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It's time for my yearly exam. Since I don't plan on having my old OB continue on as my Dr, should I still see them for my annual PAP? I'm trying to decide on a midwife to see, and whether or not I want to try for a homebirth next time. I'm not sure if I should decide first, and then go see that practitioner, or just go to my old OB and do the PAP and discuss TTC with him. Any suggestions?
 

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our midwife does paps and exams. i would look around for a midwife then use her (if they do that in your area).
 

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IME, it doesn't really matter. I went to my PCP for my pap/pelvic, then to a midwife for my preconception appointment. Worked out just fine.
 

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If I were you, I would look for a midwife to do the yearly to "test the water". If you don't like the first midwife during the yearly, you probably won't like for birthing either, and then you can go to the 2nd choice midwife for a "pre-con" later.
 

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I'd also find a MW if that's what you're aiming for for the pregnancy care.<br><br>
I've actually been going to my midwife now for about 3.5 yrs, and just started talking babies with her in Oct!<br><br>
I love her, and that office.
 

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I told my PCP that DH and I were going to ttc and she recommended I see an OB/GYN for a pre-conception consultation.<br><br>
When I saw the OB/GYN, I was very disappointed. He was like, "Well, you look healthy, everything should be fine." I thought he may have a checklist or agenda of things he normally talks about at these types of meetings but he really didn't (good thing I did!). We asked him lots of questions and got them answered for the most part. But it seemed like we were leading the conversation and not him. (To give him *some* credit he told us he was about to meet with a woman and give her bad news which seemed to really upset him.) When I saw my PCP next I told her I was disappointed with the OB and she said that our medical group tends to give more attention to cutting edge, surgery type stuff than preventive medicine. Nice. (One argument for a MW...)<br><br>
Anyway, on my second meeting with the OB (after 6 mos of trying to no avail *I'm 35*) I liked him much better. Maybe we caught him in a bad mood the first time. Or maybe he's not used to those types of meetings (which is sad in itself!).<br><br>
But I guess the lesson I learned from that experience is that I can't rely on him or anyone else to know what's best for me. I have to do my own research (including talking to him) and do what I think is best (ie, how much to exercise, what OTC drugs are ok to take, what to eat, etc).<br><br>
So, make sure to do your own research before meeting with whoever you decide to meet with. And have a list of questions ready! GL!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust">
 

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See a midwife for the preconception visit. I just went to the OB/gyn to get my yearly and do a preconception visit- it was very disppointing. He didn't ask me any questions or give any advice. I told him I was taking Rainbow Light Prenatals and he said, "We'll get you some *REAL* prenatals." But couldn't tell me what the difference might be. Then he said, 'Well, have fun making a baby." and was out the door. I didn't get to ask him any questions or anything.<br><br>
On the other hand I met with a midwife to just do a consult (not even a preconception visit- mind you.) And she was GREAT. She told me everything I wanted to know about, and gave me good advice. It was SOO worth the time to talk to her and just be relaxed about the process- not rush through it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">See a midwife for the preconception visit. I just went to the OB/gyn to get my yearly and do a preconception visit- it was very disppointing. He didn't ask me any questions or give any advice. I told him I was taking Rainbow Light Prenatals and he said, "We'll get you some *REAL* prenatals." But couldn't tell me what the difference might be. Then he said, 'Well, have fun making a baby." and was out the door. I didn't get to ask him any questions or anything.<br><br>
On the other hand I met with a midwife to just do a consult (not even a preconception visit- mind you.) And she was GREAT. She told me everything I wanted to know about, and gave me good advice. It was SOO worth the time to talk to her and just be relaxed about the process- not rush through it.</div>
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Yep, sounds like a common experience!<br><br>
My MW office recommends Rainbow Light Prenatals <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
I think the #1 thing that differentiates my MW office from every Ob/Gyn I've ever been to is that they take the time to actually talk to you and care...like 30-45 minutes of discussion per appointment. This really is important to me.
 
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