[HopefulC]

About a month ago, I started putting my now 5.5 m/o db in a co-sleeper to start out the night (at about 7 pm), and then bringing her into my bed at 10.30 or 11, when I went to sleep. This was working out great, except that I've recently noticed that she just doesn't co-sleep as "well" as she used to. She wakes up at night and wants to touch my face, seems restless sleeping in the crook of my arm, etc. I think part of this is because when in the c/s in the early part of the night, she flips onto her stomach and splays out? Maybe she prefers this?

Anyways, I'm a little sad about this. Is this maybe a stage she will outgrow? Or has she just moved on and doesn't want to snuggle AND sleep anymore?

 

[rzberrymom]

I posted this on another thread too, but my DD's sleep preferences changed over time. Sometimes she slept well alone, but then a few months later she'd go through some phase of separation anxiety and want me to be close by--I did my best to go with the flow and meet those needs. I'd say do what works and then be prepared for it to change again (many times, most likely!

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[LadyCatherine185]

my DS is similar.. though he prefers to sleep WITH me, but still have his space..

Does not work well in a queen with three people! If we keep it cool enough in the house, he doesn't mind being a little more snuggled up on us.

 

[broodymama]

DD1 preferred to sleep alone, starting around 6 months or so. She would sleep with me after she woke up to nurse in the night, but would no longer fall asleep with me. She wanted to sleep spread out with absolutely nothing (or nobody) touching her, that was just her preference. Even now she doesn't sleep well with anyone else.

 

[HopefulC]

Thanks, all. Maybe I just need to accept that she would rather sleep in the co-sleeper than in bed with me? It kind of makes me regret having her sleep in there the earlier part of the night, even though she clearly benefits from the extra sleep, and I didn't want to go to sleep at 7 pm every night.

Last night was more of the same--she woke up to nurse around 11, and I went to bed with her then. Fell asleep OK, but a short while later was up chattering, rolling around, blowing raspberries, etc etc. This went on for well over an hour (NEVER would have happened before this whole c/s transition thing). Finally I gave up, put her back in the c/s and she went to sleep.

Then again, maybe she would have grown out of sleeping snuggled up to me anyways? It's hard to know.

 

[Ceinwen]

Both of mine were bound and determined to refute every effort I made at co-sleeping. We ended up having our first dd sleep in her own crib in her own room by about ten weeks. With my second dd I had learned about side carring, and she slept sidecarred for about eight months.