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I don't get this at all...<br><br>
I'm very physically affectionate with my dd, who is almost 5. She and I are always "loving each other up" - lots of hugging and kissing and nuzzling noses and so on.<br><br>
People look at us so strangely when we do this in public! Really! Like we're doing something wrong. What's the matter with people??? I bet if I was yelling at her no one would blink an eye...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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Oh, didn't you know? You're not allowed to show affection for a child who is able to walk on her own in public. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: With boys, it happens even earlier. My son is only 10 months old, and I already get funny looks for giving him hugs and kisses. He's a baby, for crying out loud!
 

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Come live in Hawaii. People are very affectionate with kids here. My Dh and I are both like that with our 3y/o DD and all we get are sweet smiles of understanding.
 

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I, too get funny looks for kissing and hugging my 10 month old DS. Come to think of it, I don't see many parents showing affection to their children around here. I think it is sad. I just hope my ds will still cuddle with his mom when he's 5.
 

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My 2.5yo ds not only loves to kiss on the mouth, but he loves to shake his head back and forth while doing it to give you a big ole smooch. I have gotten some weird looks when he gives me this kiss in the grocery store. They have no idea what they're missing. In 10 years I'll have to beg the kid for a kiss!
 

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Why? Because children are an inconvience, to be seen not heard, spoken only when spoken to. That's why. Duh<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: My ds and I are always holding hands(because he wants to, not to keep him close), kissing, hugging....whatever. We are a very affectionate family!
 

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I knew the mamas here would all understand how sad this makes me! You're all right - people just don't touch their kids enough, at least not that I can see. I mean, look at how it starts in babyhood with all the equipment meant to hold your baby for you...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
The saddest thing I saw recently was a mom at the beach with her three kids. She was sitting in a sand chair reading a book, and her daughter, maybe about ten or eleven, was lying on the blanket near her and her arm was touching mom's foot. Mom said, "Ashley, move your ARM," in the most irritated sounding voice, and accompanied that with a shove of her foot. The mom was pretty much saying, "ewwww, don't touch me," to the kid. What is wrong with people?
 

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I don't know, maybe a bad child hood. People tell me all the time I need to stop that with my son or I'll make him a sissy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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Ds who is 2.5 and I have this ritual at the park we always do. They have these talking tubes at each end of the park, I speak in one while ds listens at the other end. At some point I say"Joey where are you" he always turns around and says "here I am momma run to me" We then do this big production and run towards each other and I pick him up swing him around and he smooches all over me and just giggles away. Okay it is in the middle of the playground so maybe we are a spectical but everytime some mom or group of moms gives us this look like we walked out of some side show. I love it! and know that my ds loves it and it would break his little heart if I did not go along with it. I never let where I am at affect how much love I show my kids and it really boogles my mind that people would let being in public affect how there kids show their love for them
 
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