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I just have to find a place to vent this all out. I have been going crazy. This pregnancy is soo hard on me, both emotionally and phisically. I called in sick today because I just couldnt tell if the crampiness that I was feeling when I woke up was cervical or not. It was in the middle and ongoing for awhile. I am used to being crampy with these two, but usually it is more down my legs, like round ligament pain, than in the middle. I am just now 24 weeks. My midwife told me to take it easy, call in sick and not run after my two year old as much as I could. It has helped, I know that I havent felt crampy since about 2 this afternoon. I know I totally over did it this last weekend. I was a single parent for three days, and walking/carrying a lot, too much.<br><br>
I guess I just dont know what to think. Park of my hesitation is that I have been so uncomfertable lately, and tired and just plain scared about being nothing but a mom for the rest of my life (I think I am going through a little mid-mom crisis) that I dont trust my intuition about what is going on with my body. Is this normal cramping, or something more serious. And I KNOW that a lot of this is that we decided to go with a home birth for these babies and I am so used to all the medical interventions that come along with an ob. I dont want that, but there is also something reasuring (albeit rendering me quite powerless) about getting all the ultra-sounds and having someone tell me what to do.<br><br>
I just want someone to tell me that these babies are going to be okay, that we will be okay when they get here, my body can hold them in till they are healthy, that I can breastfeed them, that my 2 year old will be okay and not totally emotionally scarred when they get here and that the birth will be okay. I think I am going through a new surge of hormones or something. I know my crotch feels like it is about as swollen as its going to get and the pressure from these babies is so low sometimes. The BH are different too. It is all just sooooooo scarrrrry!
 

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I don't have any advice, because I don't know enough at this point, but I couldn't read without posting some <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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When I overdo it like that, I hurt. And I mean <b>HURT</b>. I had some freakish contractions last week, and after taking the 'rest' portion of 'you're almost 30 weeks, REST' seriously I have been feeling MUCH better. I'm down about half my day now. Seriously like LAYING DOWN as much as I can. It's not easy, for many reasons not the least of which is my type A nonsense, but it's certainly helping how I feel.
 

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Well, I can't quell your fears, but let you know my own experience. I am 32 1/2 weeks and just did yoga and went to Target today, and really felt like I needed to sit down. I started having BHs and am actually "sore" today. I have a 3 year old, so I know chasing a kid is sometimes just what we have to do, but I really shifted gears early in this pregnancy, and try to do as little as possible. I hope you can rest, and find some peace.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I am 31 weeks and i have given up on the convincing myself that this is just like a singleton pregnancy. I have been taking calcium/magnesium tablets and it helps too. That water and rest. It is scary, but our bodies can do it though they may need more rest to grow these babes. Take care!
 

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Ditto on the Cal/Mag tablets, and more water than you could ever think possible - this should help the BH contrax to settle down.<br>
Beyond that, if your body is telling you to slow down, listen to it. I stopped working at around 26 weeks... and thought I would be able to go to 32... but there was just no way! I was too tired and having too many BH. Stress on your body is a big cause of pre-term labor, whether it's emotional/mental or physical stress. So take it easy on yourself, cut back your activity level as much as you can, rest, and start doing positive visualizations & affirmations daily for a good pregnancy, labor, and birth of healthy, full-term babies. I've found the visualizations to be a wonderful way to 'tune in' to the growing babies and to listen more to my intuition.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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My advice is to slow down starting now. You might think it's "early" but your body is trying to tell you something with those cramps. My pregnancy went fine until it didn't. You can't control that. But you can listen to your body and slow down. If this keeps up, consider taking a medical leave from work -- go on disability, you will still get some pay. (You might need an OB to sign off on that, not sure if MW will cut it for the disability people.)<br><br>
Call your MW if you have any doubts at all. She can be your non-hormonally controlled "voice of reason" and she will tell you if you need to go to L&D for monitoring. Don't get freaked out if you have to go in for monitoring, to see if you are having contractions. Better safe than sorry because they can do something about pre term labor if it's early but not if it's late. good luck and I hope you make it to a nice 37-38 weeks!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I could have written your post. My mama instincts went bye-bye with my twin pregnancy. I just didn't feel like I could trust my body anymore.<br><br>
By 24 weeks I was on couch rest with minimal activity. I strongly encourage you to stop working.<br><br>
I never had cramping, but my BH contractions (never painful) just that tightening sensation picked up as my pg progressed. The more I did the more I got. Eventually ended up in the hospital with them at 33 weeks, delivered 33 weeks 4 days.<br><br>
Water consumption played a big part in my contractions, if I was anything short of 120 oz then I got a ton.
 

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I have said this exact thing, almost verbatim, throughout this entire PG. It's really disconcerting!!<br><br>
I'm 29 1/2 weeks now, and still working, if you want to call it that. I really feel kind of useless when I am at work, but my co-workers really pitch in and baby me, so that's nice. I just get frustrated at home, when it seems I can get nothing done, because of the fatigue.<br>
Today, I didn't get out of bed until 1230 .... have to leave for work at 2!! There's a blown day<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">!!<br><br>
I just have to BREATHE, relax, and just get the little, non physical things I can accomplished done.<br>
My mantra now is 6 to 8 more weeks ...... 6 to 8 more weeks
 
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