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I'm doing my best to keep an open mind and I realize I am going to lose a million crunchy points by posting this on MDC but I am looking for people who have had positive induction or c-section ... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br>
On the small small chance I have no other options or it becomes an emergency, a true emergency, Id really like to be able to go into the situation not terrified and fully informed (I have been reading about all types of birth) without only having heard horror stories, something positive would be really nice to grasp onto when/if the moment comes.<br><br>
I believe life is 10% event and 90% attitude and if my 'worst fear' happen, Id like to be able to go into them with some peace and acceptance <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I think this is a great attitude with which to approach birth. Accepting that even a birth that doesn't follow your perfect, ideal plan can still be positive is a great way to set up your feelings about it, post-birth. I don't have a story to share, but I know there are several women here who have had positive induction and c/s experiences (they just haven't been able to be vocal about it.) PM me if you want their names, and I'll ask them.
 

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I'll publicly admit that I had an induction and it was fine.<br><br><br>
induced at 37w for PIH. I was 2 or 3 cm dialated and somewhat effaced. They started the pit at 9am. I was allowed to walk to the bathroom to pee as often as I liked. I got the epi around 1pm after excruciating back labor. It didnt take so I had a 2nd one an hour later.<br><br>
DD was born after not too long of pushing at all 10-15min? at 5:20. I got to hold her and nurse her immediately and then she was taken to the nursery to be checked b/c she was a little grunty. dh stayed w/her and she got a bath and was back with me by the time I was in my room. An hour?<br><br>
it wasnt the orgasmic birth I've heard talked about but truly it wasnt bad.<br><br>
I'm fighting tomorrow's induction b/c this is my last and I'm having a fantasy I can do it all natural. and I just didnt have a good feeling about it. but stress tests arent looking good, I'm no longer gaining weight (meaning I'm loosing weight b/c I'm hugely swollen) and I have pre-e. I've been doing everything I can to naturally induce since Th and I think its working. have some ctx, a little bloody show and I think if I dont go into labor today, the induction will be fine.<br><br>
no personal exp w/c-sections. My cousin had 2 at 35w w/help syndrome and her recovery was ok. I've had friends who have had repeat c-sections and were fine.<br><br>
I also dont think that medicalized ob/hospital care is the great evil that others believe it to be. Maybe I'm naive b/c I've had the luxury of good care providers in good hospitals but thats my personal experience.
 

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I was induced & felt things went quite well. I was admitted at 5:00 on Friday night, the nurse inserted the cervical gel at 6:00 & I started full out contractions at 7:00. I had ds at 5:20 Saturday morning. But other than the cervical gel they pretty much left me alone. I am very content with ds' birth & learned a lot for next time (I should have eaten/drank more while in labour to keep my energy up, etc.).<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I was induce at 41 weeks because I was turning into a human water balloon. There was some discussion, because I was showing no apparent ill effects other than drinking two Nalgene's of water per day and peeing maybe three times. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm still not convinced it was necessary, but...<br><br>
It went, I think, as well as can be reasonably expected. Induced at 8am, kid born by dinner time. 17 minutes of pushing. I credit our doula with being VERY good at finding ways to make me comfortable even with all the monitoring equipment. I was pretty close to popping, I think, and I'm pretty sure that helped. I had had a series of contractions that had started forming a pattern, and then faded away. I was 2-3 cm dialated and 50% effaced when we started.
 

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I totally agree that attitude and expectation are key.<br><br>
I wanted to at least try a natural birth, but homebirth wasn't something I would have considered. But when I was diagnosed with PIH at 28 weeks and started researching it, I knew that induction and/or c-section were very real possibilities, so I mentally prepared myself for that scenario. At 32 weeks I was diagnosed with severe preeclampsia and the baby needed to come out right away. It wasn't an emergency situation, but the perinatologist felt that the time it would take for an induction was just too risky. In other words, in another 24 hours, the baby could be dead.<br><br>
Within 2 hours of the diagnosis, I had my c-section. It was scary, but mostly because I was very sick and having a 32-weeker and didn't know what to expect. The procedure itself wasn't bad. I had a great anesthesiologist who stood by my head and brought me a pan to throw up in when my blood pressure plummeted from the epidural and I got sick. My husband was brought in after I was all prepped. My son wasn't in good shape when he came out - first Apgar was 1 - but the NICU staff was amazing. Once he was breathing on his own and wrapped up, ready to be taken to the NICU, a nurse brought him over to me and let me talk to him and kiss him first.<br><br>
DH went with him to the NICU, and the hardest part of the whole procedure was feeling alone and scared after they left and I was being stitched up. Once in recovery, my mom was allowed in, and DH came back with some pictures and updates on how our little dude was doing.<br><br>
I was on magnesium sulfate for 4 more days, so my recovery was different from "normal", but I was able to get up and walk around without too much pain after that. I even went to Costco and Babies R Us on the way home from the hospital, 5 days postpartum.<br><br>
My milk came in at about 3 days PP, and that was from pumping only.<br><br>
With #2, I also had severe preeclampsia. I hadn't even considered a VBAC after all the complications with DS, but it wouldn't have mattered anyway when it was time to deliver DD at 34 weeks. I was much less scared this time, especially since I knew that DD would be ok. I was just happy to get past 32 weeks with her.<br><br>
The procedure itself was again, not pleasant, but not awful. This time it was my OB doing the surgery, and I had the same anesthesiologist as with my son 4 years prior! DD came out much healthier than DS had, with Apgars of 5 and 9. DH got to hold her in the OR and in recovery, I got to have her in the bed with me. The nurses had us skin-to-skin, and I was able to bring her to the room with me, though later she ended up having to go to the NICU. I was able to nurse her in the room as well.<br><br>
I was discharged 2 days postpartum, and the only day that I was in a lot of pain was the day following discharge - the Motrin wasn't cutting it for me, but when I got Vicodin called in for me, I was fine. I didn't have to take any painkillers past 1 week IIRC.<br><br>
The most important thing with the pain is that you HAVE to keep ahead of it and take your meds on schedule. It's much easier to stay ahead of it than catch up with it. I had my tubes tied with DD, so there might have been a little more pain than otherwise. But it wasn't horrible.<br><br>
With both kids, I had to pump at first, but was able to successfully transition them to the breast. DS weaned at 22 months and DS is going strong at 7 months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My births weren't ideal by any stretch of the imagination, but I am grateful and fortunate that they both had good outcomes. My kids are happy and healthy, and so am I.<br><br>
I hope this helps a little, and I hope you get the birth you want!
 

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Hi there...although I am trying for a VBAC this time around, I actually feel like my DDs induction & eventual csec birth was amazing, beautiful & special. I would never let anyone here or IRL take that away from me!<br><br>
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I have PCOS & was taking metformin for years prior to getting pregnant. (we weren't actually married yet, I missed my pill for a couple days while waiting for my mail order refill & always thought I would have a hard time TTC when the time came so we didn't use back up protection-metformin really works for fertility!!!) Toward the end of the pregnancy, I needed insulin. A late U/S estimated the baby to be almost 9 1/2 lbs (DD was 9 1/2 lbs so in my case-it was very accurate) so I agreed to an induction a few days after my due date after trying lots of at home attempts.<br><br>
My Mom is a L&D nurse at a small hospital in my home town & although it was an hour away, I definitely wasn't going to deliver anywhere else. DH, my Mom & my sis in law were all there. We did cervadil the night before & it showed some progress so at 8am we started with pit. I did have to be hooked up to a monitor but I could take it off whenever I wanted & had freedom of movement. In between contractions, we finalized boy & girl middle names, watched TV, read magazines. I wasn't heavily managed at all.<br><br>
I got checked at 2pm because my contractions had become tough (damn pit) & I was only 5cms. I was so disappointed & now that I am taking a Bradley class I know this time, I will not get checked for AWHILE. I think I would have been better off not knowing because then all I could think about was the pain & how much longer I could wait to meet my baby, find out what it is etc. So I did have a rough time mentally after that check & I asked for the epi.<br><br>
By 9pm, I wanted to get checked again & I hadn't changed at all. There wasn't pressure to give up from anyone & my provider had said she would let me keep going till the next AM but I ended up giving up an hour or so later & having the csec. They let everyone scrub up & attend except my sis in law had to stand in a corner away from us a little bit. But my Mom & DH were right in there with my provider & both took a million pics. It didn't take that long, I was totally aware/alert & my Mom actually lifted her out along with my provider & was the 1st to see it was a girl & hold her which was really special to me. After they cut the cord, they brought her right to my face & her cheek rested on my cheek. Then DH held her while they finished up my surgery. DH & my Mom went to the nursery with her for a few minutes & then everyone met back in my room where we started trying to nurse. They did have to prick her heel a few times the 1st 24 hrs because I had been on insulin but her sugars were perfect so no need to deal with anything there. Because I felt so comfortable in this small, easy going hospital, knew everyone for 20 yrs & was the only patient we stayed as long as our insurance let us. My family lives 20 mins from there so everyone hung out the whole 5 days & my Mom worked nights the rest of that week so she was there every night with us. DH slept in the fold out chair right next to me. It was a really special time for the start of our family.<br><br>
The recovery was nowhere near as bad as I thought. Yes, I was sore but I didn't even take the percocets. I only took the heavy doses of ibuprofin which gave great relief.<br><br>
We did have some latch on issues & some would say it was because of the section & it being 30 mins or so before we got to nurse but honestly, I have 3 friends who home birthed & had major latch on issues with their 2nd, 3rd & 4th babies! And they are sisters whose Mom is a LC. Latch on issues can happen to anyone. So I had to pump a little bit early on but we survived it, never supplemented & here we are still nursing at 30 wks preg. (no milk though right now)<br><br>
I know my experience is different since it is the hospital my Mom works at, all her friends are my caregivers & it is a small hospital etc. But still-there was nothing horrible or nightmare-ish at all.<br><br>
I am delivering there again with the same team. I stayed on my metformin this time & the GD is totally under control. They let me skip the GTT tests & we are just checking my a1c every couple months along with my daily finger pricking. I am doing Bradley & we are discussing hiring a doula because I do want to try harder this time to tough it out. I also don't want to be in the hospital long because of DD. I have never been away from her overnight & with Swine Flu hype, I worry about her being allowed to be there with us in Feb. My provider is on board with everything I want & the only thing we are debating is what happens if I pass 41 weeks. That's when she gets a little anxious about "policy & procedures". But we are discussing it & options other than just a scheduled section which she knows I am against 100%.<br><br>
But again-the thing that bothers me most about a section this time is the fact I have DD...the process itself wasn't horrific at all. I also watched my sis in laws 2 sections from the same position she saw mine & there was love in the room, care, emotion...I think it's important we don't take that away from those of us who had positive experiences. Our babies were born healthy & it was just as magical & beautiful.<br><br>
I also agree with others-I don't see the evil in medicine & hospital births. Not all the interventions are necessary, but not all providers look to practice in an intervention manner. And I also can't forget about the many situations my Mom has been in as a L&D nurse where the technology saved someone.
 

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I was induced at 41 weeks, and I feel quite positively about my experience. I had planned a Bradley birth, but I did end up getting a low-dose epidural after several hours. I think I feel positively about it largely because I felt listened to. I really liked my OB. She totally supported me on a natural birth. I felt like she gave me the facts and let me make the decisions, which I liked.<br><br>
I was induced at 9am. I didn't start feeling contractions until 11am, so this is when the hospital chart recorded as the beginning of labor. DD was born at 11:30pm after an hour and a half of pushing. I was able to nurse right away with no problems.<br><br>
It wasn't quite what I planned, but I definitely am happy nonetheless. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Let me tell you my stories. First, for background:<br><br>
I had a bad experience with DD's hospital birth. We'd hoped to have a homebirth but risked out at about 30 weeks. Once I started labor, we went to the hospital and everything stalled. Eventually, they insisted that nothing was working (we'd been trying a combination of walking and a breast pump) and I needed to start a Pit drip. I asked to be left alone for an hour or so, just to see if things would pick up on their own, but I was not allowed that. Once Pit was started, I began to have horrific contractions and I managed to say no to pain meds only by virtue of the thought of a needle in my back being slightly more terrifying than the contractions.<br><br>
For my second birth, I again started with a homebirth midwife. My BP was a little high, but my MW was comfortable that it was reasonably controlled and not skyrocketing. My water broke on Wednesday morning. For the next few days, I had bouts of active-like labor that always seemed to stall out. Finally on Saturday evening something seemed to really be happening. I'd started leaking a little blood, then suddenly it was coming in a big gush. My MW recommended transfer at that point.<br><br>
We got to the hospital and they did a u/s to check for previa or a possible abruption--also, the OB wanted a weight estimate. My BP was registering really high, so they started a mag sulfate drip. Naturally, this completely stopped my contractions. They recommended starting Pit to counteract the mag. I said okay and braced myself for the awful pain. It wasn't nearly so bad as it had been. Following hospital protocol, they could only raise the Pit by 1-2 of whatever the measurement is per half hour. Whenever they wanted to bump it up 2, they asked me if that was okay. The contractions I was having weren't registering on the external monitor, so they asked if they could use an internal pressure monitor. I asked how it worked and they got one out and showed it to me, explaining what each part was, how it would be inserted and what information it would give them that they didn't have already. I agreed to let they use it.<br><br>
Fast forward several hours. Contractions were getting stronger, but baby wasn't descending and I wasn't dilating--I'd gone from a 3 to a "stretchy 4" in all this time and was now at the maximum dose of Pit. The OB said she was willing to wait, but at this point she was recommending a surgical birth. I wasn't ready to consent to a c/s, but also didn't feel like anything was happening and I was getting very tired (at this point, I'd been up for 30 hours, without food for 16 hours and in active, induced labor for about 14 hours). I suggested we try an epidural, just to make sure it wasn't my own tension keeping the baby from coming. The OB agreed and I got an epi.<br><br>
Another 2½ hours passed with no change in dilation or baby's position. At that point, I told the OB to have them bring in the consent for surgery. Once I'd signed the forms, they prepped me and brought me down to the OR. The OB asked if I had any requests and I asked that my hands not be restrained (the idea of being "tied down" was really frightening for me) and that she do a double layer of sutures in case I would be having more children and wanting to try for a VBAC. She was happy to accommodate me in both cases.<br><br>
The surgery itself didn't take very long and I was able to watch them deliver the baby on a video monitor (DH actually watched the whole surgery, but the cutting parts icked me out a bit). DH stayed with DS the whole time after he was born, including going to the nursery for a couple of minor issues he had.<br><br>
The OB told us after surgery was over that when she'd cut into the uterus, there were numerous blood clots and she could see that there had been a partial abruption that hadn't shown up on the u/s. If we had continued trying to force a vaginal birth, we may well have lost our son.<br><br>
Anyway, this long story is to say that, yes, sometimes medical interventions in birth are very necessary. I'm sad that I wasn't able to have the peaceful homebirth I'd dreamed about, but at the same time, I felt as though DH and I were the ones calling the shots this time in a way we didn't even know we could at DD's birth.<br><br>
My experience has shown me that even in a highly medicalized situation, I can still have an empowering birth.
 

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I have had two c-sections. THe first was unexpected, after laboring. The second was scheduled.<br><br>
I worked through the book, <span style="text-decoration:underline;">Birthing from Within</span>, with my first pregnancy. It talks about walking through your worst fears and just imagining what the outcome would look like. For me, I was worried that I would give in to the fear and the medicalness of a c-section, and I would miss the specialness of the birth of my babies.<br><br>
So, I reminded my dh (over and over <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ) to keep me in the moment if I needed a c-section. To not allow the medical-ness to take over. To keep talking about the baby we'd be soon to meet, the birth that was still taking place.<br><br>
For me, it worked. I had some issues to work through after my first c-section, but I never thought of it as a "less-than" birth. My babies were born in a unique, fabulous way that was no less wonderful than they were. I was happy to be in that moment.
 

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I was induced by AROM with my second babe. Now I know, it wasn't necessary. And i wouldn't let them do it again. But it wasn't a bad experience. When my stress wouldn't let the contractions become regular, I even let them talk me into IV drugs. I relaxed, and rested. THe contractions became regular. DH and I were mostly left alone in a darkened room and DH read to me until I hit active labor. My baby girl was born very quickly, and nursed like a champ as soon as they did her apgars.<br>
We've made very different birth choices since then. But I can look at that birth as a generally positive experience.
 

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thats what I am trying to do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> but its hard for me because I always imagine everything as being 'worst case'<br><br>
I am terrified of surgeries and the idea of not having 'control'.. if that makes sense.. and with a c-section I am mostly fearful of having 6-10 weeks where I am in a lot of pain, or in bed, mostly because the idea that I am unable to care for the baby without any help (or in my case, having to hire someone to come and help me) for months on end is terribly rough.. (its really hard for me to ask for help) and that makes me really sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I am terrified of surgeries and the idea of not having 'control'.. if that makes sense.. and with a c-section I am mostly fearful of having 6-10 weeks where I am in a lot of pain, or in bed, mostly because the idea that I am unable to care for the baby without any help (or in my case, having to hire someone to come and help me) for months on end is terribly rough.. (its really hard for me to ask for help) and that makes me really sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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With a c-section, you would not be in pain for many weeks. Really, the pain lasts for a few days and then at most, there is sporadic discomfort. Even my mother who had a hysterectomy at age 60 was riding her bike again by 1 week after surgery. She was in more pain after her face lift than she was her hysterectomy!<br><br>
Yes, the worst case scenario isn't great, but it isn't for a vaginal birth either, or pregnancy even. Try not to dwell on the worst case, and think about the normal, average, expected recovery. Even if you had a homebirth planned, things can still happen that a c-section is required for safe delivery. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sure I'll lose some MDC points as well for this response <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But here goes. All of my babes were c/s. 1st was emergency for placental abruption. Had a wonderful massage in the hospital afterwards. We did have issues with bf'ing so I pumped. I do feel in retrospect that our bond wasn't as close as it should've been. First baby and I certainly didn't know then what I know now!<br><br>
My 2nd c/s was for transverse presentation. I tried everything to get the little guy to flip, but nothing worked. Turns out he had a very tight double nuchal cord and laboring most likely would've been strenuous on him and resulted in another emergency c/s. I was determined to nurse him and he latched like a champ. He was jaundiced, so we had a 4 day stay, but I was physically fine and carried him out in his car seat.<br><br>
3rd c/s was also for transverse presentation. Apparently my babies like to lay sideways. Again, tried everything to flip him, but to no avail. I was out of the hospital in 2 days. I was very determined to have a hbac, but everything failed miserably and my mw no longer felt comfortably attending me, so at 36 wks I went to my OB which is where I should've been all along as he believed in my body more than my mw did - crazy how that worked out!<br><br>
As for anesthesia, I've had both epidural & spinal. I'm not crazy about the idea of an open line into my spine, so the spinal won out. However, the upside to the epidural is that it can be turned off, where it took 6 hours with the spinal to get feeling back in my legs. I needed cuffs to help with blood circulation. That part was a little unnerving.<br><br>
I never needed pain meds. I am blessed with a very high pain threshold though. I didn't brace my tummy too often with a pillow since I wanted to strengthen my muscles quicker. I never wanted 3 c/s - believe me, but that's how it ended up and honestly it took some time and tears to accept. But once I did, I made my birth plan, got skin to skin in the OR, nursed in recovery, no vax or eye drops, and everything went as well as it could, or I had anticipated. It's not ideal, but you can try to make it what you want. As pp's have said mindset and attitude are key.<br><br>
I'm newly pg again and am hoping for my waterbirth, but I will not overly stress as that can affect everything. I know there's a possibility of a c/s - there is with any pregnancy, but I won't dwell on it. If you have any questions, or just want to chat, please pm me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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#2 - induced with pitocin at 37 weeks, one day dueto concerns about intrauterine growth restriction. Pitcon started at about 8:30 am and DD came literally flying out at 11:17 am. Labor was not too bad - I don't think it was as hard as #1's labor overall. DD did have trouble nursing and latching - due to small size ando ther nursing issues that I had with #1. She also had jaundice - hospital stay for 24 hours and 3 weeks of bili lights at home. Today is a fiesty, happy, cute and still little 4 year old.<br><br>
#3: c-section due to breech presentation and absolutely refusal to budge (we tried it all) at 38 weeks, 4 days. Baby was fine - with a little help from lactation counsultant, she was a pro-nurser. Some concern about jaundice, but no need for lights; just sunshine. I had some PPD probably due to the c-section/not getting the birth I dreamed of. I healed well overall, but not as quickly as my natural births. No bonding issues. She was a snuggly baby and I wore her all the time.<br><br>
I do think attitude towards the situation is what makes it a (little bit) better situation. Bottom line: not the births I wanted, but still had healthy little girls and that is what was most important to me at the time.
 

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I was a birth center transfer with DS at just under 41 weeks - ended up on pit for 9 hours, and then a c-section after 50+ hrs of labor. I didn't enjoy the pit. At all. But the c-section itself wasn't scary at all (and it was my worst fear). The absolute worst part of the c-section was the week after, when there was afterbirth pain (which happens regardless of how you birth your baby) and the fact that DS was perfectly positioned to kick my scar while he nursed.<br><br>
Make sure that the hospital you would transfer to (or that you're going to) is one you feel comfortable in. The nurses who handle your postpartum care will make or break your experience.<br><br>
And remember - the c-section MIGHT last a half hour. The scariest part is making the decision, not the surgery itself. You have the rest of your life to be however crunchy you want it. Around here, we put lots of stock in HOW we birth our babies, but honestly when it comes down to it, I think the way we <i>parent</i> our babies is so, so much more important. That thought helped heal me from my less-than-ideal birth, and helped me be able to enjoy DS's babyhood, despite what I saw as "failure" on my part.<br><br>
Remember, too, that you can always have a VBAC next time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>smeisnotapirate</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14738333"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Around here, we put lots of stock in HOW we birth our babies, but honestly when it comes down to it, I think the way we <i>parent</i> our babies is so, so much more important. That thought helped heal me from my less-than-ideal birth, and helped me be able to enjoy DS's babyhood, despite what I saw as "failure" on my part.</div>
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I second that & have wanted to express it but couldn't come up with the right words...I don't want to say anything wrong here or offend anyone...i don't actually know anyone on these boards personally & can't comment on their lives...but IRL, I have friends who only homebirth & 'pitied' my csection which really upset me. I didn't feel like I needed pity-it was a good experience & bottom line, we got a beautiful, healthy, perfect baby girl. They made me feel like they didn't want to hear my story or it was discounted as a birth or something & I never quite got that. But then I get mocked for trying to stick to organic veggies & dairy & not wanting to give DD McDonald's every week???<br><br>
I'm sorry for venting here!!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Make sure that the hospital you would transfer to (or that you're going to) is one you feel comfortable in. The nurses who handle your postpartum care will make or break your experience.</div>
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This. I would also recommend speaking to people in your area about their C/S experiences. We have two major hospitals in our town, and 2 others about 20 minutes away. I know people who have had C/S at 3 of them. All of our experiences were widely different. Some people didn't get their babies right away, others had their hands tied down, etc. These things, in addition to postpartum care can definitely change your outlook.<br><br>
As for my own experience with c-sections, here goes. My daughter was an unexpected c-section after a relatively long labor and over 3 hours of pushing in all manner of positions. It was very stress-free and non-emergent. My doctor and I agreed that my daughter was stuck and that she would do a c-section.<br><br>
I had a wonderful doctor, great nurses and an amazing anesthesiologist. My hands were never tied down, the baby was weighed and handed directly to my husband. He carried her into the recovery room and she nursed right away. My daughter did not leave my side for several hours until my husband walked her down to get a bath. The first night after the surgery was rough, but that was more from labor exhaustion than the surgery. My recovery overall was very simple. I was able to carry and take care of my 11 pound daughter the next day. By a week out I felt mostly back to normal.<br><br>
My second c-section was scheduled. We had been planning a VBAC, but due to some severe Midwest flooding and lack of labor onset I had to face the choice that I could either schedule the section (and by "schedule" I mean my doctor got a hold of me at 3:30 in the afternoon and asked if I could come in by 5:00 before they closed their OR), or face the possibility of going to a different hospital to deliver. I actually chose the c-section. This c-section was much like the first (except faster--I apparently heal well w/no adhesions and not much scar tissue). I went into the OR at a few minutes before 7:00, got my spinal, my son was born at 7:13 and I was back in the recovery room nursing my son by 7:30. Again, my son never left my side until my husband took him for a bath. This recovery was ridiculously fast. I was up and walking late that night. By the next day I felt fantastic, never had any need for any of the pain medication.<br><br>
I am actually going to schedule a c-section for this pregnancy. I'm certain that I could change hospitals, seek out a VBA2C if I really felt like it, but I just don't. I know this isn't a popular decision, but I feel like this is the "known" recovery for me at this point.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I believe life is 10% event and 90% attitude and if my 'worst fear' happen, Id like to be able to go into them with some peace and acceptance <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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I agree 100%. My first birth was a MW assisted water birth that was unfortunately followed by a lot of unexpected complications (not related to my MW in any way) tat threatened my health and required a lot of medical intervention. It was a very traumatic experience for me, my DH, and our family in large part due to the shock and uncertainty of everything. We were just entirely unprepared for the whole thing.<br><br>
My second was an emergency CS. She was transverse breech, which we knew. While I focused lots of energy and time into doing everything I could think of to encourage her to turn, I also educated myself about CS and asked ladies here for input/suggestions for how to best prepare myself for the best CS experience possible. My water broke literally the day after I posted the thread asking for suggestions, and all of the information that I had read the night before gave me comfort and a greater feeling of control as the ambulance was rushing me to the hospital. The birth/recovery experience for me was way less traumatic for #2 than #1<br><br>
Plan for the best, prepare for the alternatives. Good luck to you!
 
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