I find myself in an ironic situation. When reluctantly enrolling ds in preschool, I was careful to seek one out that was non-punitive. I didn't want him in an atmosphere of time outs or anything else like that.
Well, I am worried now that his teachers are too lax about hitting/pushing. For instance, I was there the other day picking him up. One of the teachers was standing next to me, I turned to talk to her, and all of a sudden heard ds start crying. I turned around, and he told me that the other kid who just walked by (known for being aggressive) had pushed him. The teacher asked the kid, the kid admitted it, and the teacher said "make sure to go check on him" and then went back to what she was doing. There was no talking about how that was unacceptable, wrong, or anything else. And I have witnessed things like this before. I feel like ds is left with the impression that what the kid did was not big deal.
I mean, I have also seen them sometimes address the situation appropriately, but I feel like overall they are not 'strict' enough about no hitting or pushing. I understand this is considered normal behavior, but we have a zero tolerance in our house for this kind of thing. Ds has never been one to hit or push, and now he is starting to do it. And by the things he is doing, I can tell he is mimicking some of the other kids in his class.
I'm thinking about talking with the teachers after winter break, but what do I say exactly? That I want them to take hitting/pushing more seriously? Am I just being oversensitive?
