (for me) . Even if I was to be consistent (which I admit Im obviously not) he would wait days to poop or he would go for it if I turned my back for 2 seconds. Making him clean it up is a traumatic humungous power struggle, I dont wish for either of us. I guess I hope the light would go on and he'll realize sooner (not soon enough for me) we do poop in our potty nor the pants. Ahhh, I just will be patient and continue asking if he needs to go potty and wait it out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 
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