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For those of you who have read it, it helped me yesterday evening.
After dinner, my family and I went to the carpet store for a new runner for our steps. I had ds in the sling and my 4 year old dd was playing while my DH placed the order.
There were some foam letter puzzle tiles that dd was playing with on the floor. I was standing right next to her. A sales associate came over and asked if we were being helped. I told him we were. Then he said hi to dd, who kept playing. He gave her a couple more tiles to play with and showed her how they go together then left. Innocent enough, right? Right.
Then he comes back again, says something about her knowing her letters and doing a good job w/the puzzles tiles . She's done playing now and we leave that area.
A little while later, we're in a different section of the store where there is a roll of carpet on the floor. DD is walking on it, pretending it's a log. He goes to the other side of the "log" and does tickly fingers and says, "I'm gonna get you." I didn't like it and I said, "Okay, that's enough logging, DD."
Then he starts playing peekaboo w/her between rolls of vinyl flooring. She starts laughing and getting distracted and I call her again. When he hears her name again, he says, "Is your name DD? That's a nice name." She comes over to me and I take her hand. We're walking away and he says to the baby, "Hi little guy. He's so cute. I have grandchildren, etc. "
As we're walking over to the counter, he asks DD if she wants to watch a movie. I said, "No thanks." What does he do? He goes over to the children's area and puts Shrek on and asks her, "Do you like Shrek? Did you see Shrek 3? You can sit down and watch." So I said, "No thank you. She can't watch the movie," a little more assertively. Then I told my husband we'd be next door at the craft store and we left.
We were in the store for about 30 minutes and the whole thing just made me feel really uncomfortable. It could have been an innocent exchange and if I hadn't read the book, I think I would have seen it as such or just chalked it up to a "weird feeling." However, the way he made a point to say her name and address her, ignore my requests, and be so pushy when it came to the movie reminded me of the signs in the book.
He could have really been a grandfather who likes being around children, but I felt that he was playing me, especially the way he tried to "reel me back in" by saying that he had grandchildren. It seemed like that was his way of saying, "I see that I'm scaring you so now I'm going to say something that lets you know that I'm really not a bad guy."
I don't know. I could be wrong, but my instinct and what I read in the book made me feel very uncomfortable and I hightailed it.
Have you ever had a situation like that?
After dinner, my family and I went to the carpet store for a new runner for our steps. I had ds in the sling and my 4 year old dd was playing while my DH placed the order.
There were some foam letter puzzle tiles that dd was playing with on the floor. I was standing right next to her. A sales associate came over and asked if we were being helped. I told him we were. Then he said hi to dd, who kept playing. He gave her a couple more tiles to play with and showed her how they go together then left. Innocent enough, right? Right.
Then he comes back again, says something about her knowing her letters and doing a good job w/the puzzles tiles . She's done playing now and we leave that area.
A little while later, we're in a different section of the store where there is a roll of carpet on the floor. DD is walking on it, pretending it's a log. He goes to the other side of the "log" and does tickly fingers and says, "I'm gonna get you." I didn't like it and I said, "Okay, that's enough logging, DD."
Then he starts playing peekaboo w/her between rolls of vinyl flooring. She starts laughing and getting distracted and I call her again. When he hears her name again, he says, "Is your name DD? That's a nice name." She comes over to me and I take her hand. We're walking away and he says to the baby, "Hi little guy. He's so cute. I have grandchildren, etc. "
As we're walking over to the counter, he asks DD if she wants to watch a movie. I said, "No thanks." What does he do? He goes over to the children's area and puts Shrek on and asks her, "Do you like Shrek? Did you see Shrek 3? You can sit down and watch." So I said, "No thank you. She can't watch the movie," a little more assertively. Then I told my husband we'd be next door at the craft store and we left.
We were in the store for about 30 minutes and the whole thing just made me feel really uncomfortable. It could have been an innocent exchange and if I hadn't read the book, I think I would have seen it as such or just chalked it up to a "weird feeling." However, the way he made a point to say her name and address her, ignore my requests, and be so pushy when it came to the movie reminded me of the signs in the book.
He could have really been a grandfather who likes being around children, but I felt that he was playing me, especially the way he tried to "reel me back in" by saying that he had grandchildren. It seemed like that was his way of saying, "I see that I'm scaring you so now I'm going to say something that lets you know that I'm really not a bad guy."
I don't know. I could be wrong, but my instinct and what I read in the book made me feel very uncomfortable and I hightailed it.
Have you ever had a situation like that?
