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I'm not even sure that I know what I'm in for here.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Dc's father & I are separated (9 months) and are trying to settle on custody of our 3 dc in order to finilize the divorce.<br><br>
My attorney thought that asking for a custody evaluation by the Domestic Relations Counseling Bureau (DRCB) would be to my benefit. I agree with my attorney, yet I still feel anxious over the evaluation...it's coming up on June 1.<br><br><br>
Have you been through something like this before?<br>
Do you have any advice? suggestions? ideas?
 

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I've never heard tell of such a thing. What kinds of things do they look at?
 

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The courts rely very heavily on a custody evaluation. It is an unbiased/unrelated individual that investigates every aspect of a situation. They will interview both parents, the children, and anyone else that has contact with the children. They will than write a formal report for the judge with their recommendation as to how custody should be split. They may even make a recommendation for visitation. It is usually make or break. They can be very good or not so good. Make sure your attorney is ok with this evaluator. Your attorney will be supplied with the results prior to the judge. If the evaluation goes against you, that is bad. Nine times out of ten the judge will do exactly what the evaluator recommends. So be sure before you agree.
 

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I had one done last year. Both ex and I had to go seperately to a licensed social worker/paychotherapist and answer a lot of questions. Then she did a home visit at each of our homes. I told her everything and anything I could think of and gave her the paperwork to back it up. She then took a month to rule who she thought the primary parent should be. She chose me. I was very nervous going through the process, but once I realized that I had nothing to hide I felt better. She saw through all of ex's lies and that made me happy.<br><br>
The courts really do rely very heavily on these reports. They did not even question the report, she chose me as primary so that is what I got. Period.
 
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