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It has been a hard road with my ex and his new wife. It has been nothing but trouble since he met her, and I didn't find out about everything until late summer of 2006.<br><br>
There is a long story behind all of this, but I want to get to the roughest part.<br><br>
I found out (2006) that I'd been stalked online by them (primarily her, but I do believe he was fully involved in it also). I found this out, by her writing me on instant messenger telling me that she gave out my email addresses to this girl on a board somewhere (she told me where). I found the board, and her post, and she had given out two of my email addresses in a public place, I did not care for this, and told her so. She said she should have asked me first, but she did not go and remove it herself, I later had it removed though. (I think she did it on purpose, but whatever.)<br><br>
From that post, I clicked on her username, and it took me to her journal. There I found loads of crud about me and my entire family, including the kids. Within that journal was links to her old journals, there was some really scary stuff (lots of disturbing things) in them, all of them. What got me the most was endangering children... She had put pictures of her private parts up there (showing off the piercings) under her journal with her username which are her first and last names... also within that same journal she talked about my kids, when they were over, etc, and that she's married to their father (duh she was using her married last name on her journal!), all the while giving out everyone's real names... She also said which town she lived in, her phone number, and even down to which stores she shops at and when. To me this all was very scary, and I was truly concerned about my children. My ex and myself talked it over and decided it was best that they do not go over there or be around her at all. He even went so far as to pretend he truly cared what she had done, and act to all of us, upset with her. He even told our kids together, in the living room of my mom's house that he was going to take care of it, and divorce her so that they could come stay with him again.<br><br>
That was a year and a half or so ago, and the kids ask him repeatedly to this day when he's going to divorce her. I told them that he would not divorce her and to not look forward to it, but they are truly hurt by everything that transpired (mind you I'm leaving a lot of it out that I don't want to write about just yet, its just too much all the trouble we've had with that "woman")<br><br>
He told them the other day when the youngest one asked when he was going to leave her, and he told them it was "up to (his wifes name) when they split up." Meaning, just like we thought, he never intended to leave her (he's afraid of being alone and also going without sexual relations)and he's just pushing, once again any and all blame on her. I don't think she realizes he does this, but we do. He doesn't ever seem to want to take responsibility for upsetting anyone and looking like the bad guy so he blames everyone else. He's been like this since I've known him and that's been a long time now. I was best friends with his cousin for years before I got with him, and so I knew all about him... don't know why I didn't run to tell ya the truth! LOL, being with him was the dumbest thing I've ever done in my life. And truthfully I think he really belongs with the "woman" he's playing marriage and house with now! They are a sickeningly perfect pair, two peas in a pod.. Both have all the same disorders if you ask me.<br><br>
Anyhow, one of our children together is really taking all of this stuff hard, and has resorted to hiding out under her bed when she finds out he's on his way over. She's crying a lot, and is having trouble in school again. Yet, her "dads" wife, continues to talk about this 8 year old child as though she knows her and what the truth is... However, his wife, is not allowed to be around my children, and has never known ANY OF MY KIDS well enough to say what she "thinks" they are doing. She's defaming a 8 year old little girl who's dad doesn't seem to love her at all. This is a very hurt child, and has always been treated like the odd duck when it came to my ex. How dare that "woman" even presume to know anything about what those kids are feeling/thinking/going through when she's not even allowed to communicate with them at all? Does she really think she can rely on what my ex says in regards to the kids? Of course he's going to make it sound like the rest of us are planting ideas (lies) in their heads, that's what he does. He never can take the blame for hurting anyone, etc.<br><br>
I'm sick and tired of the crap this "woman" pulls (well and my ex too, obviously). She has been told repeatedly to lay off, and leave us all alone and to shut up in regards to all of us, however, she continues her "malarky" all over the ..... internet.<br><br>
She even said since she knows all the kids names she's going to stalk them for the rest of their lives; and you know what? I believe her. I believe her because she continues to stalk me.. why does she stalk me? I have no genuine answer about that from her... I just know what I think, and I think she's jealous of me, ticked that I was with her husband before she was, that I have kids with him, and that I put my foot down, and she's a self admitted control freak.<br><br>
She copies a lot of what I do, online and in real life. It is truly pathetic that she feels the need to continue doing this. I don't want her husband, I haven't wanted him in a long time, hence why I left his butt, hence why I haven't gotten back together with him. And he doesn't seem to care about our kids, so why on earth would I want him?? If something is upsetting them regarding his actions or lack thereof, he gets upset at them and then she runs online and starts talking about inoccent children!! If he cared about his kids, none of that would transpire, he would make sure his kids were as happy and healthy as they could be, but he gets his feelings hurt because they don't understand him and why he's doing what he does, and so he takes it out on kids... they're kids!! They didn't ask for any of the crap that has happened to them.<br><br>
I'm tired of her lies, her backstabbing ways... I'm tired of being lied about on the interenet, and in public (yeah I've had reactions from a couple of people in town too) I'm tired of everything I say and do being watched, and I've had enough already.<br><br>
This is one ticked off mama, and I guess everything is about to come to a head again.. much to my dismay... but I refuse to sit quietly on the sidelines and let this "woman" think she can do whatever she wants when she wants to when it comes to my family. She's been warned before, in regards to legal action being taken, does she think we have forgotten or given up so easily??? Does she think she's got me/us fooled??<br><br>
I'm so angry I can't see straight right now. Sorry if this comes out as rambling and unfocused, but I'm so worried about my kids its not funny...<br><br>
If you read this through, thanks.
 

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Wow.<br><br>
No advice as I've never had to deal with anything like this. But I did want to offer a voice of support and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Wow!<br><br>
Let me see if I got this right: Your ex's wife has an online journal with nude pix and real names and real stories about your real children. And your ex admits she's a bit nutty, and so uses her as his excuse not to see the kids? "I'd love to see you, but my wife doesn't want to divorce me yet." ???<br><br>
I have no idea what to tell you, just a general ick.
 

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My ex's wife does the same stuff to me. Only, she also tape records mine and ds' conversations on the phone, she video taped me riding by my exes work(my dh worked over that way and I was taking him lunch) she is crazy and I am also sick of the lies. She told people I had an abortion. She tells everyone I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Anyway, I dont have any solutions as she stalks ds when he is over here visiting, follows him around, etc. I wish I knew what to do.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow!<br><br>
Let me see if I got this right: Your ex's wife has an online journal with nude pix and real names and real stories about your real children. And your ex admits she's a bit nutty, and so uses her as his excuse not to see the kids? "I'd love to see you, but my wife doesn't want to divorce me yet." ???<br><br>
I have no idea what to tell you, just a general ick.</div>
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Well you have it mostly right. He does see the kids, he does use her as his excuse as to getting the divorce from her that he did in fact promise the kids he would do. He originally said that he would divorce her so that they could come stay the night at his house again, because right now he comes over for visits, and sometimes takes them fishing, etc. But basically you have it right, yes. He's saying now that its up to her when they divorce, because he's aggitated that they aren't letting it rest yet.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My ex's wife does the same stuff to me. Only, she also tape records mine and ds' conversations on the phone, she video taped me riding by my exes work(my dh worked over that way and I was taking him lunch) she is crazy and I am also sick of the lies. She told people I had an abortion. She tells everyone I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Anyway, I dont have any solutions as she stalks ds when he is over here visiting, follows him around, etc. I wish I knew what to do.</div>
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Wow... I can't believe someone else is going through pretty much the same bloomin thing!! I'm really sorry that this is happening to you too. I can't believe all the crazies that are roaming freely out there... *shudder*<br><br>
hugs, I'm sorry you're going through this, no one should.
 

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Take legal action immediately. Get a restraining order that stops her from posting anything on line about you, your children or the past that you had with your ex. Sue her if you have to, but get that restraining order. You might even be able to get one that stops her from even speaking ill about you or the children to a third party.Print out all the posts, pictures and anything else that shows her true colors. Keep them for your lawyer as she may delete them if she feels threatened. Don't hesitate to go after her legally. I have a similiar thing going on with an exboyfriend who is defaming me on line.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Take legal action immediately. Get a restraining order that stops her from posting anything on line about you, your children or the past that you had with your ex. Sue her if you have to, but get that restraining order. You might even be able to get one that stops her from even speaking ill about you or the children to a third party.Print out all the posts, pictures and anything else that shows her true colors. Keep them for your lawyer as she may delete them if she feels threatened. Don't hesitate to go after her legally. I have a similiar thing going on with an exboyfriend who is defaming me on line.</div>
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I was thinking the same thing!<br>
Bless your heart,I would be infuriated!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
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