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Does anyone <i>not</i> have little to no sex drive and/or sexual discomfort (or outright pain) within a couple of months after having given birth? Totally not trying to make women who do have difficulty feel badly about it -- I get that it's completely normal to need some time or a lot of time and that some women never really feel quite the same in that regard. But, with looking at having my first child and therefore having no experience with the matter myself, I'm curious as to how broad an area the spectrum of "typical" covers -- or rather, I'm curious if it's more realistic to anticipate needing to go back into an active sex life very slowly and gingerly, or if average experiences vary enough to make it strictly a question of wait and see.
 

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Both times I had sex at two weeks pp and had no pain or problems.
 

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I still have a low drive and pain at 6 months, but it's improving. I can now see an end (or a new beginning) in sight. The first time we tried at 9 weeks HURT and I made a similar post.
 

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I'm 3 months pp, and I consistently have pain in my abdomen during sex. I can't tell if it's from air being forced inside of me, or if my partner is hitting something. Certain positions hurt more, and this is a huge bummer. I hadn't anticipated this - somehow, I thought that everything would go right back to normal.
 

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I've had three kids...my pp bleeding continued for 4-6 weeks each time, so we waited at least 6 weeks with each one. My drive is low, but I'm not totally disinterested <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . But it is much less frequent, just because of lack of sleep, busy-ness, etc. And it is painful (not unbearable, but painful none-the-less), and for me will be, until my period returns or I nurse less. And I have a high tolerance for pain.
 

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We waited a few months. Things still don't feel normal physically. I had a c-section and no pushing, so I'm assuming breastfeeding hormones are playing a role too. It's different for everyone, but it is somewhat common for a lowered drive while fertility is suppressed from breastfeeding. You'll figure out what feels right. So, I guess your "wait and see" option.
 
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