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I am a SAHM, however I do work for 2 hours one eve a week. It is something I enjoy and have been doing for years. i have been on maternity leave for the last 3 1/2 months and went back two weeks ago. I was terrified ds would cry when I left him alone with my DH because he really doesn't like to be held by other people and just wants to be in my arms all day (which he is) But it came down to either I quit the job or I go back. I really couldn't put it off any longer. Well, it went OK the first time. DS just slept in DH's arms the whole time. But last night when I went, ds cried for an hour!! I feel horrible. DH called me and said "I can't get the baby to stop crying" but there was nothing I could do, I was a half hour away at that point. Anyways, I arrived home 30 minutes later and ds was asleep. I woke him up and cuddled with him and held him and slept with him in my arms all night. I don't know what to do. I don't want my baby to cry when I am gone. I don't do this job for the money, obviousely since it is just one eve a week, it is just to get a little sign language practice (I used to be an interpreter). I didn't have this issue with ds#1 because he always loved daddy. Should I quit??? I don't want to cause any emotional stress to my little baby.
 

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I think I would keep going. Your baby is with Daddy, and daddy is holding him, not putting him in a crib to cry alone, maybe this will help him bond with his father. It's entirely possible that it was a little bout of colic too and there wouldn't have been anything you could have done that your DH wasn't allready doing. Maybe wait a few weeks (since you only do this once a week) and see if it gets better or worse, or if it starts happening when you are home etc. I think one night isn't enough to base this decision on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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I ,too, say try again. Make sure that DH has a bottle of EBM just in case and continue working that one day. I would also be sure that DH understands that DS should NOT CIO. He should try and comfort him and if he can't, at least hold him so that DS is not crying alone. Mamas need a little time, too. This is YOUR break for the week. Your family can't possibly function well if you don't have a little mama time to recharge your batteries and renew your spirit, and it seems that this time away working is doing that for you. I believe that DHs also need to learn to comfort and bond with baby so that they too can have a special relationship.
 
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