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Hello,<br><br>
I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant and my 23 mo is still nursing...We had been nursing about 3x a day before I became pregnant, but then I began having the normal pain that comes along with being pregnant. OUCH!!<br><br>
I completely thought we would tandem nurse (I feel sooo guilty, too), but after a couple of months of the unrelenting pain, I weaned my dd to just her evening feeding. My milk has dried up but she still wants to nurse.<br><br>
I am hoping she will self wean, but am needing some encouraging stories/thoughts from other experienced moms.<br><br>
Thanks so much!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/belly.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="belly"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/familybed1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Familybed1">
 

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When I was pregnant (m/c last month) dd cut way back. BUT as soon as the milk was back, so was she. So be ready for unweaning.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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My DS just turned 2 when I got pg with DD, and he is still nursing now at 4. I did encourage him to cut back on how often while I was pg, and that helped some. One thing that for me made a big difference in how painful it was to nurse was to just make sure I was drinking a LOT of water. As Angela said, once she was born and the milk was back, he started nursing a lot more again, but got back into his regular pattern by a few months later. He just last month cut back from 2-3 times a day to just before bed on his own, and that seems to be working well for us. His sister is now 19 months and nursing 6 or so times a day. WTG to you for making it this long, and I wish you a healthy pregnancy and baby! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks, Jillmamma, for the encouragement!<br><br>
When you ds nursed during your dry period, did he use more "force" or energy to try to get more milk out? I'm finding that the teeth marks left are lasting longer and longer...even bruising.
 

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My dd was 9 months old when I got pregnant with DS, 18 months old when he was born, she nursed through the pregnancy (though, we had to stop at 30-34 weeks or something like that, cause I was 7cm dilated and nursing for 2 minutes would cause contractions...I was sure after nearly a month of not nursing she would of been weaned...but not once in that month did a day go by when she didn't request to nurse multiple times, and as soon as I was allowed to nurse again she picked it right back up with no issue), she self-weaned a couple days after turning 4 years old...though, she claims she is going to nurse again when #3 is born...he is due about a week before her 5th birthday, so it will have been 11 1/2 months since she last nursed, so we'll see.<br><br>
My ds selfweaned at 23 months...I tried really really really hard to get him to nurse longer, but he wouldn't do it.
 

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Ditto. DD dropped down to just once a day while I was pregnant, but after DD2 was born she wanted to nurse ALL the time.<br><br>
Now she's down to 2 or 3 times a day, and it looks like we'll be dropping the before bed one soon. She's taken to nursing for literlally 5 seconds then saying "done" and pulling my shirt back down.
 

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welll... my milk dried up completely by 20 weeks... and after that we nursed about once a day for a while, then by the end once every 1-3 days. i was sure we would end up tandem nursing since he was so determined to keep going despite my lack of supply. but at 38 weeks he went 3 days without attempting to nurse, and about a week without actually latching on (he was able to latch on one side, but not so reliably on the other anymore) and he all of a sudden couldn't latch on the ok side??? since then he's only managed a latch for a few brief seconds, but then has failed to latch again subsequent times. so as far as i know, he weaned at 38 weeks... about 1 week before the baby came. the baby will be 2 weeks tomorrow and he hasn't managed to unwean yet. he was trying to nurse once a day for a while, but he hasn't asked in 3 days now... so to my great surprise, he seems to be weaned!
 

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My oldest nursed through my second pregnancy and self-weaned at the beginning of my third (maybe just beforehand, not positive). He was 3.<br>
My middle son self-weaned when I was 16 weeks pregnant with my third. He was 2.
 

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I recently weaned my son because I just couldn't take the discomfort of nursing while pregnant. I had been experiencing adversions to nursing for over a year, and the pregnancy made them unbearable.<br><br>
Ds cut back around the time I found out I was pregnant. He was a constant nurser before then, so I was surprised he even cut back. We had company twice during my first trimester and he barely nursed at all due to the distraction. He was down to only nursing before naps and bedtime and only for a short time. Then, about a month before his second birthday, when I was about 12 weeks along, he fell asleep without nursing and slept better than he ever had. I didn't think he would EVER fall asleep without nursing, but he has ever since then. He still likes to hold my breast to fall asleep.<br><br>
Over the next month and a half after that, he kept nursing less and less. I couldn't stand to let him nurse long, so I kept cutting his nursing sessions short. Then he skipped three days. Then a week. He got upset the other day and wanted to nurse and I told him no. I felt bad, but I just don't feel like I can start again. I was feeling so much resentment and anger during nursing, and I really feel like I have been a better mother since we stopped. It wasn't child-led, but my son went along with it better than I ever would have expected. There were very few tears.<br><br>
Sorry this has been long and rambling. I just wanted to share my experience. I hope you find a solution that works for you and your child.
 

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Wow! Thank you all for your stories...they really have given me some "hope" in our situation.<br><br>
I feel like it's time to encourage weaning completely since my attitude toward her while she nurses has become a little more negative...my husband even mentioned something to me last night after I snapped at dd. If I could stand the pain, I would continue nursing her the one time at night, but I've been having a hard time.<br><br>
Good luck to you all and thanks again!
 

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I posted the "how do I finish weaning" thread here today because I am in the same boat. Our problem is that we need to have DD find another way to fall asleep besides nursing. I am 18 wks pg, my milk dried up 3 wks ago and nursing is so painful. I also always thought that I would tandem nurse my kids but I just don't feel in that place anymore. Hang in there you are not alone and we just have to remember that these difficult transitions don't last forever.
 
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