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<p>I figure there are enough people on this side to start a chat about ourselves and our babies.  If you haven't already check out the birth wiki and update it with your baby's information.  I'm too busy to keep the thread going by myself and anyone can edit the wiki.</p>
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<p>Anyway, James didn't watch to latch when he was first born.  He rooted around a little in the first hour but he refused to eat.  The first nurse I had kept telling me if he didn't eat she would have to give him a bottle so I had my DH run home and get my pump (thank God I bought one!) and we syringe fed him.  When he was about 18 hours old he started latching but he was really fussy about it.  Finally after about 36 hours my milk slowly started to come in (pretty early compared to what I was expecting) and he'd latch a little easier and easier.  Now at 5 days old he occasionally doesn't even fuss more than a second or two.  He definitely doesn't eat for the 15 minutes the nurses told me he 'should' but he spends most of the feed chugging.  Quick suck, swallow, quick suck, swallow... he nearly always chokes himself on the left side.  After visiting the hospital lactation consultants at his 2 day appointment I can see why.  6 ounces in like 20 minutes, it just poured out.</p>
<p>Sleep is getting harder to come by.  He does sleep most of the time but last night he was more fussy about eating so instead of the whole thing lasting 10-15 minutes a few times a night it felt like he spent a half hour of every hour popping on and off and crying.  Hopefully tonight will go back to the old pattern, lol.</p>
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<p>I'm feeling a little better than I thought I would.  If it weren't for tailbone pain, my skid mark, and engorgement I'd feel pretty normal.  Looks like I have to get going though, somebody's hungry!</p>
 

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<p>hey mamas! my ruby is 2 weeks old tomorrow and its been a whirlwind. i'm still healing up, doing better with everyday. the first week or so i felt like i was floating around on a cloud. now its starting to hit me though-i'm TIRED. trying to nap but some days it doesn't happen. i am nursing/changing her about every 2-3 hours at night. actually the 3 hour stretch feels like heaven compared to every hour or hour and half.</p>
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<p>the other day my mom and i took my 2 year old and the babe out to get groceries, and WOW was it exhausting, but really, how does 1 mommy take 2 young kids shopping by herself? the baby in the car seat carrier in the cart, but where does 2 year old go? she is not trustworthy enough to walk, not quite yet. hmm. i guess hubby will be doing the shopping or staying home with the 2 year old while i go with baby.</p>
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<p>my mom has been here for 2 weeks, and it has been nice to have help. she gets up everyday with my 2 year old so i can sleep in with baby. she also has been doing laundry and doing dishes. very nice. but gosh its becoming a little trying to have her around 24 hours a day. i don't want to complain about my help, but i am also craving some alone time. she will be here 1 more week, so i am trying to be grateful for the help while it lasts and not moan and groan too much.</p>
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<p>ok, off to bed for another night of snuggling, nursing and changing.</p>
<p>i am anxious to hear about everyone else's experiences with their babes!</p>
 

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10 days in here and the endorphins are still keeping the full force of the exhaustion away. I know it's coming though and I'm not looking forward to it. Eamon is a more eager nurser than my other son was, which is great. But he gulps it down and ends up with a lot of air, which makes for a lot of crying and burping. Particularly at night, joy. Hoping as he gets bigger and more practiced it'll get better.<br>
Struggling a bit with my 3 year old's behavior. He's been great with his brother, but really defiant with me. My patience level is low, so being gentle with him is hard. So far we've both had a couple major meltdowns. Sigh.
 

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<p>It sounds like you are doing a great job sticking with it- glad you stuck to your guns in the hospital! My first daughter had issues latching initially, too, and I know what it's like to have to fight against the bottle brigade.</p>
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<p>You might also try pumping/hand expressing JUST for a minute or so on that side just to slow the flow down before you put him on. You don't want to encourage an oversupply, but it can help if you have a particularly strong let-down. </p>
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<p>Also, are you working on nursing in the side-laying position? Once you can get that down, nursing at night is soo much easier! <br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>WifeofAnt</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285023/postpartum-chat#post_16110465"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I figure there are enough people on this side to start a chat about ourselves and our babies.  If you haven't already check out the birth wiki and update it with your baby's information.  I'm too busy to keep the thread going by myself and anyone can edit the wiki.</p>
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<p>Anyway, James didn't watch to latch when he was first born.  He rooted around a little in the first hour but he refused to eat.  The first nurse I had kept telling me if he didn't eat she would have to give him a bottle so I had my DH run home and get my pump (thank God I bought one!) and we syringe fed him.  When he was about 18 hours old he started latching but he was really fussy about it.  Finally after about 36 hours my milk slowly started to come in (pretty early compared to what I was expecting) and he'd latch a little easier and easier.  Now at 5 days old he occasionally doesn't even fuss more than a second or two.  He definitely doesn't eat for the 15 minutes the nurses told me he 'should' but he spends most of the feed chugging.  Quick suck, swallow, quick suck, swallow... he nearly always chokes himself on the left side.  After visiting the hospital lactation consultants at his 2 day appointment I can see why.  6 ounces in like 20 minutes, it just poured out.</p>
<p>Sleep is getting harder to come by.  He does sleep most of the time but last night he was more fussy about eating so instead of the whole thing lasting 10-15 minutes a few times a night it felt like he spent a half hour of every hour popping on and off and crying.  Hopefully tonight will go back to the old pattern, lol.</p>
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<p>I'm feeling a little better than I thought I would.  If it weren't for tailbone pain, my skid mark, and engorgement I'd feel pretty normal.  Looks like I have to get going though, somebody's hungry!</p>
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Glad to hear you're healing well! I love the name Ruby, btw.</p>
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<p>I totally get about the grocery shopping thing. Please, please don't be offended- but I have to ask. You do mean you set the seat inside the cart (where groceries would go), right? 'Cause setting the seat in the children's seat area is super dangerous. There have been several threads in the "family safety" forum about moms whose car seats have fallen from carts and babies seriously injured. I myself saw a toddler bump his mama's cart, and the seat fell to the floor- it was awful. Anyway, enough of my soapbox. I would highly recommend putting the baby in a sling/wrap/carrier instead. </p>
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<p>I understand the wanting to have a little privacy thing, too. I don't like sharing June with anyone, even my own mom! <img alt="shy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shy.gif">Quote:</p>
<div class="quote-container"><br><div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>summersmama</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1285023/postpartum-chat#post_16110513"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>hey mamas! my ruby is 2 weeks old tomorrow and its been a whirlwind. i'm still healing up, doing better with everyday. the first week or so i felt like i was floating around on a cloud. now its starting to hit me though-i'm TIRED. trying to nap but some days it doesn't happen. i am nursing/changing her about every 2-3 hours at night. actually the 3 hour stretch feels like heaven compared to every hour or hour and half.</p>
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<p>the other day my mom and i took my 2 year old and the babe out to get groceries, and WOW was it exhausting, but really, how does 1 mommy take 2 young kids shopping by herself? the baby in the car seat carrier in the cart, but where does 2 year old go? she is not trustworthy enough to walk, not quite yet. hmm. i guess hubby will be doing the shopping or staying home with the 2 year old while i go with baby.</p>
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<p>my mom has been here for 2 weeks, and it has been nice to have help. she gets up everyday with my 2 year old so i can sleep in with baby. she also has been doing laundry and doing dishes. very nice. but gosh its becoming a little trying to have her around 24 hours a day. i don't want to complain about my help, but i am also craving some alone time. she will be here 1 more week, so i am trying to be grateful for the help while it lasts and not moan and groan too much.</p>
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<p>ok, off to bed for another night of snuggling, nursing and changing.</p>
<p>i am anxious to hear about everyone else's experiences with their babes!</p>
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<p>So happy to here Eamon is nursing well! It is very difficult to stay patient, esp. when you're trying to balance the needs of both kids. My older daughter is doing really well so far- I worry more about when this baby is older and mobile. Having a 15 mo running around and a newborn is tough enough- but have 2 mobile little kids? I have a feeling the tough part is coming! <br>
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10 days in here and the endorphins are still keeping the full force of the exhaustion away. I know it's coming though and I'm not looking forward to it. Eamon is a more eager nurser than my other son was, which is great. But he gulps it down and ends up with a lot of air, which makes for a lot of crying and burping. Particularly at night, joy. Hoping as he gets bigger and more practiced it'll get better.<br>
Struggling a bit with my 3 year old's behavior. He's been great with his brother, but really defiant with me. My patience level is low, so being gentle with him is hard. So far we've both had a couple major meltdowns. Sigh.</div>
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<p>Well, June is 5 days old today, and so far everything is going really well. I mean, I am of course pretty tired, but recovery this time has been so much quicker without any tearing, and with a newborn who is a wonderful nurser. For being tiny, June has a STRONG latch (she nursed within 10 minutes of being born) and nurses all. the. time. I can't wait until her 2-week appointment to see how much she's gained. Because my milk came in so quickly, she only lost 4 ounces or so. </p>
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<p>I can't believe how much I am in love with tandem nursing! I was a little nervous at first, but Lucy does great with sharing. I nurse them both at the same time a few times a day, but usually it's just one or the other. Lucy has dropped her bottles completely, which was what I was really hoping for. She goes down for bed/naps with little fuss after a good nursing session- and she's so happy to have milk again! Definitely makes the struggles with nursing through pregnancy worth it, and I really think it helps Lucy feel like she's still mama's baby, too. </p>
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<p>I CANNOT believe how much milk I have! I never totally lost my supply, and as soon as June was born, my supply was revived overnight. Even with 2 nurslings, they can't keep up. I was actually able to pump 20+ ounces of colostrum in the first 2 days! Crazy.  </p>
 
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<p>uhhh...</p>
<p>ok i guess i was in the dark about this grocery cart thing. yes, i put the car seat in the kiddie seat on top of the cart. but my car seat snaps into the cart with a notch on the back of the seat. i thought this was safe?!</p>
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<p>i do have several baby carriers (moby, ergo and bjorn) and will probably end up using these instead when i go shopping.</p>
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<p>ein-glad you are doing well with your milk. i have a ton of milk, too! i think i need a bigger bra, AGAIN!</p>
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<p>wholebreath-my babe seems really hiccupy and spits up way more than my first baby. its been a surprise to deal with. any tips for those uncomfortable hiccups? she only burps about 50% of the time.</p>
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<p>Not to be obvious, but are you sure that the seat is designed to snap into the cart? There are a handful that do. For the most part, though, the notch you're seeing is the where the seat snaps into the base in your car. Like I have a Graco SnugRide (one of the most popular) and it's definitely not designed to do that. Please don't think I'm being judgmental- I don't mean to be. <span><img alt="guilty.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/guilty.gif"> Here's a link to a good thread (lots of info from car seat safety mamas):</span></p>
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<p>ok i guess i was in the dark about this grocery cart thing. yes, i put the car seat in the kiddie seat on top of the cart. but my car seat snaps into the cart with a notch on the back of the seat. i thought this was safe?!</p>
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<p>i do have several baby carriers (moby, ergo and bjorn) and will probably end up using these instead when i go shopping.</p>
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<p>ein-glad you are doing well with your milk. i have a ton of milk, too! i think i need a bigger bra, AGAIN!</p>
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<p>wholebreath-my babe seems really hiccupy and spits up way more than my first baby. its been a surprise to deal with. any tips for those uncomfortable hiccups? she only burps about 50% of the time.</p>
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<p>thanks, ein! and i didn't take it the wrong way. i really had no idea, so thanks for the info! i plan on using my wrap for now when i go shopping. :)</p>
 

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<p>I'm finishing up day 3 already.  The newborn days go way too fast.</p>
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<p>Yesterday was a tough day. My milk wasn't in and Alasdair was starving. He was constantly sucking hard to get supply going. I was extremely sleep deprived and in a lot of pain. My rhoids are really really bad this time. It's causing a lot of discomfort. My hormones are a bit messed up, I think because my labor was so fast I didn't get a chance to build up all those awesome endorphins etc. So I was hurting and he was constantly either screaming or sucking til I wanted to cry. And my after birth pains have made me feel like death. They're like active labor contractions, very very sore.</p>
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<p>At about 5am this morning though, my milk started coming through and it's made a huge difference. It's in full now and I have a very content little baby swaddled next to me, gazing all around the room and burping. It's awesome. And I love the hormone rush from the nursing. I feel so much more peaceful and in love with my family and content. I'm in a good place.</p>
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<p>Also, my placenta capsules arrived today and I started taking them. That should help a lot too.</p>
<p>So other than the rhoids and feeling pretty tired, I'm doing great just now. Enjoying my new little guy and loving having family bonding time with DH home.</p>
 

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Having fairly easy days and rubbish nights around here. For whatever reason Eamon is really hard to settle after eating at night. Last night we were awake from 1:15 until almost 3am and then up again at 5am. Not sure if it's gas or getting used to the world or what, but it sucks. Makes it really hard to be patient with my 3 year old. His adjustment is manifesting as defiance and a lot of whining. It's driving me nuts! I'm dosing him up with Rescue Remedy, which seems to help, but it's still a struggle. Counting the days until DH is off for the holidays....
 

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<p>Riordan is almost 4 days old. Hard to believe. Everything is going very well. My milk came in yesterday. So he seems much more content with a full belly now. He's nursing great. I'm feeling good too. My bleeding has slowed to almost nothing. Just some light pink spotting. If my hips weren't still aching so darn bad I'd feel back to normal again. The kids seem to have adjusted to him very well. They're all very in love with him. I'm kind of surprised my almost 3 yr old and 4 yr old took to him so well. I was figuring it'd be a much harder adjustment but they've just accepted that he's here. For the most part, life is very good right now. Quite a difference from where I was at this time last week.</p>
 

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<p>my 2.5 year old dd loves her new baby sister, loves to hold her, kiss her, etc. no aggression, bad feelings whatsoever. then the other day she peed on the baby's papison chair (she is running naked on her bottom so she can easily use the potty). hmmmm. seems to me like maybe a disguised form of displeasure with the babe? she has been so happy with her otherwise.</p>
 

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Having fairly easy days and rubbish nights around here. For whatever reason Eamon is really hard to settle after eating at night. Last night we were awake from 1:15 until almost 3am and then up again at 5am. Not sure if it's gas or getting used to the world or what, but it sucks.</div>
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<br><br><p>Mine does that too...  Last night wasn't <span style="text-decoration:underline;">as</span> bad but there are hours in the middle of the night where he just won't go back to sleep no matter what we do.  I think I was able to keep the fussing down some by taking him to the potty whenever he woke (he normally poops for me after every nap) but it might have just been a coincidence.  I'm SO thankful for my DH right now too.  He'll rock the baby around for a while once I've fed him and start getting cranky.  Its a huge blessing that his paternity leave is going to run into their pre-deployment leave.  He just has to go in tomorrow to finish some paperwork.  I'm also super thankful for my mom who has been doing all the cleaning since Thanksgiving.  I'm starting to think I'm getting spoiled, lol.  Its going to seriously suck when they both leave and I'm home alone with the baby most of the day.</p>
 

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<p>Owen is four days old and doing great! He's a champion nurser, so much that I've got sore/cracked nipples...thank goodness for Lansinoh! I am on bed rest for the next two weeks to help with recovering from my post-partum hemorrhage. Thankfully, my parents have been helping a lot with my five year old so all I've had to do is take care of the baby, which is wonderful :) It has been unusually cold this week (and it's snowing as I type this), so I feel extra lucky that I don't have to leave the house...</p>
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<p>My daughter is absolutely thrilled with her baby brother - she took photos of him to preschool to show her friends and she wants to snuggle him all the time.</p>
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<p>My husband had to go back to work right away but he has some flexibility with his schedule - his office is five minutes from our house so he comes home to make lunch and he's been going in late, too. I wish he could be at home - I feel badly that he's missing out on parts of these first few days - but we knew it would be this way. At least he'll have two long weekends for Christmas and New Year's!</p>
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<p>Two of my brothers will be home next week for Christmas (they live in Los Angeles), so I'm really looking forward to introducing them to their nephew!</p>
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<p>We have his first check-up tomorrow afternoon - I'm looking forward to finding out how much weight he's gained (he's such a little peanut).</p>
 

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<p>Ahh!! I can't believe James is already 15 days old.  We had his two week appointment yesterday and he gained a FULL POUND since his 2 day appointment.  It feels like such a victory considering the early latch issues we had.  He's doing so wonderfully.  It would be great if he didn't fuss for an hour or more every night but it could be worse so I can't complain.</p>
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<p>Me... I think I need a chiropractor.  Really bad.  My tailbone still hurts.  How long does lochia normally take?  Mine keeps going from red to brown to nothing back to red.  I also have this sinking feeling that maybe I'm going to be one of those really unlucky moms who gets their period back immediately even though they are exclusively breastfeeding.  I'm still not 'eager' but I've been thinking more about DTD than I did my entire pregnancy.  A big plus though is that as of today it hasn't been stinging when I pee anymore!  Hopefully it doesn't open back up.</p>
 

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WOA if your bleeding goes away and comes back it means you've done too much activity. Take it easy! I'm having a very hard time staying off my feet too. I feel very energetic. Today I did a bunch of baking and cleaning and ended up increasing my bleeding pretty immediately. Made myself stay on the couch the whole evening but it was boring!<br><br>
I feel so fortunate so far that DS is sleeping all night, just nursing a couple times and getting a diaper change. He's really gotten the hang of nursing now. No crankyness yet! But it's just day 5.
 

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<p>Me... I think I need a chiropractor.  Really bad.  My tailbone still hurts.  How long does lochia normally take?  Mine keeps going from red to brown to nothing back to red.  I also have this sinking feeling that maybe I'm going to be one of those really unlucky moms who gets their period back immediately even though they are exclusively breastfeeding.  I'm still not 'eager' but I've been thinking more about DTD than I did my entire pregnancy.  A big plus though is that as of today it hasn't been stinging when I pee anymore!  Hopefully it doesn't open back up.</p>
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I know that I bled for a LONG time with DD#1...several weeks. I was scared because it seemed longer than "normal," but everyone is different. There are a lot of factors involved- how much blood you lost during the delivery, for example. Activity plays a role, too- but I was much better about resting with DD#1 than I am this time around (hard to take it easy with another little one around!), and I'm about done already this time. So each woman is different and each pregnancy is different in this regard. </p>
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<p>And I second the need for a chiropractor! I really need to go...my pelvis is all out of whack. But I hate to leave home with a newborn, KWIM? </p>
 

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<p>I can finally join this chat :)  Adelaide is SUCH a different baby than her sister ~ almost no crying unless she's REALLY mad, and she is actually sleeping.  It's only day 6, so I hope it keeps up.  Her sister was a huge fuss-butt and wanted to eat all day and night long.  It's so weird having a baby that actually sleeps LOL.  She is a great nurser though and is getting tons of milk. </p>
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<p>I think I might have some sort of prolapse though, is anyone else experiencing anything like that?  I have a bit of that "sitting on a golf ball" feeling by the end of the day, but I have horrible horrible hemorrhoids, too so it could be partly that...  of course I did push for almost 6 hours, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised...</p>
 
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