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I have 3 boys. All born in the hospital. Since this is my last baby, I'm having him my way. At home in the water, I hope.<br>
I'm just wondering, how did you all prepare yourselves mentally? I've been watching videos and talking to people who have done it.<br>
I'm really not too worried, I just want to be prepared.
 

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I took the Bradley class, read a lot of books about natural birth, watched tons of homebirth videos, and read tons of homebirth stories. I also did a lot of research on the safety of homebirth. I think the best confidence booster was watching <i>The Business of Being Born</i>. In fact, I wasn't sure I was going to do a homebirth until I watched that movie. After seeing it, I couldn't imagine doing anything else!<br><br>
Oh, I also spent some time visualizing myself laboring in different rooms in our house, making "last minute to-do lists", and getting my labor supplies together.<br><br>
Another thing, a friend of mine gave me a "mother blessing". The guests made me a beautiful "birth bracelet" which I wore frequently before the birth and through out the entire labor and birth process. They also made me a candle which I kept lit through out labor. It was so nice to know that I had so many people praying for me and thinking about me.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Mental preparation is what gets me through labor. A book I found very helpful is Mind Over Labor, which gives many mental exercises to practice before baby comes -- visualizations, affirmations, and meditations.<br><br>
One of my favorite things to do -- I do it nightly as I fall asleep -- is envision my ideal labor and birth from beginning to end. This involves my other children playing contentedly with my mother while I labor in my bedroom, my husband being focussed on my needs, quiet, peace, and the baby coming down with little effort into my arms, healthy as can be.<br><br>
Hope that helps!<br><br>
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This will be #4 at home. I am a previously Bradley teacher, have taken Hypnobirthing, and have finally decided the Hypnobabies prepares me like nothing else. Yeah, self hypnosis sounds hokey but the program goes so much further than just those techniques. There's good solid childbirth info in the home study program but, I think one of the best things it does is use positive affirmations. That also sounds like a load<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> but listening to the cds daily really gets into your brain. I feel good, happy, confident after listeing to them. I feel relaxed. It also has a fear releasing cd so you can work out any concerns/fears you have about the impending birth.<br><br>
There's a lot to be said for reading positive birth stories (I rec. Journey into Motherhood - all natural birth stories, all happy endings) and reading books. I always did that. I ingested it intellectually though. Listening to cds everyday (which I look forward to) really made the thoughts go deeper into my sub conscious but still accessible.<br><br>
Envisioning is awesome. I have a history of short births - about 2 hrs. But w/#3 I consistently envisioned a 6 hr. peaceful birth and that's exactly what I got!
 

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Thanks everyone! I have been curious about hypnobirthing. It sounds like something that could help me. I think that it would help me focus on what my body is doing and not the pain.
 

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Make sure you investigate the difference between Hypnobirthing and Hypnobabies and any others out there. They are not created equal. My preference is for Hypnobabies<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This will be #4 at home. I am a previously Bradley teacher, have taken Hypnobirthing, and have finally decided the Hypnobabies prepares me like nothing else. Yeah, self hypnosis sounds hokey but the program goes so much further than just those techniques. There's good solid childbirth info in the home study program but, I think one of the best things it does is use positive affirmations. That also sounds like a load<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> but listening to the cds daily really gets into your brain. I feel good, happy, confident after listeing to them. I feel relaxed. It also has a fear releasing cd so you can work out any concerns/fears you have about the impending birth.<br><br>
There's a lot to be said for reading positive birth stories (I rec. Journey into Motherhood - all natural birth stories, all happy endings) and reading books. I always did that. I ingested it intellectually though. Listening to cds everyday (which I look forward to) really made the thoughts go deeper into my sub conscious but still accessible.<br><br>
Envisioning is awesome. I have a history of short births - about 2 hrs. But w/#3 I consistently envisioned a 6 hr. peaceful birth and that's exactly what I got!</div>
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I have to second the thumbs up for Hypnobabies. Even if it doesn't do much during labor (though I'm expecting it to do quite a lot), just the positive feelings I've had this pregnancy are enough to make it totally worthwhile.<br><br>
My previous births were in a hospital with epidurals, pitocin, etc. Uncomplicated births, though, and I have no complaints about them. But now we're planning a homebirth and I was totally freaking out about the pain of NCB until I started doing Hypnobabies. I'm excited now and can't wait to give birth! I just have this positive, peaceful anticipation that is separate from wanting to meet the baby or wanting to be done with pregnancy.. I'm actually looking forward to laboring at home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I also read lots of birth stories and visualize the birth I want once or twice a week. I'm also researching other methods of coping with the pain just in case (I always feel better, more confident and secure, if I've researched everything thoroughly).
 

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I have to agree with reading lots of positive birth stories- I found mine in Ina May's Guide to Childbirth. I also did a lot of relaxation practice. I had a very uncomfortable pregnancy and used my relaxation techniques to cope with pain during pregnancy as practice for childbirth. I also began spending time relaxing in the room I was going to birth in and I smudged the whole house with sage.
 

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Lots of meditation, relaxation, focusing on positive birth stories, and kept myself away from negative comments and suggestions. I also colored a birth mandala which I focused on in the early stages of labor. Most importantly believing my body could do it!!
 
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