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We are planning for a cross-country move in about 3 weeks. Does anyone have any tips for managing this with a toddler (and a baby, too!)? We'll be living at my mom and dad's house until our home sells, which could be a few months, so I hope that will ease the transition for DS since he's already used to traveling to Grandma and Grandpa's. But I'm not sure what to expect from him (he's 2 1/2). Is he going to remember/miss our house? Any tips for when we do move into a new house?
 

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Well we JUST did this with our twin 2 1/2 yr olds! (been here about 3 weeks)<br>
Some recommendations I heard and did where to make sure you let him goodbye to his house/yard/neighbors (etc), wherever he played, lived... we got so busy packing and loading but had 2 sets of grandparents there that day and my parents took the boys around the yard saying bye to everything, also they took lots of final pictures. We will all sit and look at those pictures now (in our new place) and talk about it all. Nice to explain things along the way as well, I did a lot of preparation of "we are going to move to a NEW house, and we'll say bye bye to this house" there are some books from the library about moving you might pick up as well.<br><br>
Along the way (it took us 5 days) one of my sons kept saying in a sad voice "I want to go home" it was very sad... I just kept saying "I know you tired of driving honey, we will be stopping soon and we can play"<br>
As much as you can, have stops at rest areas (or mcdonald's play areas if weather is bad) to let him run and play and stretch. We didn't do this very well, no matter how hard we tried to schedule things they always ended the night in tears, just too tired and probably the uncertainties.<br><br>
I thankfully had my mom riding with me and she played "nanny" the whole way (DH was driving a Uhual behind us), my boys love books, so we got several new ones, and other new toys that we knew they would love and would present a new thing each day. Also lots of "sitting in a carseat snacks" on hand.<br><br>
The baby though... phew! I think its going to be hard. We actually did this trip a little over a year ago (we are SO crazy) with twin 15 month olds and it was much harder, they were harder to entertain and slept worse... a lot more crying. If you are nursing at least stopping and doing that is time for your ds to run around?<br><br>
Will you be driving in just one car and is there a second person I assume (like DH?), that sure helped us having extra hands around (DH's aunt helped us across the first time).<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Those are good suggestions about saying goodbye to the house. Luckily (I should have said this), my DH is the only one driving the trip; my mom is coming here to fly there with me and the kids. My DD is one fussy babe, there's no way I'd subject myself to hours and hours of driving with her. She'll probably hate the plane but at least the flight's only a couple of hours. I don't care if everyone else on the plane hates me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
Do your kids seem to be adjusting well to the new house? I guess I'm a little worried about the time when DS goes to the new house and sees all the "stuff" from the old house in a new place.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">:<br>
We are moving from the UK back home to the USA and living in our families home(s) for a few months too. This will be with DS at 25 months and the baby at about 5 weeks.<br><br>
First of all, anything we can't take with us we have been taking out of the house little by little so its not such a drastic change in one day. Or if there are toys we are getting rid of we do that one or two at a time here and there.<br><br>
I don't know if your DS is old enough but sometiems he might have "treasures" that we think is "junk" so be careful not to just get rid of things he may think are special. i think this applies to older kids more tho. If it can't come with they could have a picture of it (like say...a collection of rocks).<br><br>
We have a travel tent that will be his bed for about 6 months so we have moved him into it now and he loves it. We got him a special sleeping bag and pillow case and new stuffed animal that he wanted (a monkey) so he can have consistency where he is. We are also having the same booster seat/plate/utensils/cup so no matter where he is at least he has some consistency in that too.<br><br>
saying goodbye is really important. even to chairs or trees or whatever, good tip there from PPs.<br><br>
If there is family there your boys don't know as well, as we have b/c of living overseas, we have a picture album we go thru every day and talk about each family member. he knows all their names and faces.<br><br>
if i think of anything else i'll post as i think its really important to think thru these things! With the baby i think you'll be fine if he/she is young and just nursing.<br><br>
We've done 12 hour plane rides MANY times and they really have never been a problem, its actually gone fast!
 

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mkmama just reminded me of something else,<br>
letting them know what is going on as much as possible, like we packed away almost all their toys but left a few things out, and they would wander around wondering what happened to their toys. I would say "dada packed it in a box so we can take it to our new house!" (with excitement), and learned to tell them while we were doing it or before, and not just after.<br>
We also did things like get rid of our goats and didn't let the boys say goodbye or tell them... so one day DH was playing with the boys outside and he was tearing down the fence and ds said "HEY! that's the goat house!" and DH says "we don't have goats anymore" and he went "HUH?!" so... we learned from that too.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">: we are also preparing for a move... all best to you, OP (and others)!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">mkmama just reminded me of something else,<br>
letting them know what is going on as much as possible, like we packed away almost all their toys but left a few things out, and they would wander around wondering what happened to their toys. I would say "dada packed it in a box so we can take it to our new house!" (with excitement), and learned to tell them while we were doing it or before, and not just after.<br>
We also did things like get rid of our goats and didn't let the boys say goodbye or tell them... so one day DH was playing with the boys outside and he was tearing down the fence and ds said "HEY! that's the goat house!" and DH says "we don't have goats anymore" and he went "HUH?!" so... we learned from that too.</div>
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I will never ever forget when i was 10 my mom gave away my cat so i didn't have to say goodbye and i was angry with her for a long time. She felt horrible...and eventually took me to go say goodbye at the new home.
 
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