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{{{hugs}}} I know this must be terribly scary for you. No loving mother should ever have to be threatned with the removal of her child. You are obviously a very strong and capable mama. You've done an amazing job so far with raising your daughter on your own. With your kind of strength, you can definitley protect your daughter.<br><br>
Given his criminal record and his non-involvement thus far, it is highly unlikely that legally he can take your daughter away from you for unsupervised visits. I'm guesing htat he wont' even follow-through on his remark to his mother bout visitation, most espcially since he hasn't actually done anything abou tit yet. But, you know him best, and I know him not at all....<br><br>
If you get witnesses to vouch that his girlfriend and he are drug users, all the better for you. If you are not receiving any financial support, you have the right to refuse visitation, depending on the state. If you fear kidnapping or harrassment, I recommend finding some sort of legal aid which will provide you with proper forms to fill out. If you are getting your GED through a community college, it's possible that they have reduced legal aid for students. You could do a web search as well to find legal assistance for low-income single mamas.<br><br>
If you can come up with the money, a family attorney would definitely be in your best interest. An attorney is pretty expensive, but will give you the peace of mind of knowing your daughter is safe and will potentially avoid costly legal costs in the future. It is also better to get an attorney and file paperwork if you honestly believe he is going to follow through legally, because you will have beaten him to the punch and won't be in a position of defense.
 

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ok hunny look stop wprry with his record alone they will not give him any kind of visits alone and where he is living is not sutable for a baby either you have way to much on your side and i just went through this to and your x sounds like mine hell say things a nd threaten but he will never do anything about it and on top of that if he is living with his girlfriends mamma tha means he aint got no money to get a layer any way dont sweat it you are fine
 

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I am happy for you and your baby that you will not have to deal with any visitation or custody. Things do have a way of working out sometimes. I hope for the sake of your child, that your ex gets it together one day.
 

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I'm glad you don't have to worry about anything for now. But I'd like to add my two cents.....<br><br>
In a situation like this, it would probably be best for you to be proactive and get a custody court order taken care of. With someone who is on drugs and living a questionable lifestyle, you'll never know what theire behavior will be like in 2 months or 2 years and you never know when this will come up again. It doesn't have to me a *mean* thing, but it probably needs to get done. That way, when the issue arises again, you have a court document to back you up and say "Well, here is what the courts say and if you'd like to change it, you can petition the court". Rather than ever have to worry about crap like this again, just be proactive and take care of it so he CAN'T do stuff like this in the future. With a guy like that, I wouldn't give him ANY visitation unless it was court ordered and on your terms.
 

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I totally agree with anothermama! In California we have Family Court that you can go and they help you with visitation and rights. Maybe your state has the same? Sorry you are going through this!! I still think that his behavior could be erratic and you should still try and get a court order.
 

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