Post-Loss-Wait (Waiting to TTC After Loss)

No advice for your, adventuregirl - just a . I didn't know about your loss till now. I'm sorry - it sounds like you are in a peaceful place, though. Good luck to you in your next journey!

Hi,

This feels like a good place for me right now- thanks to adventuregirl for starting this thread. I just got my period yesterday for the first time after a m/c at 5.5 weeks 5 weeks ago.
I just got off the phone after leaving a message at my fertility clinic's office (I am trying to conceive through donor insemination in the most natural way possible under the circumstances). They had initially recommended waiting 1 full cycle, but I do believe that I'm ready now and feel strong and healthy-have been exercising & eating well, & started taking my supplements again. But the whole TTC process is SO hard; such a roller coaster, and I don`t know if I'm really ready or not. I keep thinking-well if you do get pregnant, you won't regret a thing, and I`m SO ready to be pg, but am I ready to go through this whole thing again? Not so sure.

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baby dust to all, hugs for your losses & thanks for listening,

Hi All,
It looks like this is the place for me as well. I received confirmation today that I indeed had a miscarriage on Friday night. It has been such a roller coaster, the pregnancy was unexpected (yah, right I was on the pill!!!!) but once it was here I never wanted anything more in my life and my dh Steve was beside himself with giddiness. The really maddening part is that the timing was SO perfect. I run my own business out of my house, I'd have delivered in June which happens to be a time of the year that 98% of my work is right here at home. Wanna be Momma, I told myself just what you said this afternoon, if I get pregnant right away--there will be NO regrets. My hcg is still at 383, does anyone know, can I conceive before it drops to 0? Is there a danger in conceiving prior to getting a real period (other than difficulty in dating?) You know, on my way home today I picked up an ovulation test. I can't believe how much I truly want a baby right now. This will sound dumb but one thing that really bugs me is that my oldest dog Havoc just loves babies so much and I was so excited that we would have one while he was still alive :
Anyway, thanks for starting the thread Adventure Girl, so how many of us are trying right away??
Shannon

I'm so glad to hear that Katie, we will be doing the same thing, so I suppose you and I will still be in "the same boat"
This all just seems so surreal doesn't it?
I can't express how much comfort this board has brought me though.
I was just talking with a very close friend, years ago, she went through 1 miscarriage and 2 ectopics, she had told nobody and so had no real support. I told her about this because it allows you to be honest with people who understand.
It may be unreasonable but you know I really hope I get pregnant again right away--and you too.
I was waiting to get blood drawn today and I was so sad to see a girl who was all of about 15 with a tiny baby and she just looked so sad, I couldnt' help but think how screwed up the universe is that she had a healthy baby when she likely didn't want a baby at all and I lost one at a stage in my life when I'd have given my life to make the world work for one.
What can you do other than keep trying and know you can make a difference if you're given a chance.
Shannon

Hi there,
Well I think I've figured out the reason for the increased fertility after m/c. In reading on some fertility sites they sometimes give a medication with hCG in it to aid in conception. So I suppose if your hCG levels are still up from the previous pregnancy it would be similar. I was only 7 weeks along and they figure my baby died at 5 weeks so I don't know that my uterus is much different than it used to be : My other issue is I have rhuematoid arthritis and I am currently on prednisone due to a terrible flare in the summer, fortunately prednisone is safe during pregnancy. I am usually on Methortrexate which is better for the disease in general but VERY unsafe for pregnacy (actually it's what they give you to abort an early ectopic) So I'd like off the prednisone because it causes me to gain a couple pounds a month. That and I just so want to hold a baby in my arms.
On that note, has anyone used the ovulation detectors that use saliva instead of urine?? They appear to be much cheaper even if just because they are reusable but do they work????

Hi again everyone,

(especially to Shannon who's in Ontario too!)

Well to add to the craziness of my life right now, last night my partner & I put an offer on a house--it would be wonderful to get it, and even more wonderful to be pregnant when we move in (in Dec.).

But not helping my overall stress which is compounded by busy job, etc. I still haven't heard from fertility doctor, so think they want me to wait--this might be okay because I have such a stressful month right now that it might not help my fertility! But if I need to argue with them it won't be the first time....

Great to hear from all of you in a similar situation. Shannon-thanks for info on reasons for increased fertility, I've been really curious about that too. On the fertility monitor question, I use Clearplan fertility monitor (super expensive, but you can get it off eBay much cheaper), but that's because the saliva method isn't precise enough--with AI I need my top 2 fertile days. But if you're using a more natural method you may be fine with the saliva monitor.

Warning: detailled info about body stuff & -may not be for everyone!
Did anyone notice a difference in their menstruation after m/c ? Mine seems especially heavy & crampy and was wondering if this is normal.

Good luck to all--Hope to see you soon on a July, August, or September 2004 expecting mamas board!

Hi!
Thank you, adventuregirl, for starting this thread.
I had my second miscarriage/D&C on Sep. 18 as well. I was 9.5 weeks this time. I really feel in a pretty good place, considering. We've been ttc 2 years, and I'm not about to go buy condoms at this point! But I'm also not buying an OPK either. Of course, I've been obsessively checking cm for so long now I can't help but do it now. Nothing yet.
After my first D&C, 41/2 years ago at 14 weeks, AF came 4 weeks on the dot. DS was conceived 4 months after the miscarriage. That D&C was quick and no bleeding after, but that period was really heavy and crampy, now that I think about it, wan2bemama. Before DS my AF was usually super light and easy.
This time I've only just stopped bleeding clots last week, and three days ago was the last spotting, so who knows when I'll ever have AF again. That's probably the main reason we're not using protection. Maybe if I had any inkling that I was ovulating or that AF was coming in good time, I would try not to get pregnant. It seems like a good idea to wait, really, and give your body a chance to heal and make sure everything is cleaned out and fresh. Seems like a good idea, but I'm not doing it, so there you go. I'm trying not to obsess about it, and just see what happens.
Of course in about two weeks I'll probably start buying hpts like crazy, and imagining everything as a pregnancy symptom if AF hasn't come. Urgh!
Anyway, I'm glad this place is here, though of course I'm sorry you all have to be. Good luck!
yalisha
yalisha

Yay, adventuregirl! Good luck TTC this cycle...are you going over to the TTC Pre-O thread at all? I'm hanging out there!
Not for long, though...I have been taking OPKs the past few days, and today I got a nearly positive one! (Line was not as dark as control, but there for sure!)
I am so surprised! I just finished bleeding about 10 days ago, and my body is already gearing up to O again!!!

So I don't think I am going to wait till after the first period. We are going to go for it this month. Let the BD begin! I am sort of excited about it, cause we haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant, miscarried, and stopped bleeding. I just didn't feel amorous...

How is everyone else doing...?

Hi all

Katie--your little Lucy is sooooo beautiful!!! What a lovely little girl-you must be one happy mama!

Adventuregirl--good luck! I know how you feel. When I got my period again I felt relieved--it was like, oh at least something's working, something's back to normal.

Was back at my fertility docs practice today--what a joke! While they were very compassionate at the time of the miscarriage, they had obviously totally forgotten about it--the receptionist said 'boy, it`s been a while--what's your name again?`And the doc said, after my u/s revealed that I'm not ovualting yet (no surprise since that`s what my temperature & monitor & mucus also indicate), we may need to try you on medication next time. At which point I had to point out that I got pregnant last time just fine without any medication. He had obviously forgotten this, and had to look in my chart to see oh yes-you had a positive pregnancy test last time, right!

Honestly, after a number of negative experiences at this place, at least my expectations are low! (he is the only practitioner in our area and is also very affordable, which I appreciate). Still, not a nice return to the fertility clinic which I hoped not to be visiting again.

Sorry this is so long!!! Good luck to all who are trying & all who are waiting for the big O!

Jesse

Yay adventuregirl!

Sending all of you many blessings and babydust