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Hi<br>
We found out we are pregnant a week ago. I am probably about 5 weeks now. Due mid Dec.<br>
We lost our baby girl at near term only about 10 weeks ago.<br>
Is this too soon to be pregnant again? Anyone else experience the same thing?<br>
Of course we are excited about having another child and desperately wanted to have another, not to replace Charlie (impossible) but to... now I don't know? ? !!<br>
Feeling anxious and excited and in some horrible way like I am betraying our little girl. I don't know, this is messed up!
 

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Congratulations on your new pregnancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Pregnancy after loss is filled with such mixed emotions. I'm having to take each day as it comes.
 

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yes, we got pregnant exactly 2 months after birth of Aquila. it is a wonderful thing, but there are some definate struggles right now.
 

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My first loss was ectopic and I was pregnant again within two months. Sadly we lost that baby at 16 weeks, and then I got pregnant again with this baby about 2.5 months later. So, relatively quick. Initially I thought I wanted to wait longer, but I could NOT bear the thought of reaching his due date and not being pregnant. I think the hardest part for me is trying to explain to people who haven't been there that desperately wanting to be pregnant again does NOT mean you're trying to replace the baby you lost. People who have lost babies know it's impossible to replace them but from the outside I guess that's what it looks like.<br><br>
I feel the guilt too, especially since there's no way I would have been pregnant with this baby if I hadn't lost my son. It's weird to think about.<br><br>
PAL brings up a lot of emotions in general. Anxiety and guilt and everything are normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Thanks for your replies.<br>
We are actually due in mid January... getting ahead of myself.<br>
Still early days yet, and I guess that is a part of it. Hoping everything will be ok, esp. so soon after the loss of Charlotte.<br>
Thanks for sharing your stories and congrats on the soon to be new arrivals!
 

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We got pregnant within a couple weeks of losing our 4th child. In fact, I was convinced that something was wrong, my OB was concerned that some piece of placenta was still in my uterus... we had an ultrasound and found a tiny "fetal pole" developed to 5 w. A week later, we got to see a tiny heart beating away. It was SO surreal... I struggled for a few months, alternating between elation and feelings of betraying our lost child. When my original EDD passed, I had to spend a few days in mourning; I didn't want to get out of bed or see anyone other than DH.<br><br>
Congrats on your newest! Like a pp said, PAL brings out such a wide range of emotions. Take care of yourself mama!
 
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