[jacappell]

I haven't seen a lot on this subject, although everyone in the second group aspires to be in the first.

I'm 22 weeks pg, happy as all get-out, but I have a bit of wishy-washiness or maybe clinical distance with the life inside me. Especially because it took me 3 1/2 years and two IVFS (plus loads of other stuff) to get here.

Can anyone out there relate?

 

[lifeguard]

It took us 6 years to conceive. My ENTIRE pregnancy - right until the end I had to say out loud to myself "I'm pregnant". It never felt real.

 

[KristinaMarie]

I will be 22 weeks tomorrow and this little one was conceived via IVF. It took us 3 years to finally get a diagnosis other than I am fat and just need to loose weight. It is still surreal to me, I have to remind myself that I am pregnant. Unfortunatley I think going through infertility makes us gun shy so to speek. Now that he is kicking up a storm, it makes it somewhat more real, but I know excatally what you mean.

 

[FayeO]

I can relate too.
It took us 37 months and 6 failed IUIs before we hit the magic #7 that actually worked!!

We had secondary infertility so it was hard to grasp that although it happened easily one time; the second time was a real ordeal.

It does feel surreal and I still struggle with the idea that something is "wrong".
B/c it seems so unlikely that this will all work out...

But I am HAPPY.

Glad you guys are here too.

Mom to dd (1/15/03)

: and expecting #2 in August

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[cristeen]

I'm 16 weeks right now and not feeling movement yet. I still have my days of waking up and thinking I imagined the whole thing.

 

[songbird45]

*nod* A lot of ddc's have threads in the early months for people who have been through infertility and loss. It really makes you not take anything for granted. I'm 27 weeks now, and feel movement all the time. Sometimes I tell the baby to go to sleep, because I'm trying to sleep, but most of the time I love the reminder. Dh tells me daily, "you're pregnant!" and I'm always a bit surprised to hear it.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

With my first, it took us 5 years of TTC'ing before I got pregnant. I had a hard time believing it, and I didn't have very many symptoms at all so until DS started kicking around, I kept trying to keep myself detached so when I found out it really was all a dream I wouldn't be as disappointed. My DH didn't believe it, not really I don't think, until we went to the 20 week u/s and he got to see DS squirming around.

I do kind of wish I hadn't felt like that...there were a lot of things I wouldn't allow myself because I just didn't trust that it was real, and I think it kept me from fully enjoying the pregnancy.

 

[Caroline P]

There are many of us here mama. We too had a hard time getting pregnant with my first - 2.5 yrs and one INJ/IUI later, we conceived him. I never felt just panic, paranoia and joy at the same time. I love my little man so much, more I think because he was dreamed of for so long. He's almost 2.5 yrs now. I'm pregnant again, a miracle this time, first month of trying - who would have thought that after all the h#[email protected] we went through. I'm not more relaxed at all!

It won't be real until I see her or his face I think. Though the kicking inside really helps

But July can't come fast enough!
Congrats to you and all the other mamas that went through special journeys to get here.

 

[sunflwrmoonbeam]

Oh yes. Have you been to Stirrup Queen's Completely Anal List of Blogs that Proves She Missed her Calling as a Professional Organizer?

I have PCOS, took two years TTC and had 3-5 early miscarriages. It wasn't until 26 weeks that I even had a glimmer of an idea that I'd get a real live baby at the end of this. I'm now 31 weeks and it's a "holy f&#k, I'm gonna have a kid SOON!"

 

[Dahlea]

It took us 5 years of trying, and giving up to have ours. He was a total surprise. Congratulations-it can be an adjustment!