[frontierpsych]

DH is in Iraq, and when the baby comes he'll be gone for another nine months. So I'll be the only parent my child knows for her first nine months of life.

 

[trinity6232000]

Welcome.

 

[Satori]

Yes will be be going it alone from a certain POV but you will also have his paycheck which separates you from the single moms. How will your day to day life really change? Unless your DH was a SAHD it won't change much beyond you don't have him to take over when you need a break and you won't have that evening chat if you guys talked a lot (I'm used to see the dad come home and veg and not interact much model). Your of course welcome to post here but you may find you have more in common still with the married mama's then the single mama's. I'm pretty sure there's a thread for sometimes single mama's while DH is deployed over in FYT you may benefit from

This sounds like it might benefit you

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=468369

 

[frontierpsych]

Thanks. Yeah, i was informed after I posted this that some moms on here aren't too fond of women who say they feel like single moms when they have a DH who's away and bringing in money. I hadn't thought of that, but I totally see where they're coming from on that. I just didn't know where else would be more appropriate to post about issues I may have on raising a baby without another parent around to help out. He's definitely not high-input (which for the most part I enjoy, as he has no problem with my parenting choices) but it also makes me feel like I have no one to help me make a decision when I need the help.

 

[Aliviasmom]

Good luck finding a "home"!

 

[CalebsMama05]

good luck. it always makes me sad to hear stories of deployed parents/parents to be esp if they will be gone most of baby's first year

 

[Jilian]

You're welcome to post here if it makes things easier on you.

I'm sorry that your DH is going to be away for so long, do you have a support network of friends and family to help you?

 

[sparklefairy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Satori Yes will be be going it alone from a certain POV but you will also have his paycheck which separates you from the single moms.

I receive child support and maintenance. Is it appropriate for me to post here? He's seen the kids twice since February and I definitely didn't get a break!

 

[meowee]

frontierpsych, I am in a similar situation. DH is not military but I am alone with the kids 208 days of the year, day and night. There should be a thread or something for ladies with an off-site partner/ DH.

I agree, there is a world of difference between being a single mom and being an "alone" mom whose husband/ partner fully supports the home at a distance. But we're a bit different from the moms whose husbands/ DPs come home each night, too...

 

[Kaitnbugsmom]

come visit the military mamas thread in FYT... we know the score well...