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I wish I had some sort of controversial title for this thread, so people would read and respond, but, alas, I do not. Hopefully *someone* will have some experience with this.<br>
We're trying to choose a donor, and I am very much hung up on the fact that most of the potential candidates have 0% success rate. Who knows what this means - they could have not been used before, or there could be unreported pregnancies, or, they could just not have very fertile sperm. Who knows! So, did previous pregnancies through your donor make a difference when you were choosing? Should it, do you think? Did you have success with "unproven" sperm?<br>
Any info appreciated.<br>
Thanks.<br>
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Katia, that sounds frustrating. What does the clinic say about it? Sory I have nothing helpfull to say. If you had any IUI questions I could help you there!<br>
I wish you only the best!
 

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It didn't make a difference to me. We picked a donor based on him being an "open identity" donor with an adult photo and a baby picture. He had a great essay and didn't lie saying he was doing it "to help a family". BS! They do it for the $ and this guy said he was doing it to help his way through college. His essay was funny and he just looked like somebody I would have hung out with and called a friend. We did 6 IVF cycles with his sperm and we made beautiful embryo's, but alas, never had a live birth. We went on to adopt 3 beautiful children over the last 3 years. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Good luck deciding! We had a lot of fun with it.
 

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Whether or not the donor had successful pregnancies was pretty important for me. I want to know that it really works. However we did 5 cycles with three different donors (IUI) and didn't have any luck anyhow. Now we have chosen a new donor who, get this, has over 60 offspring that are known. Not everyone would like to see numbers that high, but for me I think it's great. No doubt that it works anyhow.<br><br>
But you are right that a lot of pregnancies are not reported so just because there isn't any listed now doesn't mean that there haven't been any yet. Sometimes women wait until well after the birth of their child if they even report it at all.<br><br>
I think if you are using a good clinic that does their testing it should be okay either way. Good luck!!<br><br>
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my heart goes out to you!<br><br>
does the clinic give you a semen analysis on the sperm or anything? i have no idea how it works, but it seems like they should have SOME information for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">my heart goes out to you!<br><br>
does the clinic give you a semen analysis on the sperm or anything? i have no idea how it works, but it seems like they should have SOME information for you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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I totally second that - they ie men with suspected fertility issues a sperm analysis - I can't see why they wouldn't be able to do the same thing with the donor sperm, and at least you would be sure that they all know how to wiggle in the same direction and have no obvious defects....<br><br>
But then, I could be missing some sublties....
 

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Our clinic does a SA for every "batch" from a donor, but they only give your that information *after* you buy the sperm. So, you know what's going in to you, but you can't factor SA numbers into your decision. Maybe there's a way around that, but I haven't found it yet.<br>
We picked someone with proven pregnancies. In the end I realized that it really did matter to me. "Our" donor has "proven pregnancies", but they don't tell you how many unless you wind up with a live birth. They do limit each donor to 20 "pregnancies", which really means 20 families. So, that could cnceivably be 60 children, as mentioned in one of the pps.<br>
We're doing the deed in about 14 days, with the only remaining vial of sperm from our chosen donor. So, cross your fingers that it actually works!<br>
Katia
 
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