[redophelia]

I love my dd dearly and love having her in the bed with us... although dh hates it. She is 2 1/2 and starts out in her own toddler bed in her room but in the middle of the night, like clockwork, comes into bed with us. We are usually too tired to get up and bring her back in.

The dilemma is that I'm already a pretty big woman (250 lbs) and dh is 210. We are in a queen-sized bed with 30-lb dd in the middle. I am 6 months pregnant and I have sleep apnea so here I am with this big mask, dh is snoring loudly, and dd is kicking me in the sciatic back while my belly hangs off the bed... not to mention, no room for my beloved Snoogle!!

So what to do? Bring her bed in next to our bed? Be more vigilant about trying to get her into her own bed? I'd buy a bigger bed but we really can't afford it at all. King size beds are so expensive! We have always coslept and plan to sidecar the crib for baby #2 but that is going to be so hard to have all 4 of us in a queen sized bed!

Help!

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[arlecchina]

a king bed IS expensive but could you swing a twin size and scoot it next to the queen? I might have my figures off but it should fit pretty closely and you could use one king flat sheet tucked in over both rather than 2 seperate fitted sheets.

 

[2Sweeties1Angel]

I'm also pregnant and couldn't take having 5 year old DS in bed every night. I love the kid and everything would be fine if he just wouldn't make such a pest of himself. He does this thing where he gets sort of upside down and sideways with his feet either up my butt or kicking his sister. I finally booted him out and now he sleeps in the toddler bed in my room. He refuses to sleep in his own bedroom. I don't think a king sized bed would help in my situation because he'd still be trying to aggravate everyone in their sleep.

 

[BelovedK]

I agree that it is hard and can be annoying to have another body in a bed with limited space. I must add that when one is asleep they are hardly 'trying' to be a problem in any way. I second the idea of a twin sized bed next to the queen. There might be limited room in the br, but everyone's needs have the opportunity of being met. Good luck

 

[Emilie]

I second the adding a twin or double in next to your bed....
we were all in a double bed - until i bought a queen at a yard sale for $30!( gross to some- im ok with it.)
we had then side by side in our old houzse....
here dh and ds sleep in one room- me and dd sleep in another....
it works for us.

 

[2Sweeties1Angel]

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I must add that when one is asleep they are hardly 'trying' to be a problem in any way.

DS isn't normally asleep when he's aggravating. He wakes up and does things to get on my nerves because he thinks it's funny. When he's actually sleeping, he's usually fine.

 

[BelovedK]

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Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel DS isn't normally asleep when he's aggravating. He wakes up and does things to get on my nerves because he thinks it's funny. When he's actually sleeping, he's usually fine.

 

[ethansemi]

We took our queen mattress...stored the frame...took our full size mattress (and box spring so the two could be level) store that frame and put them on our floor!! We love it!!! Our son has always been able to climb in and out and not hurt himself!! If that's too crazy I have a friend who took their crib, removed one side and adjusted the height to match their bed and pushed the two together!

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[BelovedK]

Welcome ethansemi

Good ideas.

 

[GavinSophieMama]

I agree with pp about the twin sidecar. We have a king but still felt cramped when I was pg, (I used tons of pillows behind me and in front just to get comfortable), if I had to do over again I'd get that V shaped pillow I've seen. We found that co-sleeping really helped my ds with the transition of my pregnancy and all the talk about the new baby. Good luck!

 

[mightymoo]

When I was pregnant with DS, we did the twin next to the bed thing. Partially because I couldn't take the kicking or DD pushing her skull into my belly, etc and partially because I wanted to rearrange the sleeping arrangements so there was a place for the baby without DD feeling like she was displaced when the baby arrived. So we moved her into a twin bed next to our bed (practially the same level) and then swapped DH and I so she slept next to DH.

After DS was born, she continued to come in and sleep on the twin in the middle of the night, but after a while she started sleeping in her room all night long without any push from us. I think it helped her transition with the baby to not feel like she was left out in her room - she could come and sleep with mom and dad (and baby) whenever she wanted.

 

[redophelia]

Thanks for the advice everyone! I think we are going to go ahead and try to put a twin next to our bed and see how it works out. If we put the twin on dh's side and the crib on my side, we'll have one full room but at least everyone will be happy.