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<p>This is a private matter, so I felt it would be better to post here! My dh has had all sorts of emotional/mental/behavoiral problems since he was little and the whole time I have known him (almost 10 years). Violent anger, out of control, mulitiple personalities, unforgiving, resentment, jealousy, depression etc etc! Well after him being on TONS of meds and trying counseling without success I FINALLY got him to take some flower essences. I had to make his dosage for him and put it out, make sure he had it 4 times a day, etc. No big deal, I could handle that.</p>
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<p>Well, he got better, way better. It took him a long time before he would finally kind of admit that they were actually helping him. Well now that it has been 8 months of him on and off of them I know he is pretty convinced they work, even though he will not always admit it.</p>
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<p>The problem I am having is he still will not take it consistently! I will still make it for him and put it on the counter but he says he forgets and gets to busy (and then doesn't take it) and then he will explode, spiral down, or just act irrational. Regardless, when he takes it, he is fine! When he doesn't, he has these problems!! And it affects everyone in our house.</p>
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<p>So, I am desperately trying to decide what I can do. He's told me I can give it to him unknowingly (so now I stick it in his drink, regardless if he sees me) and he will get it that way. But isn't there something to be said about him taking some sort of responsibility in this? Why does it all have to be on me?? Or is this just a guy thing, he wants to be taken care of and he's just being stubborn?</p>
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<p>I know I am probably all over the place here, but I would appreciate any help!</p>
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<p>I'm coming from a standpoint of A) Having a DH with chronic health issues and a disability and B) Having suffered from mental illness since I was a child.</p>
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<p>Taking any kind of medication (natural or otherwise) can be really difficult for some people-especially if they are in any sort of denial about their illness, or if they are ashamed/feel guilty about their illness.  This could be where your DH is at.  That being said-I don't think sneaking it into his beverages is the best option, because for the good of you all he needs to accept he has an illness. </p>
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<p>It took me the better part of my teens and twenties to accept that I have a mental illness.  In fact it wasn't until I became pregnant with my first son that I really came to grips with it and delt with my feelings of inadequicies surrounding my diagnosis.  And it wasn't until I did that I was able to stay on medication and in therapy. </p>
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<p>I don't have any advice on how you can help him learn to accept it, everyone is different.  The one thing I can say is that you should be a possitive force in his life, never shaming him for his illness, and reinforcing the idea that you love him unconditionally.  I know how hard that is when he's out of control, but it's the most important thing you can do for him. </p>
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<p>Also, if you are up for it, try finding a NAMI chapter in your area.  They have support groups for family members of the mentally ill. </p>
 
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