[BelgianSheepDog]

Is there any circumstance under which you would inform a client that you resented having to spend money on gas to travel to her, and that you felt she wasn't as enthusiastic to see you as she ought to have been?

Let's throw in the variables that this client has not been "needy" just an average client who had some complications come up, entirely beyond her control. And that she's paid up and has been receptive to your treatment suggestions, ie, not a "troublemaker."

This has hypothetically been bugging...a friend of mine...since she had some problems come up in her pregnancy at 37 weeks and her midwife seemed to get mad at her for it.

 

[zoe398]

Yikes! I couldn't even imagine resenting someone for circumstances beyond their control. In addition, if the gas money is an issue, that should have been discussed long ago. I paid my midwife more money for traveling to my home. She was 2 hours away, so any birth she did here, she asked for extra money (rightfully so!). And that was way before gas was $3/gallon. Anyway, it's a bad vibe to put out there at this time so close to birth. Really, IMO, anytime.

s to your friend. She needs to get to the "root" of the problem with her midwife and clear the air before she labors.

 

[Hayes]

um, no, since that is the midwife's JOB. If she is being whiny or needy even, that is the midwife's job. I imagine it is tough, having been a doula I have limited understanding, but seriously!

 

[MamaTaraX]

I think I'd find myself a new midwife.

Namaste, Tara

 

[homebirthing]

The midwife should think about gas prices and include that in her fee.

 

[BelgianSheepDog]

Yeah, thanks for the feedback, everyone, it pretty much confirms my feelings on the matter. I couldn't imagine talking that way to anyone who was paying me money to do something for them, let alone a woman depending on me to support her during labor. Eesh.

 

[Maggi315]

If gas prices are a problem, she should just change her fee. I can't imagine having to worry about that when I get a call and have to go out for any little reason, that's the job, right? And I do sometimes go out in the middle of nowhere! Sounds like maybe the midwife needs a break or something if she's feeling that way.

 

[JeDeeLenae]

I say save your negative feelings for your diary or journal. Never should you make a client feel that they aren't worth your services. That is truly disturbing to me. Some people don't know how to be professional or think they should be on a friendship only level with clients. You need a good mix of both, so you can act appropriately in any situation.