[NYCVeg]

Dd is a very late potty learner. She just turned 4. She began using the potty once a twice a day in the month or so before her birthday, and since her birthday she has been wearing underwear all day (with occasional accidents).<br><br>
She gets very upset about the idea of wearing underwear at night, though, and insists on a pull-up. I don't want it to become a battle or a power struggle, so I'm not arguing with this. Logically, I don't believe that pushing someone else to regulate their own body functions can be productive. I really don't want to create power struggles over using the potty.<br><br>
But. She's 4. We're really, truly tired of changing diapers. We're really, truly tired of the expense.<br><br>
Should we be doing something else? Is it typical for toddlers to still wear pull-ups/diapers at night at this age (pretty much everyone we know seems to have kids who magically potty learned at 2)?

 

[Sunflower66]

Does she stay dry during the night wearing a pull up? If she insist on wearing one I would not turn it into a battle. If the pull up is dry in the morning you can mention it to her and tell her what a big girl she is not needing diapers any longer. Keep things as they are and talk about not needing the pull ups with her in a few weeks and see what happens....

 

[Climbergirl]

Maybe she is worried she won't wake up if she goes to pee? If she is dry, I would consider getting her some "pullup" type cloth pants (so at least you can spend on them once and wash).<br><br>
My DS is 2.5 and he shows interest every once and a while, but has no desire (and I have no energy) to work on using the potty. So, we are definitely not in the magical 2 and pottying crowd!<br><br>
I do have a friend that said that both her and her husband wet the bed until they were 7, and so, their 5 year old is in pull ups and they are just letting it go. Their DD is not waking up dry, so she still needs them.

 

[NYCVeg]

Stupid question: How do I know if she's waking up dry? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Dd gets up before us most mornings, and comes into our room to wake us up. So I have no way of knowing if her pull-up is wet because she went in the night, or if she peed after she woke up.

 

[LindsC]

DS just turned 3 and we still let him wear a diaper at night. He only recently PL'd and he probably wakes up dry 4-5 mornings a week, but most of those are the mornings that we have to wake him up for daycare.<br><br>
Does she wake up around the same time every day? If so, could you set an alarm and wake up just before she does and then you would know the answer to your question. I figure when DS is ready to wear underwear at night, he will let me know. That is how he PL'd too.