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Just thought I would start a thread for those of us who have had a loss.<br><br>
We had our first and hopefully last loss last month. My OB is pretty hands off but gave me the option of having a Beta drawn yesterday and tomorrow. I jumped on it. I was 11dpo yesterday and My HCG was 30. On the first day of bleeding last month my HCG was 5. I don't know what it was at 11dpo but I started to M/C on 17dpo. Any one know how low the $ general hpt go. I had a stronger positive test today but the line is still faint. Trying really hard to be calm.
 

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BTDT. We had two miscarriages between our dd and ds. They suck. One might think that having ds would make me less nervous this time. Not so much. Well, maybe *slightly* less nervous, but the first coherent thought I had was, "Terrified."<br><br>
Our miscarriages were different, one at 6 weeks with low progesterone, the next at 10 weeks with good progesterone, with symptoms, and after having seen the heartbeat. So I can't take great comfort in symptoms or numbers, though such things help.<br><br>
Things that help me: Repeating, "Today, right now, I am pregnant." And praying/hoping/asking for peace with whatever happens.<br><br>
I forget the numbers for the Dollar General tests, but that's pretty much all I use. Really, they say not to rely on the strength of the color of the line. A line's a line and all that. With my 2nd & 3rd tests, (I've taken 4, thankyouverymuch <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">) the lines were lighter because I took them closer together. My pee wasn't as concentrated.<br><br>
Hang in there. Today, right now, we're pregnant.
 

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I'm here and nervous, too. I had a m/c in September at 6.5 weeks. We hadn't yet been in for a u/s, so it hardly even seems like it was real. It did at the time, but I should have known something was wrong. I already have more symptoms than I did the whole time with that one.<br><br>
I don't know about $ general tests, but I agree that line color doesn't mean much. Are you going back for a second beta? To see steadily rising numbers could give you some peace of mind.<br><br>
I'm trying to stay relaxed, but it is sometimes hard. Hooray for sore bbs and nausea!<br><br>
ETA: Sorry, momongeon. I just noticed that you are having a second beta. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">
 

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My loss was in July 2007. I have my rainbow baby, but the pg innocence is gone. So I tell myself to enjoy every minute, no matter how short or long. I agree that the symptoms were key. When I felt awful I kept thinking bring it on <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Here goes the anxiety again --- today my breasts seem a little less full and sore than in the past few days. Luckily, I still feel a bit queasy and crampy. I started losing symptoms fairly early on last time, but I remained in denial. Now I'm trying to think back and remember exactly how this time might be different than the last. Why, oh why does my ultrasound have to be two full weeks away?!<br><br>
But you're all right. For now, we're pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I've been worrying too. This issue's <i>A Quiet Place</i> is very fitting for me right now. I keep reminding myself to not worry and just be happy because all I did was worry about my pregnancy with ds, and everything was absolutely fine. I just want to feel joy during my pregnancy for once, even if this one doesn't sick. Because as Kristeremy said
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What concerns me the most right now is that I have had brown spotting for a week. Sometimes it gets so light I think it has stopped, but then the next day I'll have some more. I don't know what this means, I know it could be a few things- possibly bad, possibly normal. I've taken 2 pregnancy tests, both positive with faint lines. But I don't want to fret over it. I'm not trying to check my hcg levels because that will only make me worry more. Whatever happens will happen.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> rissirae. The spotting has to be very stressful. I hope it stops soon.<br><br>
Momongeon -- did you get the results back on your 2nd beta yet?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> rissirae. The spotting has to be very stressful. I hope it stops soon.<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Betas went from 32 to 104 in 48hrs!!!! could it be twins?
 

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Ok, so we're out of town for Thanksgiving, and dh found a pregnancy test in his duffle bag (brand new). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I got it from my sister a few months ago (the second one from a 2 pack that she bought) and I couldn't figure out where I put it until tonight! I think maybe it's a sign that I should try it tomarrow morning and see what I get <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">. It's digital, so that should be fun too. Just hoping my hcg levels are still high. I had way more spotting today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">, so I'm a little more nervous than usual.
 

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Result: "Not Pregnant" and I started some actual bleeding this morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. So, I'm having a miscarriage. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
I'm looking on the bright side, that it happened early this time so it shouldn't be so bad physically or emotionally. And we'll just try again next much. I'm very thankful for my ds this Thanksgiving and I'm wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Result: "Not Pregnant" and I started some actual bleeding this morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. So, I'm having a miscarriage. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
I'm looking on the bright side, that it happened early this time so it shouldn't be so bad physically or emotionally. And we'll just try again next much. I'm very thankful for my ds this Thanksgiving and I'm wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> I am so sorry. good luck this month. I'll be thinking of you
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Result: "Not Pregnant" and I started some actual bleeding this morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. So, I'm having a miscarriage. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
I'm looking on the bright side, that it happened early this time so it shouldn't be so bad physically or emotionally. And we'll just try again next much. I'm very thankful for my ds this Thanksgiving and I'm wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> So sorry to hear, rissie. Thinking of you and your family this Thanksgiving and wishing you luck next month
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Rissirae<br><br>
I'm so sorry. I hope you're back in a DDC before you know it.<br><br>
Have a Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you have a good day with the ones you love.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Betas went from 32 to 104 in 48hrs!!!! could it be twins?</div>
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Congratulations! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> How ever many you've got in there, it's sounding good!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm looking on the bright side, that it happened early this time so it shouldn't be so bad physically or emotionally. And we'll just try again next much. I'm very thankful for my ds this Thanksgiving and I'm wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies!</div>
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I have read that women are more fertile immediately following a m/c so I hope you find your way back to the DDCs very shortly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes">
 

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I'm so sorry mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sending you lots of sticky baby dust for ttc'ing!!!
 

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I guess I belong here.<br><br>
I had an early loss (just before 5 weeks) back in June of 2008. Since then, several times I've had obvious pregnancy symptoms, but the few times I tested they were negative, and most months I just refused to test. This time, I finally tested at 18 DPO, and it's positive! I'm now at 20 DPO, and this is the longest I've ever been pregnant!<br><br>
I'm 36, too, so it's not like I have all the time in the world, but anyway, today, right now, I am pregnant.<br><br>
So, here I am. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Symptoms so far are extreme exhaustion and huge, very sore boobs. My first symptom was the same as last pregnancy: I couldn't finish my normal pilates workout. As in, I left like 15-20 minutes early! I sleep a lot and rest a lot more. DH is waiting on me hand and foot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Wishing luck to everyone here.
 

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hello. i had an early miscarriage in September of this year. I have not tested, but I am 4 days late and have all the signs. (except morning sickness).<br><br>
praying for another little one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I had a miscarriage in September. I was devastated. So here I am pregnant again. I want that other babe back but I also want this one to stay. I feel like I have lost my prior innocence when it comes to being pregnant. The first week after knowing I felt sarcastic and depressed now I am starting to have a hope and really feel this one. I 'm softening to the idea of it... that is scary. My first pregnancy was so magical and peaceful along with her birth and early months. I want some of that back for this babe.... we all deserve that.
 

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My daughter was born still this past August at 22 weeks and then I had a chemical pg which ended on 11/3, I was about 4 1/2 weeks along. I just got a positive test on Friday night, then again Sat. morning, and much darker just now on Sunday afternoon. I am 11 dpo and I am going to try to get my HCG levels checked tomorrow and a couple days from then if my doctor will approve it. I am a nervous wreck and could use support so I would like to join you all.
 
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