I'm sorry you're having a hard time! I know lots of women have trouble coming off Effexor. Some women even get suicidal so please be careful! It's very important to wean yourself off the meds very very slowly. I've heard that you can even open the pills and separate the beads out and mix some in with apple sauce so you're tapering even more gradually. I think it's important to have support in the transition. I think seeing a therapist would be a good idea, if you don't feel comfortable with your psych. Also, exerise, massage, healthy eating, omega-3s, etc. are all good steps. Take care. You'll get there.