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I plan on night-weaning DD who turned two on the 1st of October. There are a number of reasons DH and I have chosen to do so. We're just waiting for her to cut these two molars, and then we're taking the big leap. We (mostly I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) want to hear some good <i>success stories</i>, so I'd love it if you'd post them (even if you've posted them before) so I have a good reference thread. I'm sure there are plenty of other mamas (and dad's too!) who would love to read this thread once it gets going.<br><br>
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Edited to add: I know it's going to be hard, that's why I need support. I don't want a (nor do we need another) debate about CLW vs. MLW. Thanks again ladies. You are wonderful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Hi there! I've never identified myself as someone who "nightweans". I consider myself a nightweaning failure before I've even tried. With both kids I went through phases of desperately wanting to and actually 'trying', but my idea of trying typically would last about 5 minutes before I would decide it wasn't for us! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I just figure that my kids have stronger feelings about it than me at any given point in time, so I'm just not cut out to pull it off.<br><br>
There is one exception to that. Once I put my footdown with ds2 and decided that that was it when he was somewhere around 18 months old. What a nightmare that turned out to be. He woke to nurse at about midnight, I said no and he never did go back to sleep until I gave up on the plan at about 4 in the morning. I really think he would have never gone back to sleep if I hadn't nursed him and I can't tell you the feelings of anger and frustration towards him that I felt that night. Definitely not worth it. Nightnursing can be tough, but it isn't that bad as far as I'm concerned. Live and learn.<br><br>
My first son nightweaned on his own right at about two. I was pregnant at the time and I'm sure that had everything to do with it. My second son turned two in August and has been nightweaned for about a month (so that means he quit night nursing at about 26 months). In his case it was me saying no more. So I guess I'm a successful nightweaner afterall. For some reason I knew that he could do it and it was a spur of the moment type of decision I made. We weren't even really having any problems at night, he typically nursed maybe once or twice. We talked about it the day before and then that night he nursed before bed and I told him no mum mums during sleep, it's time for sleep. That one night he cried a little bit but got over it very quickly, said, "I'm happy." and flopped over and went back to sleep.<br><br>
He will wake up at like 4 or 5 in the morning and sometimes ask, but I'll just say it's still time to sleep and he will quickly go back to sleep. I did tell him he could have mum mums in the morning, but it turns out that he's so eager to get out of bed when it's wake up time that he never nurses in the morning.<br><br>
So somehow, my son only nurses once a day anymore - unless he has a nap and he'll nurse before that. I am very happy with the situation.
 

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I'm in the middle of it now.<br>
we were going to wait until ds was 18months (around xmas time) but last thursday i had a breakdown and said thats enought lets give it a go. ds has woken up every 1 to 2 hours since birth so i was expecting a nightmare time of it.<br>
The one good thing is that he is very attached to dh, so dh has been sleeping with him for the past 4 nights.<br>
First night he woke every hour and dh rubbed his back and he went back to sleep withing 15 minutes. Within 3 nights he was down to waking 3 times and going back to sleep within 5 minutes with ds just talking to him. His behaviour is fine during the day it doesn't seem to be bothering him and i nurse him when he wakes at 6am and whenever he asks all day.<br>
I am still waking every two hours!! but my back doesn't hurt so much.<br>
Anyway so far so good - not anywhere near as bad as i thought it was going to be. give it a go - you can always change your mind.<br>
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I night-weaned my son when he was 20 months old and it went very smoothly for us. At that point he was waking up 3-5 times a night and then nursing for a loooong time each time. We decided to go for total night weaning, from dusk to dawn because I felt it would be easiest to tell him that we'd nurse again when the sun came up. Through some previous trial and error I'd found that I could pretend to be asleep and he would sometimes go back to sleep. I'd also found that he accepted soothing better from me than DH (not always the case for many people) and it seemed to make him angrier when I actively tried to soothe him, rocking and singing, etc. So the first night when he woke up the first time I mostly feigned sleep, just patting him a little and whispering a reassuring word or two. He crawled around on me for about 10 or 15 minutes, whimpering some but never all-out crying, then finally crawled back into his crib (we had it side-carred to the bed) and went back to sleep! The rest of the night went similarly. The second night his wake-ups were a little shorter and fewer, and the third night when he woke up (when I was still awake), he looked around, reached over and touched me as if he just wanted to make sure I was still there, then laid back down! From that night on he started sleeping 7-8 hour stretches most nights and completely sleeping through about a month later.<br><br>
I felt like he must have been ready since it went so easily, plus I didn't get engorged afterwards at all, so I don't think he was getting much milk from me at night!<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I just nightweaned my 21 month old about 7-8 weeks ago. I'm still in shock over how it easy it was. I'm pregnant and was really feeling sleep deprived because I couldn't sleep through the night nursing anymore due to sensitive nipples. My dh kept encouraging me to stick it out because he was convinced ds wasn't ready. I decided I would continue through September and then night wean, but I didn't make it that long!<br><br>
One night ds just kept wanting to nurse, nurse, nurse and I felt like I was going to lose my mind. I even woke dh up just so I could complain about it. Finally I said "Nursies are really tired and they need to rest, you can have more when the sun comes up. We all need to go night-night now." And just like that he fell back asleep!<br><br>
I started reminding him in the evening that "nursies go to sleep when you go to sleep and they need to rest until the sun comes up". Basically that was it. I'm just shocked that he understood and went along with it. He never really protested much, he fussed a little a few times, but quickly calmed down. At first he still woke as much as always, but now he sleeps all night. Previous to this I never allowed him to twiddle at all, but I compromised and let him "hold" the nursies when he woke in the night. I think this was key for us because he still felt comforted and reassured that they were still there.<br><br>
So that's our nightweaning story. I'm nervous that when the new baby comes ds will be upset when he sees that he gets to nurse all night. I'll just have to cross that bridge when I get to it though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> In the meantime it sure has been lovely getting more sleep, I'm trying to appreciate it while I can!
 

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Every time I ever attempted to limit how much or how often my DD nurses, she has become extremely hard to deal with, throwing bit fits and temper tantrums, and generally just not being the happy cheerful sweet child we all know. The easiest way to remedy her behavior problems has always been to nurse her more often. I could never refuse to nurse my child if she were distressed, doesn't matter what time of day or night, if nursing was the only way I could calm her down and help her feel comforted.
 

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My ds nightweaned at 22 months. He'd been down to one waking per night for several months which was clearly because he was hungry, at 4am. The only thing I did to change his night nursing was to reduce the length of time he nursed, I decided to do that rather than try to change the frequency. When he was about 14 months or so, I changed from nursing til he let go himself, (thirty or more minutes) to nursing just til he drifted off which only took maybe 5 - 10 minutes unless he was truly hungry. That was enough to reclaim a couple hours worth of sleep a night, and helped reduce my fatigue and frustration enough to wait for him to nightwean on his own.
 

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