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We had our u/s today. it's officail it's a girl. I had a feeling it would be. My DH is a little disappointed and shell shocked, at the thought of having 3 strong willed women in the house. But he'll get over it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
Has anyone ever heard of a "Push Prize" a little something (Jewlery, new car, vacation, etc.) for giving birth to a new baby. My doctor mentioned it when DH started talking about baby #3. Sounds like a close trade (not a fair trade) to me. i'm looking at a nice diamond tennis braclet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/drool.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="drool"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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hehe, yeah my aunt & uncle are into doing rather extravagant gifts for each other. She got a nice piece of jewelery during the week after each of their kids were born. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I heard about this for the first time at a doula meet up. Someone said it comes from the victorian era. Middle and upper class women would get a gift (usually jewelery) after the birth of a baby.
 

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It's very common around here. I find it a little ironic considering the c/s and epi rates but hey.<br><br>
My husband and I always joke about it now - with baby #5 I should be hooked up!<br><br>
Seriously, for me, the best gift is a good labour and delivery where I end up with my baby in my arms.<br><br>
But I guess it is to each individual couple to decide for themselves.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's very common around here. I find it a little ironic considering the c/s and epi rates but hey.</div>
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yeah, I must say I'm not a fan of the name (push prize). though I do think we ALL deserve prizes for surviving pregnancy & what ever kind of birth we have <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I've only heard it called a 'push present', which seems a little nicer to me. I'm not overly sentimental but I would really love to have something to wear later to mark the birth of our baby. I'm not against being appreciated for my hard work and effort. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I've dropped a few hints.
 

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I asked for flowers in the room where I'm laboring as my present for giving birth so that I could just gaze at them when I needed to calm down toward the end. That was a nice "push prize". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think my husband being there for me in the delivery room and being my support is a great "prize." I can't imagine having a baby without him there.<br><br>
But hey, anyone who wants to send me a serger or some yummy yarn is welcome to! Who needs a reason, right?
 

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the name cracks me up. it's like hmmm... dh isn't going to get me anything.... i think i'll just leave the baby inside and not push it out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I've never gotten one but me and dh aren't really much into giving gifts. We are going to get a family ring made up after this baby but that won't be for a little while.
 

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Isn't the baby the present?<br><br>
We've never done it and wouldn't. Then again diamonds aren't in our budget <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Congrats on your little girl! My DH will soon be outnumbered by 4 strong willed women. He claims he's looking forward to every bit of it.<br><br>
I hadn't heard of a push prize/present. Funny! Guess I'm really due this time! I have to agree that I really feel like the baby and the experience is the prize.<br><br>
I'm also a bit more practical than I was BC. (before children) I loved jewelry and things then, now it seems like another thing to worry about getting broken or lost. I feel like I don't really go many places worthy of wearing nice jewelry either.<br><br>
Once I didn't care, now I think of all the things I could have gotten or done with the $. I tend toward things I will use often or make life easier as gifts now. Most of the time they cost as much or more, but I use them daily. On the other hand, I do really like the idea of wearing something special to represent the experience, a symbol like my wedding band.
 

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I'm planning a tattoo when I am done having children. My brother and sister both have used stars in certain tattoos so I want to connect with them and I want to incorporate celtic knotwork to go along with my wedding band and my children's names.
 

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I teased DH about it when we were expecting #1. He'd never heard of it, but realized you don't *dare* disappoint the lady who's carrying your firstborn! It spiraled way past what I had intended, but he ended up buying me my heart's desire - a dishwasher!<br><br>
That's okay, I reciprocated by buying him a nice digital camera. I figured he worked *almost* as hard as I did during the birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don;t know... somethign about the whole concept bothers me.</div>
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Me too... I mean, it's cute, and I always appreciate gifts, but something about a large gift specifically for carrying a child seems to much like ... I don't know, payment. As if you've just been used as a vessel and now you get the reward. It feels a little too much like acknowledging that the DH has imposed upon a woman to produce him a child, and in return she gets jewelry. :/<br><br>
But as with any exchange of gifts, it really does come down to what it means to the donor and recipient. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'd just feel a little weird if my DH treated my pregnancy like a favor I'm doing him...<br><br>
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My DH thinks HE should get the present for putting up with me being pregnant and crazy for 9 months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I feel a happy and healthy baby is a prize enough. I am not opposed to a special gift to have to treasure the moment forever...but I will always have my child as my special treasure. I did already ask DH to bring me a huge Italian sub and sushi after I give birth...does that count as a push prize? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don;t know... somethign about the whole concept bothers me.</div>
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Same here. I guess what I have a problem with is the expectation for the gift I see in a lot of women in my area. When my friend was pregnant with her first baby she said to me "I heard babies bring jewelry" with that "did you hear me?" glance to her husband. It was very off putting to me. I've already let DH know that he better not show up with some fancy present, we have WAY better things to spend money on like, I don't know, our thousands of dollars of debt.......<br><br>
My DH supporting me through this pregnancy and always helping me with a happy heart, not making me feel any pressure to work after the babe is born is the greatest gift of all.
 
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