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If there have been similar post on this subject I will apologize ahead of time!<br><br>
I am pregnant with my second child, my first just had his first birthday last week.<br><br>
What should I expect?? What were your experiences, feelings, sensations etc. I was very aware of all the changes my body was going through the first time around, but what about this time.<br>
I was hoping to get some feedback from Mom's of multiple children.<br>
Also HOW IN THE HECK AM I GOING TO HANDLE A HOUSEHOLD(pretty much on my own, my hubby is a full time student and in the military), A TODDLER, AN INFANT AND TWO DOGS??!!!!!<br>
There isn't anyone in my family to ask because my hubby and I are the first to have kids...<br><br>
TIPS, ADVICE, ANYTHING TO MAKE LIFE EASIER NEEDED!!
 

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Lets see...<br><br>
Being pregnant and carrying for a toddler is by far the hardest job... Its no fun to hoover above the toliet while keeping tabs on your first baby.<br><br>
Right before my second daughter was born I was really worried, and asked my dh "Will I love her?" I couldn't comprehend how I could love another little person, I adore my first daughter, and I was scared I would miss her while in the hospital, and that she'd be mad at me when I brought the baby home. In the end loving the new baby was as natural as loving my first, and with a little bit of time we went from three to four in a smooth transition.<br><br>
I will say... Honestly it was only about three months ago that I regained control of my house... Jordan is three, Gogo is 1 and we have a tiny pomerianian that thinks she's a rott. Learning a new schedule and balancing house work was a huge undertaking. It takes time!<br><br>
Best wishes!!
 

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expect to be a lot more tired than you were with your last pregnancy<br>
expect to forget that you are pregnant sometimes because you are too busy to remember<br>
expect this pregnancy to go 100 times faster than your last one<br>
expect changing poopy diapers to be a major challenge (keep a barf bucket nearby!)<br>
expect to need your sense of humour<br>
expect to be a little sad sometimes that your baby won't be your baby anymore<br>
expect nursing your toddler to become a big challenge<br>
expect to need a lot more help from your husband than you do now<br>
expect that things are gonna be crazy and the best way to get through this is just to relax<br><br>
good luck and try not to worry!
 

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You'll start to feel all those pregnancy aches a lot sooner, bummer...but on the bright side, you'll feel the baby start to move a lot sooner than did last time!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">expect to be a lot more tired than you were with your last pregnancy<br>
expect to forget that you are pregnant sometimes because you are too busy to remember<br>
expect this pregnancy to go 100 times faster than your last one<br>
expect changing poopy diapers to be a major challenge (keep a barf bucket nearby!)<br>
expect to need your sense of humour<br>
expect to be a little sad sometimes that your baby won't be your baby anymore<br>
expect nursing your toddler to become a big challenge<br>
expect to need a lot more help from your husband than you do now<br>
expect that things are gonna be crazy and the best way to get through this is just to relax<br><br>
good luck and try not to worry!</div>
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TOTALLY!!!!!!<br>
esp. nursing during preg.by far was the hardest during my preg. I got thru it and DD self <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> weaned 2 weeks before I gave birth, thankfully!!!!!<br><br>
I have to say my 2nd preg went by so fast.I didn't have the time to rest esp. with a wild toddler...I really wanted to but just couldn't! also the first 3 weeks to be very honest here, I cried every day! I thought OMG, what did I get my self-into! Caring for a newborn is CAKE, compared to caring for a toddler for me right now!<br>
Be prepared to nurse your newbie and make lunch for your toddler, or learn to master walking & nursing!<br><br>
Learn to love your laundry mounds and you have to let the cleaning and chores go by! It sucks but I didn't feel like I even had time to pee the 1st few weeks!<br><br>
I'm not trying to be Neg. here as there are many wonderful things I've experienced so far! ( DS is 8 weeks and DD is 2.....)I wish I had prepared a bit more before DS was born though!<br>
It's amazing to see DS smile at DD with such love and DD hold his little hand and say Hi little fellow! I have to remember these times when Dd is being wild and trying to poke DS!<br><br>
You should join our thread on the Toddlers section~<br>
Mamas w/ a toddler & babe!<br><br>
Blessings & Congrats!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Definitely expect to be EXHAUSTED.<br><br>
Ditto to the poster who said to keep a barf bucket nearby during diaper changes. Fortunately it only happened to me once, and now I can see the humor in having one hand on the toddler while puking in the diaper pail, and coming up to say "it's ok, honey, just lay still, mommy's throwing up" between heaves. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I felt like I didn't really bond with the pregnancy until nearly the third trimester. The first pregnancy, I was soooo excited the whole time! The second pregnancy, I was mostly tired out and wondering if I were crazy to do it all over again. Around 26 weeks is when I finally started wanting to think about names and baby stuff, and got excited.<br><br><br><br>
As for how to manage the household? I dunno. You just do, somehow. You may have to lower your standards for a while, especially during the first trimester - it's all about survival, not about sparkling floors or gourmet meals. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I'm pg with #3 and just starting to get a little bit of second-trimester energy. Before this point, we were eating a TON of takeout, and the house looked horrid. And that was with a helpful hubby! At any rate, you can survive the chaos in the short term. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Get a sling and learn how to use it. It was the only way I could take care of two kids (and ds was almost 4 when dd was born.) Make sure it's comfortable for all day use. I don't know how people manage two kids if they're not wearing the baby.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Get a sling and learn how to use it. It was the only way I could take care of two kids (and ds was almost 4 when dd was born.) Make sure it's comfortable for all day use. I don't know how people manage two kids if they're not wearing the baby.</div>
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I used a sling for 4 months straight with my first(sometimes sleeping upright at night with him in it), so it's already in the forecast for this one!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I appreciate everyone's input.
 
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