Thank you, adventuregirl, for starting this thread.
I had my second miscarriage/D&C on Sep. 18 as well. I was 9.5 weeks this time. I really feel in a pretty good place, considering. We've been ttc 2 years, and I'm not about to go buy condoms at this point! But I'm also not buying an OPK either. Of course, I've been obsessively checking cm for so long now I can't help but do it now. Nothing yet.
After my first D&C, 41/2 years ago at 14 weeks, AF came 4 weeks on the dot. DS was conceived 4 months after the miscarriage. That D&C was quick and no bleeding after, but that period was really heavy and crampy, now that I think about it, wan2bemama. Before DS my AF was usually super light and easy.
This time I've only just stopped bleeding clots last week, and three days ago was the last spotting, so who knows when I'll ever have AF again. That's probably the main reason we're not using protection. Maybe if I had any inkling that I was ovulating or that AF was coming in good time, I would try not to get pregnant. It seems like a good idea to wait, really, and give your body a chance to heal and make sure everything is cleaned out and fresh. Seems like a good idea, but I'm not doing it, so there you go. I'm trying not to obsess about it, and just see what happens.
Of course in about two weeks I'll probably start buying hpts like crazy, and imagining everything as a pregnancy symptom if AF hasn't come. Urgh!
Anyway, I'm glad this place is here, though of course I'm sorry you all have to be. Good luck!